TantricTeacherAtLarge

“We have talked about doing a Tantric sex “course” for years, and now I am genuinely interested. We meet a wonderful guru and teacher called Jonti Searll, a man who has studied orgasmic response and energy work for years. This inspirational man works with both of us to teach us tantric principles of love, non judgement, healing touch and a whole bunch of techniques that turn our lives upside down. And he heals me. The first massage session which I was incredibly nervous about, involves the most loving and gentle of massages that physically makes me shake and sob uncontrollably as I finally release the demons of my past, the lies, the lack of ability to ask for things for myself. (The reason I feared the first massage? I had gone to another “energy healer” who had performed a “Tantric” massage, which had been quite embarrassing and really not followed my energy at all, which is why I believe that word of mouth and reputation is imperative in this field) Jonti truly has a divinely inspired gift to read people’s energies intuitively, and doesn’t even touch me “down there”. Not because it isn’t part of the Tantric massage, but because he reads my energy in this first healing session and only does what is necessary to unblock my energy and release the bottled up pain I have been storing for years in my body, in my sacrum. His hands feel so hot as he moves undeniable energy up my spine, that I keep looking for the warm stones or water that he must be dipping his hands into, until I realize it’s pure energy that he is channeling. I have only sobbed that hard 3 or 4 times in my life, and it feels as if years and years of pain lift away from me. Quicker than therapy. Most definitely! That night, my husband is exploring and playing with me, and looks up shocked. “Something’s different here!” he says, a puzzled look on his face. Not only had I released my emotional pain, but Jonti’s energy massage and heart touch had PHYSICALLY moved my G-spot down to where not only my husband could find it, but I could too!! Orgasm and sexual energy are undeniably essential. They are the indicators and resonators of all other truths and patterns in your life. Think about it. If you are being deceptive and denying yourself what you are truly capable of, which is indescribable bliss in your most primal connection, that most sacred connection with another human being, the act that creates new life. If you are being deceitful in that sacred space that truly links us to divinity, to a higher power. If you are not truthful there, how are you ever going to not repeat that pattern in EVERY OTHER AREA of your life? This is why I believe faking orgasm is one of the most dangerous things a woman can do. And one that can be helped and healed with the most intimate look you will ever take at your soul, true energy healing, Tantric massage. I am not the only woman to tell a similar story, and my path has also included support groups for working through my childhood, meditation and prayer, and even yoga in various forms. But the quickest and most effective healing I have ever found is Tantric. My desire, wish and prayer for you, is if you relate to my story, you find Tantric healing too.”

I’m part of a tribe of people. We’ve lived around the world and have done since ancient times. We represent the God/Goddess of pleasure.

We’d like to tell you that you’re beautiful and that your body is a celebration.

Your body may not look quite the way you’d like it to. It may not look quite the way the media says it should.

But your body is beautiful.

When it’s being touched, when it’s touching, it’s beautiful.

When it’s pleasuring, being pleasured, it’s beautiful.

When it’s loving, being loved, it’s beautiful.

And if you allow yourself to feel this, truly feel this, you’re celebrating the beauty of your body.

It may be for a few moments, it may be for an endless night. And in that time, if you can feel the pleasure, the love, the connection, you’ll feel beautiful.

If you feel beautiful, well, you are.

Beauty is in the feeling, beyond the look.

We revel in your nudity and your nakedness.

For there you’re most vulnerable, yes. But you’re also strong, maybe the strongest, the most honest, the most open. Because there’s nothing there except you. There’s nothing to hide behind, no desk, no title, no status, no thing that prevents your real self coming through.

And this is the real power.

For so long we’ve been taught that vulnerability is linked to weakness. We would offer that the opposite is true. You’re powerful because you’re revealed. You’ve put yourself there and it’s beautiful because it’s honest.

It’s brave, takes courage to reveal yourself in that way.

It takes courage to be beautiful.

We invite you to look at yourself differently, look through our eyes. For we see your pleasure possibilities, we see the beauty.

We invite you to allow your body to sing its song of bliss.

We invite you to live your beauty, to feel your beauty and to share your beautiful self.

SENSUAL MASSAGE

I, along with some beautiful women, have created an exciting  expression of the magic of Sensual Massage, that’s attached to the email. If you’re reading this on Facebook or my blog and you’d like to receive a copy of this, please send an email: jontisearll@mweb.co.za. It’s too big to send on its own.

This really expresses the soul, the heart and spirit of Sensual Massage.

WORKSHOPS

THERE IS A 15% DISCOUNT ON ALL BOOKINGS MADE BEFORE THE END OF THE WEEK.

THIS IS ALSO FOR PRIVATE LESSONS AND HEALING JOURNEYS.

NEW WORKSHOP

THE G-NIGHT

The workshop is a sacred and informative exploration of one of the mysteries of female sexuality, the Goddess Area. It includes what the G-Spot really is, how to find it, healing and release techniques, meditation, orgasm possibilities and female ejaculation. This is for singles and couples. The workshop may include a practical demonstration. 

CAPE TOWN 

The Cape Town workshops will all be held at 67 Forest Drive, Pinelands.

MON 11^TH APRIL: A FREE TALK

Jonti will give a talk on Tantra Evolution, the sexual journey and where it fits into our lives, the connection between sex and spirituality and a framework for exploring sexuality and sensuality.

We’ll also talk about the forthcoming workshops.

7 pm.

TUES 12^TH APRIL: TANTRIC WAVE EXPANDED ORGASM, 7 PM

WED 13^TH APRIL: TANTRA EVOLUTION, 7 PM

THURS 14^TH APRIL:  THE G-NIGHT, 7 PM

SAT 16^TH APRIL: TANTRIC SENSUAL AND EROTIC MASSAGE, 10 AM

SUN 17^TH APRIL: TAOIST SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE: 2 PM

The evening workshops are R300/person, for singles and couples.

The massage workshops are practical, you need a partner, these are R1800/couple.

There is a 10% discount for more than 1 workshop, 15% for more than 2, 25% for the entire programme.

JOBURG

TUES 5^TH APRIL: THE G-NIGHT, 7 PM

THURS 7^TH APRIL: TANTRIC WAVE EXPANDED ORGASM, 7 PM

SAT 9^TH APRIL: AWAKENING YOUR EROTIC SPIRIT, 2 PM

SAT 30^TH APRIL: SENSUAL MASSAGE, 10 AM

KAYA FM

Wed 6^th April, 9 pm on Kaya FM, 95.9, we’re talking about the G-spot.

GAME

Here’s a cool game for a couple, works much better with a group of people. You start by making a sexy sound, a moan, a groan, a word, the next person makes a different sound, then the next… you’ll have a good laugh.

IN THE WORLD

You can now follow me on Twitter: tantraevolution.

Please read my blog, www.TantricteacherAtLarge, find me on Facebook, join the group Sensual Reality, or visit the website www.sensualreality.co.za.

   I WISH YOU SO MUCH PLEASURE, SO MUCH FUN!

Jonti Searll

The journey of sexual arousal is beautiful to watch and share. If you get to know the signs of her arousal you’re treated to show that is a living work of art, an enormous turn on purely to watch. It takes awareness to see all the physical sign of what’s happening in her body as many of these are subtle, and of course differ greatly from woman to woman.

What’s also a wonderful thought to keep in mind is that the physical changes you see in her body are a reflection of much more happening inside. Her turn-on is linked to her emotions, the safer she feels, the more aroused she’ll get. And although sex and love are different things, for many women they are inextricably linked.

It’s important to understand that this whole process begins before you get near her body. Even if you’re in a relationship or married, there’s a level of flirting, of seduction to some degree. You talk, tease, make suggestions, or outright say what you want, maybe touch, a hand, an arm…

The eyes are really important here, they’ll tell you so much. But that means you have to look into her eyes. Now this is difficult for many people because it’s very intimate. Our eyes are the window to the soul, or at least to the heart. If you look long and hard, you’ll see the truth there.

Also take note of personal space, the bubble that surrounds us, how close into that bubble are you permitted to come, or is the distance still kept? 

This is the beginning of foreplay and it allows a level of emotional comfort to develop before things go further, if they’re going to go further.

So now let’s take a big leap forward and presume that everything’s wonderful and you’re lying naked together and you want to know what’s going on in her body.

Her entire skin has clues to her arousal, particularly the upper chest and neck. This becomes red and flushed, hot to the touch if you put your hand there gently. This is an unmistakable sign of arousal and very exciting to see. As her turn-on deepens it may become blotchy and even spread to her face.

Look into her eyes, her pupils may dilate, become bigger, the lids a little heavier as she goes deeper into a sexual state. Many women will lick their lips, some even bite their lips.

Her breasts become fuller, the veins across the skin of her breast often become more visible and her nipples harden.

You may also notice a general increase in the heat of her body; it’s no mistake that we use words like ‘I’m hot for you etc’.

Blood flow in the body changes, it comes more to the skin, to areas being caressed, the more obvious erogenous zones of the body. Spend lots of time caressing her breasts; there are women who can reach orgasm purely through breast stimulation.

As you move down her body to the holy of holies, the beautiful flower of her vagina, you’ll draw blood to that part of her body. This will cause her outer lips to swell and thicken and darken. As you touch her, gently now, the outer lips will open and the inner lips start to fill. These inner petals can become much fuller and open like a flower to the sun. Even if they’re hidden away inside her they can open and spread very wide. The technical term for all this is vasocongestion, simply meaning that the tissues become filled with blood. The inner part of the vagina opens, making space inside her body.

Lubrication begins to flow from the walls of her vagina. The degree of lubrication is different from woman to woman and is also influenced by diet and her menstrual cycle. The fluid is generally clear but can vary in texture, colour, smell and consistency.

Her clitoris, the magic of magics will swell and become more prominent as it fills with blood. It will often protrude out from under the hood, allowing you to touch and stimulate it more easily.

Her breath will quicken and shorten as she gets closer to orgasm, her muscles tense and contract.

The physical signs of arousal become easy to see once you know what you’re looking for. Remember that every woman is different, every day is different.

What makes this special is becoming observant enough to follow the signs through her body as a guide to where she’s at, to allow her body to lead you in pleasuring her.

What you can’t see happening is her emotional response. The physical stuff is very apparent, her chest, the swelling of her breasts, vaginal lubrication, her breathing etc.

The emotional stuff you have to feel, which is where many guys fall down. But don’t despair. Firstly because there are signs, and secondly because you can open that part of you, which will make it a whole lot easier.

The sings of her emotional response are in her eyes, look deep, and don’t be scared of the contact. This is where you’ll see the intimacy, know what she’s feeling. There are definite looks of love, and of lust, and passion, the mixture of the two. So how do you decipher what you see? You have to feel it with your own heart. Hah! Easy! No, it takes practice, especially if the realm of feelings is not your most comfortable place. The best way to do this is to breathe deeply, this gets you out of your mind, allows it to be quiet for a few minutes and feel what she feels as a reflection of what you feel when you look into her eyes. And this is one of the aspects that will help you become a super lover; raise you above average in your understanding and response to women.

As you observe these changes in her body, both the more obvious ones and the more subtle, you’ll gain a greater appreciation for the special beauty of women and the privilege it is to share in the amazing thing that is sex.

I trace a path of passion

That whispers my love and lust into your ear

On the heat of my breath

I trace a path of passion

That kisses my mouth to yours

In the seductive tango of our tongues

I trace a path of passion

That melts my beating heart to yours

Against your breast pushing into my chest

I trace a path of passion

That locks my eyes to yours

As you draw my soul to you

I trace a path of passion

That feathers my fingers against your pussy

In the growing wet and heat

I trace a path of passion

That strokes your fingers on my cock

Around the throbbing hardness

I trace a path of passion

That joins us, body, heart and soul

In the ecstasy of love

Last week I received some absolutely beautiful and powerful words from a couple on a Tantric journey.

“I have always believed myself to be an open-minded person. Always believed that I was capable of changing my mind if the facts changed. And I have always believed myself to be sexually adventurous. Relatively. So, with this in mind, my husband and I decided to attend an “Expanded Orgasm” workshop, hosted by Tantric Teacher, Jonti Searll. We booked a private session, and with the help of latex models, notes, diagrams and loads of humour we left, giggling and excited to try out the techniques and DVD we had been given. After a few nights with no babysitting, eventually we had the house to ourselves and began. It’s quite tricky learning new things about sex, because we are so set in our patterns about what turns us on. Setting the scene was not a problem, and even getting the techniques right with my husband posed no difficulty. I am a perfectionist and A -Student type, so as he writhed and moaned with new pleasures which took him by surprise, I thought we were right on track. Then things fell apart. I could not get comfortable. I could not relax. As much as I wanted this new experience, something was fighting it. The pressure was on for me to get to this expanded orgasmic state, and I felt like it was my responsibility to “get there”. This, of course, goes against everything we had been taught by Jonti, yet, I just couldn’t let go, and got really frustrated that I hadn’t had the wonderful experience my husband had enjoyed. Then, a week or so later, we booked to go away on a romantic break, away from home, away from our usual sexual environment. And we didn’t try. Just caressed, massaged and loved each other, having great sex that was really fun. Then on the second day, my husband gave me a long massage, rolled me over, and began the techniques Jonti had shown us. I had of course completely given up on it happening for me, just looking at the sky, naked outside on a blanket. And waves of pleasure beyond anything I can describe, or had experienced before began to roll lazily through me. This was unlike an orgasm, yet had orgasmic elements. Tears came as I got picked up and carried on wave after wave of connection, connection to me, connection to my husband, and connection to the divine. It was one of the most spiritually cleansing moments of my life. I let go. Of being the perfect lover, perfect wife, perfect experience and just felt what was happening in and around me in that precious moment. It was at that point that I understood the connection between sexuality and spirituality beyond any doubt. Truly, we use sexuality as a dirty thing in our society. A way to sell products, shame ourselves, create fear and doubt and patterning that if not broken stays with us for a lifetime. It’s time to break that patterning. Sexual energy with purpose and consciousness can expand not only orgasmic response, but the connection to a higher power, universe, divinity, if you are wiling to let go of the idea that you already understand it. I have only just realized what open minded means. It doesn’t mean accepting other people’s views no matter how bizarre they may seem, it starts with me. I have only just begun.”

WORKSHOPS

SPECIAL OFFER

TANTRIC SENSUAL MASSAGE ON SAT 26^TH, R1500/COUPLE

The past few weeks have brought some far-reaching and deep new understandings of some of the principles and practices of sensuality and Tantra. I’m looking forward to sharing these, particularly on the Tantric Wave Orgasm and Sensual Massage workshops.

At the bottom of this newsletter there is a beautiful experience shared by a couple on a Tantric journey.

WED 23^RD MARCH: TANTRIC WAVE ORGASM, 7pm

SAT 26^TH MARCH: TANTRIC SENSUAL AND EROTIC MASSAGE, 10 am

WED 30^TH MARCH: THE ART OF SEX, 7 pm

CAPE TOWN

The Cape Town workshops will all be held at 67 Forest Drive, Pinelands.

MON 11^TH APRIL: A FREE TALK

Jonti will give a talk on Tantra Evolution, the sexual journey and where it fits into our lives, the connection between sex and spirituality and a framework for exploring sexuality and sensuality.

We’ll also talk about the forthcoming workshops.

7 pm.

TUES 12^TH APRIL: TANTRIC WAVE ORGASM, 7 PM

WED 13^TH APRIL: TANTRA EVOLUTION, 7 PM

THURS 14^TH APRIL:  AWAKENING YOUR EROTIC SPIRIT, 7 PM

SAT 16^TH APRIL: TANTRIC SENSUAL AND EROTIC MASSAGE, 10 AM

SUN 17^TH APRIL: TAOIST SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE: 2 PM

The evening workshops are R300/person, for singles and couples.

The massage workshops are practical, you need a partner, these are R1800/couple.

There is a 10% discount for more than 1 workshop, 15% for more than 2, 25% for the entire programme.

PRIVATE SESSIONS

This is a space to heal, explore and grow in your sexuality and sensuality in a personalized programme. This is available to men, women and couples.

IN THE WORLD

You can now follow me on Twitter: tantraevolution.

Please read my blog, www.TantricteacherAtLarge, find me on Facebook, join the group Sensual Reality, or visit the website www.sensualreality.co.za.

   I WISH YOU SO MUCH PLEASURE, SO MUCH FUN!

There is an ancient power within all of us. It’s at the base of who we are, the essence of our masculinity and femininity, our manhood and womanhood. Over generations it’s been suppressed. We see glimpses of it on occasion and have no idea what to do with it, in truth it terrifies us. In our lifetime it confuses us.

This is part of the true nature of our sexuality.

It is the power of a man to absolutely take a woman, without violence, without anger, with sheer masculine power.

It is the power of a woman to absolutely submit, without fear, with sheer feminine power.

It is older than we are, as old as time, it is the eternal cosmic dance of masculine and feminine energy, the constantly flowing polarity of yin and yang.

It is something that we often struggle against. Simply because it’s expression has become so perverted.

We look at it with distaste.

We’ve lost the truth of the power through its use coupled with violence, with manipulation, with punishment, with fear and pain, with judgement, with lies.

It scares us because it’s the truth, the naked truth.

It’s naked, exposed, vulnerable passion.

It peels away the layers, the persona, the masks.

It makes you vulnerable. And you see that in your vulnerability is your greatest power. Because it’s the most honest you can be. And once you’re exposed, all there is is beauty. 

And once you’ve been there, really been there, you’re free.

You cannot be controlled, you know who you are, what you are. Maybe not fully, all at once, but you take a step that you can never take back or erase. Simply put, you see your soul.

Because going there is sacred. It opens you to the core of your being.

It’s not everything, it needs guidance, it needs context.

But it’s the fire of life.

It requires us to be brave. To be warriors, physical warriors, spiritual, emotional sexual warriors.

Warrior priests, unafraid to feel.

And in your feelings is your truth. You go beyond your mind, out of your mind. Into sanity.

Your body is totally present; there is an alignment of heart, mind and spirit. The body is the means, the doorway, the mirror of all that is within us.

In allowing yourself this freedom, you see that. You see all that you are.

The ancients knew this.

And those that walked with fear, hid it, made it filth.

Made us dirty, shamed in our nakedness, tentative in our passion.

And in this we forgot what the Holy Spirit that dwells within us looks like, feels like.

And yet there have always been those who kept this vision alive, who nurtured the flame.

Are you brave as man to go there, to feel that heat burn within you, to move from your loins, bless the sacredness of your masculine flesh, forgive the times it was used by men as a weapon, bless its power of pleasure, acknowledge it as an instrument of God, and to absolutely take her. With all the passion, all the love, all the strength, all the might of a man created in the image of God, an act of worship of your equal Goddess. Because as you do, you allow her the freedom to be the Goddess

Are you brave as a woman to go there, to feel that heat burn within you, to move from your loins, bless the sacredness of your feminine flesh, free it from the times it was shamed and oppressed, bless its power of pleasure, acknowledge it as an instrument of the Goddess and to absolutely yield. With all the passion, all the love, all the strength, all the might of a woman created in the image of Goddess. Because as you do, you allow him the freedom to be a God.

It’s a fire journey. It’s naked and loud, growling, roaring, sweating, screaming, heaving bodies, straining muscles, lungs, gasping breath.

It’s raw passion, naked desire.

Its prayer of the deepest kind, because it’s honouring the Self, it’s honouring the fire of creation.

It’s alchemical in transformation and healing.

It’s mystical in bodies fitting together as an expression of the energies that makes up the very stuff of life.

You free yourselves, you free each other.

And you know who you are.

You are Man, you are Woman.

You are Tantra.

SEXUAL STUFF

There is some truly wonderful stuff in the world to enhance your sexual play.

For those who haven’t seen it yet, the Tantra Chair is an amazing addition to your sexual adventures. It allows for some very exciting positions and possibilities, particularly for extended lovemaking experiences. Comfort during these times is essential, so you can focus on the pleasure and nothing else. Everyone who walks into my office and sees it, wants it. Contact Paul or Tjaart at zenbydesignsa.co.za.

When we’re in the Sensual Moment we’re present and conscious, we’re living the connection between thebody, the heart and the being.

In this space, the heightened state of pleasure sends waves of Orgasmic Sensation moving through your body that can last for hours, sometimes days.

Fingers touching soft lips in familiar greeting

Warmth rising to heat with the first slow caress

Gently stroking swelling flesh

Deep streams begin to flow with secret liquid

Fingers sliding into throbbing crimson

Spreading the slick

Seeking the bud

Unfurling its sensitive cowl

Softly softly

Circling the pulsation

Travelling the valleys of pleasure

A landscape known and new

Throaty breath

Moaning sigh from a distant voice

Hips following the tide of sensation

Fingers strumming, plucking, vibrating, thrumming, dipping, pulling, flicking, rubbing, rubbing

Beauty lips full

Pleasure pearl aflame

Energy gathering in tightening waves

Fingers faster, faster

Wet

Open

A moment of absolute stillness

The exploding, the breaking, the melting

The release

The softening

The slow return.  

A while ago I wrote something for Health24 that an editor put under the title Gourmet Sex. I really liked that and use a lot of food analogies in my talks. Food, sex and sensuality are linked in many ways. I was thinking about this and came to see things in terms of Junk Food Sex, Fast Food Sex, Comfort Food Sex and Gourmet Sex.

When we look at the nutritional value of food we include things like positive and negative nutritional content. This simply means whether the food adds something, gives you energy and nutrition or does it take it away.

Then we get more specific, including vitamins, minerals, micro-nutrients, amino acids, Recommended Daily Allowances etc.

One aspect of  the Recommended Sensual Daily Allowance for optimal Sensual Health is 8 Conscious Hugs each day!

As the list of food nutrients is vast, with elements still being discovered, so it is with the list of sex nutrients. And as with research into nutrition debunking myths giving new understanding to food, so it is with sex and sensuality.

Junk Food Sex is just that.

It’s heavy, stodgy, greasy. It drags you down and drains your energy.

It has negative emotional and sexual value, less than zero. It doesn’t give you anything, except for maybe something nasty, rather, it takes away from you, makes you less.

It clogs your energy systems, blocks your heart and soul.

It has no consciousness, no creativity.

Fast Food Sex is the sex of our age.

It’s the food court, loud and plastic.

You can find a level of fulfillment there, and there are absolutely some healthy options on the menu.

But it’s mostly on the surface.

It fulfills a need and gets the job done.

Fast Food Sex can also be fun, it includes the quickies, the fooling around, the teasing…

But the flavours are generally enhanced and mostly media- filtered.

It’s also an expression of our culture and technology. Toys and flavoured lubes, porn, sms sex, sharing fantasies with strangers on the web, how many positions, how many orgasms, how many pairs of crotchless panties and outfits, disposable relationships…

It can be creative, but it doesn’t have too many surprises.

It doesn’t have too much heart.

It can be fulfilling, momentarily, but it doesn’t have much sustenance and it doesn’t touch too deeply.

Comfort Food Sex is the familiar.

It’s a feeling of warmth and knowing.

It has some depth in that it’s what the heart wants, it gives an inner feeling of satisfaction.

Sometimes it’s regular, sometimes less so.

But it’s a part of us, part of the fabric of who we are.

It may not be very exciting, it may not be very creative.

But it touches us with a gentle smile and a sense of gratitude.

Gourmet Sex, well now we begin speaking a different language.

We’re talking about experiences, tastes, sounds, words, feelings, aromas, sensations, touches, emotions…

We’re talking about moments that are as subtle as the scent of a flower that abreeze takes away almost before you’ve smelled it.

Moments that have a flavour so rich and textured that they last a lifetime.

Moments of deep driving passion that take your breath away, that take you right out of your body.

Moments that allow you to go into the darkness of yourself, to the depths and limits of your experience, desires and fantasies. And then beyond.

Moments that take you on a light journey through the universe to a place where the stars are born.

Moments of intimacy and love that are simply soul experiences.

Gourmet Sex is the banquet of life and pleasure.

It has possibilities, infinite possibilities and combinations and connections.

Gourmet Sex is a conscious choice.

It’s not every day sex, but everyday can have gourmet moments.