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MIDNIGHT ADDICTION

January 28, 2011 in Uncategorized

You are my midnight addiction

You are the craving that calls me through the night

You scratch the surface of my soul

Your fire burns into me

Deep

Scorching my heart

Enflaming the very essence of my being

And it grows, my desire for you

Fills me, body, heart and soul

Until there is no thought, no feeling

That is not you

Until, in the quiet of the night

The passion roars within me

And I must, I must feast on you

I must drink the nectar of your arousal

I must lap at the sacred spring

Till you spasm in ripples of pleasure

And the, then

Throbbing, engorged

I mount the sacred altar of your body

That has enslaved me

For in your moans and screams

In my growls and roars

On our sweat slick flesh

Through eyes that see only the truth of the secret self

Mouths that devour, kiss and bite

And taste the flavour of passion

Am I fulfilled, spent

Panting, gasping

The craving that has consumed me slowly abates

Leaves me on dawn’s peaceful beach

And I know, I know

That in the dark of night

You reach for me, summon me

My midnight addiction.

MEN’S GROUP

January 25, 2011 in Uncategorized

I had the honour of sharing with a group of men last night.

This is significant as it’s rare that a group of men will get together to talk about sexual issues, to share what’s happening, really happening in their lives and relationship, and even more, and amazingly, to talk about how they FEEL about it.

For many men, there is enormous fear about sex.

It’s that simple.

Ego takes over, more often as a defence than anything else.

And so often it’s the last, the very last thing, that we’ll admit to a problem about.

Or that we don’t know nearly as much as we claim or think.

We’ll go for financial adviced, sports advice, diy advice, sex and relationships…. different story.

Which is so sad.

And so many relationships can be ‘saved’ or assisted, helped from falling apart, with a little more vulnerability and willingness to do things diffferently.

This is the key, and one of my biggest soap-boxes.

Nobody teaches us how to be good lovers. And by this I include the physical skills, the emotional skills, communication skills etc, all the elements that make up a relationship.

So a lot of time how can you be expected to know these things.

And if we look at the role relationships we grew up with, well, as much as we might love our parents and families, there are a lot of times they didn’t get things right.

Before my parents finally got divorced, they lived in the same house without saying a word to each other for 6 months. 

I remember when I taught in Durban last year, the workshops were advertised, and there was a spate of responses along the lines of, ‘ I could teach him about sex’,  ‘what does he think he knows’…

And then I got a phone call from a guy who said that not one or two, but 3 lovers told him he knew nothing. Did he come and see me? No. 

It’s not about me.

It’s about how much pleasure you can have.

About how intimate your connection can be.

About how much love you can share.

One of the men told a joke last night.

A guy comes home, his wife is watching a cooking show on tv. He says, ‘what are you watching that for, you can’t cook’.

She replies. ‘you’re always watching porn and…’

It can be so different.

A typical male question is ‘what’s in it for me?’

It’s so simple, SO SIMPLE.

The more pleasure she has, the more sex you’ll have.

The more loved she feels, the more pleasure you’ll have.

NEWSLETTER

January 24, 2011 in Uncategorized

There is so much going on in the world of sacred sexuality, what an exciting time. There’s something for everybody on this beautiful journey.

 

KAYA FM

 

On the first Wed of each Month I’m going to be doing a show on aspects of sexuality on KAYA FM at 9 pm, 95.9.  The Free Tantra Talk has to move to Thurs 3rd Feb.

 

THE BEDROOM

 

On Friday, The Bedroom opened in Jo’burg, WOW!, what a store. 67 6th Ave, Parkhurst, Tel: 011 447 7678. There’s more on my blog, TantricTeacherAtLarge.

JOBURG WORKSHOPS

 

WED 26TH:  EXPANDED ORGASM

SAT 29TH:  TANTRIC SENSUAL AND EROTIC MASSAGE

WED 2ND FEB: A FREE TALK ON THE TANTRIC JOURNEY

SAT 5TH FEB: TAOIST SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE, 11 am

 

CAPE TOWN WORKSHOPS

 

I’m really excited to be back in Cape Town so soon.

The workshop venue will be confirmed soon.

There is a 10% discount for attending more than one workshop, 15% for the entire programme.

 

I will be available for private sessions and massage.

 

 

MON 21ST FEB: A FREE TALK

 

Jonti will share his story, how he came to the world of sexuality, what he does, as well as looking at sexuality and sensuality, sex positive learning, why learning about sex is important, the forthcoming workshops etc.

Time: 7 pm

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

TUES 22ND FEB: EXPANDED ORGASM

 

This amazing technique allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour, teaches men how to have orgasms without ejaculating, G-spot information…

This workshop will give you a totally different perspective on pleasure in a safe and gentle way. You’ll learn the principles of Expanded Orgasm and how to do this incredible technique for men, women and yourself.

The technique is demonstrated on latex models of the genitals.

You will also receive a copy of The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R350.

This workshop is for singles and couples.

 

Time: 7 pm, +- 3 hrs

Cost: R300/person

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

WED 23RD FEB: THE ART OF SEX

 

A fun and informative evening that travels the wonderful world of sex, including oral techniques for him and her, exciting new penetration techniques, toys, exploring fantasies, anal stimulation, multi-partner experiences, erotica, communication etc. This workshop gives you open, non-judgmental information on whatever aspect of sex you’d like you’d know about.

This workshop is for singles and couples.

 

Time: 7 pm, +- 3 hrs

Cost: R300/person

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

THURS 24TH FEB: CONSCIOUS SELF-PLEASURING

INCLUDING FEMALE EJACULATION

 

You are responsible for your own pleasure, and generally that’s about having an orgasm.

This workshop looks at the power of sexual energy, the connection between sexuality and creativity, building and using sexual energy in your body, self –pleasuring techniques to reach states of sexual meditation, higher states of consciousness, self-pleasuring with a partner, orgasmic energy for manifesting, energy orgasms and more.

The workshop includes the technique of female ejaculation.

This is for singles and couples.

 

 Time: 7 pm, +- 3 hrs

Cost: R300/person

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

SAT 25TH FEB: TANTRIC SENSUAL AND EROTIC MASSAGE

 

Step into the exciting world of Tantric Sensual Massage. This is a journey that offers pleasure possibilities that can take you to higher levels of consciousness and deep intimacy and connection with your partner and so much more…

This is a practical day for couples.

The Massage includes: Energy Connection and Massage, Bliss Body Massage, Heart Touch, Full Body Sensual Massage, Building the Sexual Fire, Yoni/Lingam Massage and more…

 

Time: 10:00am

Cost: R1800/couple

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

MON 27TH FEB: TAOIST SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE

 

Time: 6 pm

Cost: R1800/couple

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

 

I WISH YOU SO MUCH PLEASURE, SO MUCH FUN!

TAOIST SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE

January 24, 2011 in Uncategorized

Taoist sexual Energy Massage is one of the most beautiful experiences in the field of sexual bodywork.

 

The massage is based on ancient Taoist principles meridian energy flow.

The Taoist view of health is based on 5 Elements, Fire, Earth, Metal, Water and Wood.

Everything in the world, including us, is made up of these elements.

Every organ, gland, muscle, emotion, every aspect of who we are fits into this.

All illness, pain, disease, emotional issues are a result of an imbalance or blockage in this system. There is too little or too much energy somewhere, or it’s not flowing as it should.

 

The body is where we’re most able to see what the blockages are, and also, therefore, the possibilities and ways of correcting the imbalances.

 

Taoist Sexual Energy Massage rebalances the entire energy system, making it an incredibly powerful healing tool.

Because Taoist massage works with the whole body, clearing and releasing blockages in all the meridians, it’s able to heal so much more than sexual problems.

 

The power of the massage comes from using sexual energy, the most powerful energy we have, which is the life force, the force of creation, to balance the body and being.

Working  with energy allows us to touch both the body and emotions.

The process of a Taoist Massage is clearing blockages in the energy channels, then building this energy up in stages.  

Taoist Massage is not about orgasm.

The power is in building the energy, then keeping it in the body by spreading it throughout the body, then it’s able to be used for healing, creativity, intimacy…

 

There is an understanding in many cultures that understand the power of sexual energy that it can be used for so much more than just sex, that in the energy of pleasure is great power.

 

Taoist massage combines deep relaxation, the building and movement of energy into an expression of the spirituality of sex.

 

One of the principles of Taoist health is just that, health.

This is maintained through keeping energy in balance rather than waiting for something to go out of balance.

Using the energy of pleasure to do this makes it a beautiful and powerful experience that touches many aspects of the being deeply.

Regular Taoist Massage, as part of any health regime, does so many things for health on physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels.

 

The benefits of doing the massage also have deep impact.

Besides the healing, it’s a peak experience on the sexual journey. Performing the massage is akin to a sexual meditation.

Taoist Massage is incredibly intimate because of the energy it uses and allows you to experience.

Learning to do this massage is an act of love, of sharing something deep and connecting.

The closeness and union you experience afterwards is profound.

 

Taoist Sexual Energy Massage is a sacred expression of the highest of our sexuality and sensuality.  

 

TAOIST SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE WORKSHOP

 

The format of a Taoist Massage workshop: we talk for about an hour about the principles of the 5 Elements, creating the space, the experience of the massage, what happens afterwards etc.

Then it’s time to experience this amazing treat.

Taoist Massage follows a very specific technique, I’m in the middle of the room massaging somebody, you watch and do at the same time.

We have a break, allow the person being massaged to come back to consciousness, then swap over, so you give and receive a full massage.

Then you float home.

The workshop is +- 4 hrs long.

 

I’m adding a Taoist Massage workshop to the programme in Jo’burg and Cape Town

THE BEDROOM

January 24, 2011 in Uncategorized

On Friday evening I went to the opening of The Bedroom in Joburg.

WOW! WOW! WOW!

This is the benchmark for a sensual store in the country.

Whether you buy something or not, and it’s going to be really difficult to walk out without taking something home, going there is an experience.

The sensuality, the attention to detail is fantastic.

The range of products is great, particularly the quality of toys.

There is a general rule in terms of sex toys, you get what you pay for. Spending a little more becomes so worthwhile for quality, performance, duration etc.

What makes this so special is the understanding of sensuality, of intimacy, of how important knowing about sex is, and a willingness to make the philosophy real, to share it in a way we can all get it, understand it and enjoy it.

My wishes for such success, fun and pleasure to Chantal, Hilda, Shana and Alexa!

The Bedroom is at 67 6th St, Parkhurst, tel: 011 447 7678, www.thebedroom.co.za.

A DAY IN THE LIFE

January 21, 2011 in Uncategorized

What a sensual day, it’s cloudy, there’s a breeze that’s cold enough to feel the temperature difference on my skin when it blows, a feeling that makes me smile with awareness of my body, and in the next breath a few seconds of sun to appreciate something different.

Sharing a few thoughts with you.

Sharing a few thoughts with a Sunday Times journalist doing an article about sex in the Indian community.

A cappuccino, a chocolate croissant, one of the most perfect sensual combinations that exist.

An afternoon of teaching Tantric Sensual Massage, immersed in the beauty and power of touch.

The opening of The Bedroom in Jo’burg tonight.

There is so much in life that’s difficult, tragic, sad, filled with struggle and hardship, disappointment and loss, pain and tears.

Amidst all this, today, for a moment, stop, take a breath, reach out to somebody with a smile or a touch, savour a taste, a smell, let a sound resonate somewhere inside you, say something from your heart, look at the beauty of the world, a person.

Take a moment to be sensual, to be human.

To be beautiful.  

CREATING THE SPACE

January 20, 2011 in Uncategorized

I SO enjoyed the radio show last night, I’m going to be doing a show each month on Kaya FM, probably the first Wed of each month.

One of the things we talked about was what I call Creating The Space.

It’s one of the first things I teach people. It’s such a simple thing in many ways, and in other’s, it’s so profound and so important.

The Tantric experiences, whatever they are, whether it’s about healing or growth or pleasure, happen in a space that you create for the experience.

A special space, something different, allows for a different experience. If the space is no different, why should whatever you do there be different? Why should the result, the feeling, the emotion, the connection be different?

This is the first thing that makes the sharing conscious. You create the space for a purpose, you know what that is, what you’re going to be doing.

This separates the time from everything else.

When you do this, beyond the space itself, what you’re saying to your lover is that we are important, we matter, our pleasure, our love, our intimacy, you matter to me.

This means that I’m here with you, present.

I see you, I acknowledge you.

I’m not anywhere else.

Which is so different from many sexual encounters, you go in and out of your head, into a fantasy, back to the reality, think about so many things.

And when we’re really, when we know, because we feel it, acknowledged, we’re honoured, we feel loved.

And for a moment we lose the world, this momsnt, you and I is all there is.

In love, in pleasure, in union.

RADIO INTERVIEW

January 19, 2011 in Uncategorized

What a cool opportunity to share with so many people, I’m doing an interview on Tantra at 9 tonight on Kaya FM, I don’t know what frequency the radio station is, but Tantra is the frequency of pleasure.

CAPE TOWN WORKSHOPS

January 17, 2011 in Uncategorized

I’m really excited to be back in Cape Town so soon.

The workshop venue will be confirmed soon.

There is a 10% discount for attending more than one workshop, 15% for the enire programme.

 

I will be available for private sessions and massage.

 

 

MON 21ST FEB: A FREE TALK

 

Jonti will share his story, how he came to the world of sexuality, what he does, as well as looking at sexuality and sensuality, sex positive learning, why learning about sex is important, the forthcoming workshops etc.

Time: 7 pm

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

TUES 22ND FEB: EXPANDED ORGASM

 

This amazing technique allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour, teaches men how to have orgasms without ejaculating, G-spot information…

This workshop will give you a totally different perspective on pleasure in a safe and gentle way. You’ll learn the principles of Expanded Orgasm and how to do this incredible technique for men, women and yourself.

The technique is demonstrated on latex models of the genitals.

You will also receive a copy of The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R350.

This workshop is for singles and couples.

 

Time: 7 pm, +- 3 hrs

Cost: R300/person

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

WED 23RD FEB: THE ART OF SEX

 

A fun and informative evening that travels the wonderful world of sex, including oral techniques for him and her, exciting new penetration techniques, toys, exploring fantasies, anal stimulation, multi-partner experiences, erotica, communication etc. This workshop gives you open, non-judgmental information on whatever aspect of sex you’d like you’d know about.

This workshop is for singles and couples.

 

Time: 7 pm, +- 3 hrs

Cost: R300/person

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

THURS 24TH FEB: CONSCIOUS SELF-PLEASURING

INCLUDING FEMALE EJACULATION

 

You are responsible for your own pleasure, and generally that’s about having an orgasm.

This workshop looks at the power of sexual energy, the connection between sexuality and creativity, building and using sexual energy in your body, self –pleasuring techniques to reach states of sexual meditation, higher states of consciousness, self-pleasuring with a partner, orgasmic energy for manifesting, energy orgasms and more.

The workshop includes the technique of female ejaculation.

This is for singles and couples.

 

 Time: 7 pm, +- 3 hrs

Cost: R300/person

Venue: To be Confirmed

 

SAT 25TH FEB: TANTRIC SENSUAL AND EROTIC MASSAGE

 

Step into the exciting world of Tantric Sensual Massage. This is a journey that offers pleasure possibilities that can take you to higher levels of consciousness and deep intimacy and connection with your partner and so much more…

This is a practical day for couples.

The Massage includes: Energy Connection and Massage, Bliss Body Massage, Heart Touch, Full Body Sensual Massage, Building the Sexual Fire, Yoni/Lingam Massage and more…

 

Time: 10:00am

Cost: R1800/couple

Venue: To be Confirmed

SEXUAL BODYWORK1

January 17, 2011 in Uncategorized

This is the first in a series of articles exploring aspects of sexual bodywork.

 

Why is bodywork so important in sexual healing and growth?

 

When we’re looking at sexual problems we have to include the body. You can talk about some issues for ever. Some things may change. But often not enough to make the difference we’d like.

Because the issues are body issues.

And when we look with consciousness at the issues, we look holistically.

And nothing expresses the issues and problems like the body.

The body is the mirror reflecting what’s happening inside and also the doorway in to make the changes, to heal, to release.

The body is the interface where every aspect of our being meets and becomes manifest.

We identify with our body more than anything else, it’s the most definite expression of who we are.

 

The body holds the truth.

The truth is in feelings, not thoughts.

As much as your mind is your best friend it’s also your worst enemy.

Your mind can convince you of anything, make anything ok, explain anything, find or create a reason for anything, rationalize anything.

But the feeling are real.

Every emotion has a physical manifestation.

When you’re anxious or nervous, you feel it in your stomach.

When you feel love, you can say exactly where you feel it. The same with fear, anger, joy, arousal…

 

Here’s how I understand the body.

We are a system of energy.

All energy has a frequency.

Energy needs to move, to flow.

Every sound, every colour has a frequency.

Every organ in the body has a range of optimal functioning, above or below that is unhealthy.

Every emotion has a frequency.

Everything that happens to us has an emotional and energetic impact on us, the beliefs we hold, the experiences of life, what we think etc.

 

Energy needs to flow.

When it’s not flowing we have a problem.

There’s a beautiful Taoist concept, the way of the watercourse.

When the water flows everything in the system and what it’s connected to, works.

When it gets blocked it becomes full of pollution and dirt. The system doesn’t work anymore.

So it is with energy in our bodies.

 

The negative beliefs, limitations, inhibitions, fears, insecurities, anxieties, comparisons, judgments and bad experiences we have cause the energy to become sluggish, to stop flowing.

And the manifestation is this are the problems and issues that prevent us experiencing and enjoying the fullness of love and pleasure.

 

Sexual bodywork helps release these blockages, allows the energy to flow, to move.

Then we can include other aspects of healing and growth.

But if we leave the body out, we’re doing less than half a job.

 

The body shows us where the blockages and obstacles are.

It give us an entry point to heal.

And shows what changes.

We’re giving the mind a new reality, a new way of looking at things, we’re enlarging the field of possibilities.

Which allows for new and different ways of being and experiencing.

 

We work on patterns, that’s how we function.

We remember things that we’ve done before, the situations we’re in.

As soon as we’re in a situation we’ve been in before, emotionally or physically, the body kicks the pattern in.

From a sexual point of view, a s soon as the possibility of sex is there, or you’re touched in a certain way or get into a particular position, the pattern and response is activated.

Only through the body can we change this, give new options, new possibilities, enlarge the messages getting through, alter the perspective.

 

An example of this, something that’s an issue for many women, is the inability to have internal orgasms.

The blockage very often comes in the tissue of the G-spot being either numb, tender or even painful.

This comes from past negative or painful sexual experiences, guilt about pleasure, about your body, about your genitals, about sex, the shame and embarrassment that generations have foisted upon us. From the times when we’re really young and touch our genitals in a natural way that it’s not ok, it’s dirty, horrible, unacceptable. From the time when we’re told that out bodies are not beautiful and need to be covered up. From the time we’re told what good girls should and shouldn’t do. From the ugliness that surrounds our sexual power. From the myths that we grow up with.

All of these conspire to sit somewhere in the body, more often than not in the tissue in the yoni that should be alive, awake and beautifully sensitive.    

 

An effective shift in this, as well as so many other sexual issues that impact on men and women, can only be brought about with bodywork.

 

This is challenging, yes it is.

But with love, with safety, with honouring and respect, in a sacred and conscious space, so much can be different for so many people.

We can all have the pleasure we’d like, the pleasure we deserve. We can be free of the past that prevents us feeling, experiencing and living the beauty that we are.

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