You are browsing the archive for 2011 July.

TANTRA EVOLUTION NEWSLETTER

July 29, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Tantra Evolution 

Tantra Evolution is a framework, a philosophy and a practical path, a guide to a way of being that includes growth, exploring, healing, relationships and spirituality.

Tantra Evolution takes you with gentleness into a field of possibilities. The focus is on sensuality and intimacy, with yourself and your partner that allows for understanding and growth in a natural flow towards freedom and fulfillment.

 

Anne-Marie writes…

I have recently learned something very valuable and truthful about my sexuality as a woman. It’s never been used for its original purpose. It’s never been unencumbered as pure sensuality and pleasure.

And that’s what it’s designed for. Pleasure. Not catching a man, not trying to make someone else jealous, not buying affection and certainly not to try and persuade someone to love you.

You see, over the years I have used my sexual power to placate anger, to defuse arguments, to keep my partner “happy”, to get control, to keep the peace, to do my duty, to excite interest, to flatter ego, to feel attractive…

I never did pleasure for pleasures’ sake. I did what I felt would make me enough to keep my partner loving me.

That’s not honest. Giving something in exchange for an agenda of hoped for emotions, commitment, safety, peace, family…

Along the way, I lost the ability to be in the moment, to be truly intimate with myself. To truly experience pleasure, free of an unspoken emotional agenda.

I forgot about myself in the currency of male ego, and by doing so denied my partner access to my true self, faking my way through experiences that could have been pleasurable if I hadn’t desperately wanted to be in control of it all.

And I lost my soul. My essence. The ability to let go into the place where being fully in your sexual power is designed to take you to altered states of consciousness and full awareness of yourself in a raw and primal, beautiful physical state.  I believe that’s what sexual union should be. A bliss state, free of judgment, fear and guilt.  A union that’s honest, with no undercurrents of emotional payment and expectation.

I have decided to walk a different path now. To explore pleasure possibilities for their own sake, to expand my experiences of life, of being a spiritual being in a physical body. To enjoy every sensation that I choose to experience, to revel in my sexuality for myself. Am I afraid? You bet. Yet I will walk this path with an honest love for myself that no longer uses my sexuality as emotional currency.

That is far too high a price for any woman to pay. 

Jonti writes…

What Anne-Marie has written applies just as much to men as to women.

The expression of sex being pervaded by agendas other than pleasure, love, intimacy and connection is slightly different in men.

 

 

So many of us, men and women, use sex as currency, emotional currency. 

We give it or withhold it in a space of manipulation that often destroys our partner’s and relationships. It becomes a slow erosion of intimacy, of trust, of self-confidence.

It becomes a tool in an expression of power that comes from a place far from the heart, far from what love is.

When we use sex in this way, it’s not about intimacy or connection. It can’t be.

And it certainly can’t be connected to the higher possibilities, the spiritual wonders that pleasure offers us.

 

Sex becomes a weapon. And the natural flow of this energy in our bodies is interfered with, with sometimes dire consequences.

For women, the physical impact is linked to painful sex, lack of lubrication and a struggle or inability to have orgasms.

For men this manifests in erection and ejaculation problems.

 

In relationships we lose intimacy, and when this goes we’re in trouble. Intimacy is the basic connection that holds us together. When that becomes tempered with mistrust, with insecurity, with communication that is not fully open, when we feel a lack of respect, when we are unfulfilled, we are unable to communicate about and resolve other issues and problems.

 

We lose our sensuality, because sensuality and intimacy are directly linked. And in sensuality we find fulfillment, that’s what touches our hearts. The sex becomes a purely physical expression, which is fine, if that’s what you’re looking for, but that’s all it is.

 

We clothe ourselves in masks, we become something, someone we’re not. We move away from ourselves. The anger, the frustration we feel at this, is directed outwards, onto our partner. The deeper we go into this space, the harder it is to reclaim ourselves, to see what we’re doing, and how to come back from there.

 

This is far too high a price for anyone to pay.

 

 

 

TANTRA EVOLUTION AND THE BEDROOM

We have found beautiful new workspace at The Bedroom in Parkhurst.

The shop is at 67 6th St, c/r 2nd Ave.

To celebrate this, we are offering a 10% discount for the next two weeks on any purchases made there, just tell them that you’re a friend of Jonti’s.

 

 

DURBAN WORKSHOPS

More detailed info on the workshops is attached to the email.

Mon 22nd Aug: Tantra Evolution – An Introduction

Tues 23rd Aug: Expanded Orgasmic Wave

Wed 24th Aug:  Sexual Healing

Thurs 25th Aug: Awakening the Erotic Spirit

Sat 27th Aug: Tantric Sensual Massage

Sun 28th Aug: Taoist Sexual Energy Massage

 

 

DOUBLE GODDESS MASSAGE

This is one of the deepest, most beautiful gifts you as a woman can give your self.

The combination of masculine and feminine energies creates a space for a sensual experience that flows into the dimensions of healing, release, expansion and pleasure.

It is so difficult for many women to simply receive, to allow themselves to feel, to accept the love offered and experience your beauty.

Anne-Marie and I have created this time of beauty for you to feel, if for but a few moments, the Goddess you are.

 

 

TANTRA EVOLUTION TALK

Sat 6th August at 2 pm, I’m giving a talk at The Ngwenya Glass Village on Tantra and Sensuality.

Cost is R75, which includes tea, proceeds go to South African Riding for the Disabled Association.

Enquiries/Bookings: 083 285 8383

 

 

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX

The 3 CD set, just under 4 hours of talks on Tantra, Relationships, Men, Women, Sensuality, Sexual Body work and Healing is R280.

 

 

ABOUT JONTI SEARLL

Jonti is a Tantra Teacher & Sensualist. He offers workshops, talks, private and group lessons in the field of sexuality & sensuality. He assists singles, couples and groups in healing, creating a deeper connection, intimacy, pleasure and the magic between sex and spirituality. His tailor made programmes incorporate Tantra, coaching, bodywork, meditation, and practical exercises. He has extensive media coverage with the latest being the Sunday Times; Shape Magazine and You Pulse. He appears on Kaya FM on the first Wednesday of every month at 21.00.

WHO…

July 19, 2011 in Uncategorized

I stand in front of a room after a talk and the first question is ‘Who comes to a Tantric workshop or for lessons?’

 

You’re single, in a relationship, married for thirty years or three, you’re a man, a woman, straight, gay, bi, old, young, you come from every race, you come from every religion, you’re skinny or curvaceous, you’re brave or nervous, you know a lot, you know so little, you’re in pain, you’re numb, you’re disconnected, you live with guilt, shame and embarrassment,  you’re exploring your sexuality and sensuality, you want to know the connection between sex and spirituality, you have sexual problems, you cannot have orgasms, you ejaculate very quickly, sex is painful, you have erection problems, you’re seeking intimacy, you don’t know how to communicate about sex, you don’t know how to tell your partner what you like and don’t want, you don’t know how to share your fantasies and you’d like to, you’d like to deepen the connection with your partner, we’ve lost the intimacy, you want to find your or her G-spot, you’ve heard or read about multiple orgasms, G-spot orgasms, Deep Uterine Orgasms, Expanded Orgasms, orgasms without ejaculating, male multiple orgasms, female ejaculation, you want to know hot to talk about exploring something new, what is swinging all about and how do I bring it up with my partner, how do we have anal sex without pain, where do I learn about bondage, am I normal because I like, what is sexual healing, how do I release the pain of the past, how do I talk to my children about sex, how do I pleasure myself, how do I become more sensual, more sexual, more erotic, more exciting, how do I become less inhibited and shy, how do I initiate sex, how do I know the difference between sex and love, what is Tantra really, what do all the sex terms I read about mean, how do I give a great blow job, how do I give a great hand job, how do I really fulfill my partner, something’s lacking and I’m not sure what it is, how do I start talking about the problems, what is Tantric massage, how do I learn to massage, how do I explore my sexuality on my own, where do I find a space to talk about sex openly and freely, how do I expand my boundaries, how do I feel beautiful, how do I heal some of the things from my sexual past, how do have the pleasure I’ve think is possible, where can I go to ask all the questions I ever wanted about sex, how do I negotiate different experiences in my relationship, where, how, what, who, why, when, with who…

 

Because…

 

You are a sexual and sensual being in a physical form on a physical journey.

Your sexuality includes and encompasses all that you are, every aspect of your being.

It is the essence of who you are, it gives you definition.

It includes the simple pleasure of a taste, a smell, a touch, a view, a sound to the cosmic orgasm that expands your being into a state of spiritual awareness in an explosion of highest bliss.

You are beautiful, you may not feel it now, but you are.

You deserve, you may not know it yet, all the love and pleasure you can think of.  

Your sexuality is a link to higher states of consciousness and spiritual experiences.

Your sexual energy and your creative energy, creating all aspects of your life, are entwined.

You can be free from the unholy triad of guilt, shame and embarrassment.

You can have the fun and excitement you’ve read about.

You can have deep pleasure, love, intimacy, connection…

You can feel the depths, the heights, the expansion, the possibilities that this sacred world of pleasure offers.

 

There is a way for you, a place for you.

JOBURG WORKSHOPS

 

EXPANDED ORGASM: THURS 14 JULY, 7 PM

THE MYSTERIOUS G-NIGHT:  THURS 21 JULY, 7 PM

TANTRIC SENSUAL MASSAGE: SAT 23 JULY, 11 AM

CONSCIOUS SELF-PLEASURING: TUES 26 JULY, 7 PM

THE ART OF SEX: THURS 28 JULY, 7PM

TAOIST SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE: SAT 30 JULY, 11 AM

 

Please email/call for more info

Venue to be confirmed

Discounts available for attending more than one workshop

I am also available for private lessons and consultations

 

We have set dates for workshops in Durban and Cape Town, the full programme and venue to be confirmed, Durban from 22nd-28th August, Cape Town from 10th -16th October.

 

WORKSPACE

We are looking for new workspace, a consulting room/cottage/ centre centrally located in Jo’burg. Please let me know about anything that may be possible.

 

DOUBLE GODDESS MASSAGE

This is one of the deepest, most beautiful gifts you as a woman can give your self.

The combination of masculine and feminine energies creates a space for a sensual experience that flows into the dimensions of healing, release, expansion and pleasure.

It is so difficult for many women to simply receive, to allow themselves to feel, to accept the love offered and experience your beauty.

Anne-Marie and I have created this time of beauty for you to feel, if for but a few moments, the Goddess you are.

 

TANTRA EVOLUTION TALK

Sat 6th August at 2 pm, I’m giving a talk at The Ngwenya Glass Village on Tantra and Sensuality.

Cost is R75, which includes tea, proceeds go to South African Riding for the Disabled Association.

Enquiries/Bookings: 083 285 8383

 

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX

The 3 CD set, just under 4 hours of talks on Tantra, Relationships, Men, Women, Sensuality, Sexual Body work and Healing is R280.

 

 

 

ABOUT JONTI SEARLL

Jonti is a Tantra Teacher & Sensualist. He offers workshops, talks, private and group lessons in the field of sexuality & sensuality. He assists singles, couples and groups in healing, creating a deeper connection, intimacy, pleasure and the magic between sex and spirituality. His tailor made programmes incorporate Tantra, coaching, bodywork, meditation, and practical exercises. He has extensive media coverage with the latest being the Sunday Times; Shape Magazine and You Pulse. He appears on Kaya FM on the first Wednesday of every month at 21.00.

ENCHANTRESS OF THE NIGHT

July 15, 2011 in Uncategorized

Woman of magic

Woman of mystery

In this sacred circle we stand naked

There is a silence and a stillness that surrounds us

In the slow heartbeat of a moment of eternity

You reveal yourself as goddess of the night

 

In your eyes

Is a portal to another world

Eyes that open me, reach into me

Eyes that draw my heart, my soul

Eyes that lay the core of me bare

And begin to take me

Eyes that bring me to your body

That you spread for me

A heat that surrounds me

Flames of pleasure that melt me

Burn away time

Burn away my mortality

You arch against me

Fuelling your passion with my blazing body

A celestial sound

A crack of pure sexual lightning runs through my flaming being

And in a scream of ecstasy I am no more

And you are there

Enchantress of the dark, of the light

You are there

At the gateway to the vanishing point

You are there

And in my trembling return to form

You are the breath and the kiss that guide me back

To release me to the world once more.

EXPANDED ORGASM WORKSHOP

July 14, 2011 in Uncategorized

We have a few free places available for the Expanded Orgasm Workshop at 7 tonight in Jo’burg.

Email jontisearll@mweb.co.za, call 083 7435 129.

Newsletter

July 8, 2011 in Uncategorized

The week in Cape Town was filled with beauty and intensity.

It began with the G-Spot documentary at The Encounters Documentary Festival and a discussion afterwards. The documentary itself had some positive elements but was generally pretty clinical, taking nothing of the emotional connection into account, a very limited view of G-Spot pleasure and possibilities. These are things which we in the Tantric world are so aware of and share on a daily basis. It was disappointing that none of this was considered.

The discussion afterwards took on a ‘clinical’ form, becoming focused on sexual politics rather than the empowerment, the healing and the pleasure.

 

What has come out of many of the G-Spot lessons and workshops is not only the increase, vast, in pleasure, but the empowerment so women are experiencing. This is not only in a sexual sense but linked to so many other aspects of our being, creativity and personal power, the strength to change many situations that was never there before. The release of the energy blockages, the past, the limitations, the shame, embarrassment and guilt about so much of our lives, stored in this area, in Tantra we call it the Goddess Area, is profound and lasting.

It is an amazing reminder about how our sexuality is linked to all areas of our lives, our identity as men and women.

 

This is one of the reasons why the G-Spot DVD we’re starting to shoot soon is so important. We’d like a few more people for the DVD, not all involving nudity, some time women to just talk about what finding their G-Spot has done. To assist this we’re offering free lessons and healing advice to people interested in participating in this exciting project.

 

At the Expanded Orgasm workshop there was a couple who taught us something that really expanded the possibilities. He is in treatment for cancer, the medication has had serious impact on his libido and sexual functioning. At the end of the evening he ‘has found a new definition of himself as a man and a new way to pleasure his wife. So much will change from this’.

So many people are in relationships similar to this. There is no need to live without pleasure, so many options and possibilities available to us.

 

Then came the first experiences of the Double Goddess Massage. We always knew it would be a powerful, we didn’t know quite how powerful, deep, healing and pleasurable it would be.

 

The Double Goddess Massage is a gift of receiving for women. It has no agenda, no specific direction or ending. It follows the energy in your body, deeply relaxing, pleasurable and sensual.

 

Before I share more about this, and at the end of the newsletter I’ve included some more of the feedback we got from the Goddess’s we shared this with, as well as from the workshops in Cape Town.

 

The ‘me’ as a teacher and healer is now a ‘we’.

I am SO excited and happy to say that I have begun working with Anne-Marie, teaching and sharing the healing space.

This makes so much more possible, adds a wonderful, exciting and insightful perspective to the workshops.

 

Over the years I’ve been on this wonderful journey I’ve come to know many of the blocks we have to pleasure.

For women, one of the strongest of these is the permission she’ll give herself. So often we see ourselves, women much more than men, as sexual and sensual beings in relation to somebody else. On so many talks and workshops I talk about how we’re sexual and sensual beings in our own right, not dependent on anybody else for pleasure. The more we see this, the more we free ourselves from the limitation that our pleasure is reliant on somebody else.

More than this, so many women have been conditioned to the fact that if somebody gives to them sexually, they have to give something back. One of the deepest gifts you can give a woman is the gift of pleasure with no reciprocation expected. This affirms her, allows her to go fully into the pleasure, into the feelings and sensations. It frees her to be HERSELF.

 

This is one of the gifts that the Double Goddess Massage offers.

We are now ready to share this beautiful and most human time of connection with the world.

The massage is 1 ½ hrs long, just for you.

 

The G-Night workshop, what the G-Spot is, how to find it, yours or hers, what prevents the pleasure, different kinds of internal orgasms, some healing techniques and the basic technique of female ejaculation was just so beautiful. In the candle light of the room, every woman, or her partner, with safety and gentleness and a few giggles, had felt her G-Spot, experienced some of the healing and release, made some new connections and shifted her sexuality to a totally new level.

 

We look forward to sharing so much with you.

 

JOBURG WORKSHOPS

 

EXPANDED ORGASM: THURS 14 JULY, 7 PM

INTRO TO TANTRA: TUES 19 JULY, 7 PM

THE G-NIGHT:  THURS 21 JULY, 7 PM

TANTRIC SENSUAL MASSAGE: SAT 23 JULY, 11 AM

CONSCIOUS SELF-PLEASURING: TUES 26 JULY, 7 PM

THE ART OF SEX: THURS 28 JULY, 7PM

TAOIST SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE: SAT 30 JULY, 11 AM

 

Please email/call for more info

Venue to be confirmed

Discounts available for attending more than one workshop

I am also available for private lessons and consultations

 

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX

The 3 CD set, just under 4 hours of talks on Tantra, Relationships, Men, Women, Sensuality, Sexual Body work and Healing is R280.

‘I have learned so much from this, I’m listening to it for the 3rd time!’

‘We are able to talk about so many things for the first time ever after listening to this together. This is such a gift, we have never had this level of communication before.’

 

 

ABOUT JONTI SEARLL

Jonti is a Tantra Teacher & Sensualist. He offers workshops, talks, private and group lessons in the field of sexuality & sensuality. He assists singles, couples and groups in healing, creating a deeper connection, intimacy, pleasure and the magic between sex and spirituality. His tailor made programmes incorporate Tantra, coaching, bodywork, meditation, and practical exercises. He has extensive media coverage with the latest being the Sunday Times; Shape Magazine and You Pulse. He appears on Kaya FM on the first Wednesday of every month at 21.00.

FEEDBACK

 

‘Thank you both so much for the time we shared last night and for the gifts of your bliss massage and presence and loving energy.

Here are a few words of my experience of our time together………..

Waves of energy creeping up the shoreline of my body

as my skin rises to meet four hands, two hearts, and……myself.

An electric current of pleasure and sweet surrender awakens this goddess.

Deeply honoured is how I feel, in this space of sacred ritual and pleasure,

‘though mine is a pleasure not erotic, not of arousal……….

but rather of deep nurturing, subtle sensuality, quiet intimacy

that invites me in with a force and presence sublime –

there is nowhere else to go, but through my breath

into this wave of awakening that each stroke, each point of contact, evokes.

 

I am still and quiet, and deeply, deeply present to everything,

even the pain I feel when my yoni begins to awaken and speak…..

she feels each nuance of touch, yet there is no pleasure in her song,

The pleasure that her and I have shared so many times before, is silent.

Even though she relaxes deeply into her openness,

her song is blandly insipid, devoid of emotion and feeling –

just quiet and silent and present,

a hollow voice in the desert – feeling, but not feeling,

a surprised and bewildered sense of vacancy and absence.

It feels as if, this time, something deep has been touched,

something unknown, something that is calling to her,

but what it is…… is not yet clear.

 

In this place of deep surrender and letting go,

there is nothing to do, and this non-doing reveals

an aspect of her that has gone unheard for the longest time.

In this place of deep presence,

she shows me something of herself that surprises me

and leaves me with unanswered questions

and a sense of possibility for so much healing, releasing,

opening, surrendering, evolving, allowing…….

 

It is what it is…………….

This experience of being touched by these divine hands of healing,

these blissful breaths of spirit, these hearts of love,

these beautiful beings of such deep presence and sacred touch,

leaves me, in the end, resting in a space of such exquisite peace and stillness…

no thoughts, no emotions, no feelings –

resting in a place beyond all of this,

a place so much closer to the essence of who I am.’

 

‘Thank you both sooo much. I am still orgasiming (is that a word). My experience was awesome, exciting, I have been in a constant intense orgasmic and heightened sexual space since.’

‘I have finally made the connection between sexual and spiritual.’

‘Wow, it took me all of yesterday to recover from the session on Wednesday. I was an emotional mess! But it seems I have rediscovered the poet who lived in my head when I was a girl. The only way to recover from tantra is creativity, not research, inspection and scientific thought.’

Switch to our mobile site