November 27, 2010 in Uncategorized
Saturday night at SEXPO.
It’s been a busy day, the talks were full, lots of questions, people steadily coming in the doors, the faces of people watching the DVD’s, the comments and questions, the noise from the strippers lounge sometimes overwhelming…
People come to ask questions from so many different places, as they come to the sexual journey for so many things.
Some come simply to learn a little more, a new technique, get some greater understanding about their bodies, their partner’s bodies. Some come to understand more of the connection between sex and spirit, the body and the hert, the possibiliies, the healing, the growth, the transcendance, higher states of consciousness.
Sex doesn’t happen in a vacuum.
It’s a refelection of what’s happening inside of us, in our relationships, lives and in our world. It’s linked to every aspect of our being, connected to every part of who we are.
So what comes out of today? Three things.
The first is how important it is to have a forum for open and non-judgemental discussion, a space to ask the questions, whatever they are, whatever they’re about, and get answers in a way that can be integrated into our lives.
The second is how important a framework is, a philosophy of sex, a place to put our experiences and practices is. This gives an understanding and a way to explore and grow.
The third is, and guys you have to take this on the chin, you’re not doing what you should, what’s wanted from you, what your partner’s want and need.
Making sure she comes first is good, it’s definitely better than not being concerned with her pleasure, but it’s only the first step.
Understanding a little of what women want, how they are, how they differ from men is SO important.
Here’s a quick clue before I go back to talking about orgasms and G-spots.
Women work from the heart. Then eveyrhing else happens.
We’ll talk more about that.