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‘It’s really difficult to describe this experience, the words we have are not quite enough. What I can say is it changed my life. And I don’t say that lightly. I learned more about myself in the time I spent with Jonti, what I do in relationships, what I do with sex than 8 months of therapy taught me.’

Sensual Massage is a journey into the energy pathways of our being. It’s expression, Sensual Touch, uses the body as a reflection of what is happening inside of us, then as a doorway in to change things, patterns, beliefs and actions that prevent us being happy, having the experiences we’d like to have, the quality of relationship and connection we crave.

The body holds all that we are, thoughts, experiences, the past, the limitations, the inhibitions, the pains, the longings. The body will tell us things the mind never will. The mind justifies, rationalises, explains, finds reasons for. It’s influenced by the past, the future, the could’s, should’s, what ifs…

These express as patterns and actions that are limited. A good way to understand this is to see these patterns as a stream, a limited stream that can only flow in one way, with limited possibilities. Every time we’re in a particular situation, a pattern kicks in, it’s not conscious, and we respond in the same way.

When we enlarge the stream, we change the possibilities. We can make choices, we become aware, conscious. We can do something differently.

‘There’s something magical in this, things change. I became aware of what I’d been doing in relationships for so long, the men I’d been involved with and saw that it would never have been different. And I saw how to do things differently.’

When we can enlarge the energy flow, remove the blockages, when we can relax we can release. Then things change. We can’t force the change, we can’t fight, because the mind will beat us every time. We can allow it. Then it becomes real, deep and lasting.

‘I was nervous about this, I’d never done anything like this, I’m 42, my body is not great, but within about 10 minutes I felt safe and after a while realised how natural this was, this is how so much of life should be.’

Safety is vital for healing and release. The safer we feel, the more we relax. The more we relax the more we let go. The more the energy can flow. The more we can let the mind go, even for a short time. The more we can release. The body does it for us. The mind wants to hold on. The body wants to let go. This touch allows that, encourages that. It happens without a struggle. Healing becomes easy.

The mind wants to control, hold the boxes in place, keep itself busy holding it all together.

When we release in the body, we give the mind something new to look at, think about, do.

Then change happens.

‘The touch was so gentle on my lower back, but it was so painful. It showed me what was there, I realised how long that had been there for and how long I’d ignored it, pushed it down every time.’

Gentleness changes things.

It allows us to expand.

Pain on any level contracts us, traps us, keeps us in a place, a pattern, no choice.

Gentleness frees us.

There is no struggle. It flows, through us, through our bodies, into our lives.

As we expand, choice expands.

‘I came to have a sensual massage as an experience, a big adventure. I’d heard about, read about it, thought it would be lots of fun and pleasure. I researched yoni massage, had never found my G-spot and was told this would help me do that.’

A principle of Eastern sexuality is that we can use our sexual energy for more than ‘just sex’. The energy is so powerful, it’s our life-force, our essence. We can direct this in many ways, use the energy for healing, for creativity, for growth and transformation.

‘I was struggling to have orgasms and thought this massage would help me. It did, in a way I never thought possible. I had an experience of such pleasure, something I never thought existed in me. And then I saw something amazing, how other parts of my life changed.’

Our sexuality is connected to every aspect of our being.

It’s our self-definition, connected to our creativity, our personal power, our self-confidence, our ability to manifest, to change things, to heal so much, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually that has nothing to do with sex.

It’s just using a power that’s there.

In every one of us.

‘I felt loved, I felt honoured, maybe for the first time I actually understood what that meant. It was strange situation to feel it in, but I knew then that it was possible to feel that way and I could bring people into my life to have these feelings. I never had to settle for anything else. Because I am worth more.’

Sensual Massage is an intimate experience. The connection that the touch creates makes so much possible.

And, even if for an hour or so, you can feel loved, you can feel beautiful, you can feel honoured, you can begin to change what you’d like, release that which prevents you living the life you’d like, free yourself.

We wish you so much pleasure.

Jonti and Anne-Marie.

JOHANNESBURG WORKSHOPS 

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

INTRODUCTION TO TANTRA WORKSHOP – TUES 8TH NOV – 7PM

This workshop begins with the principles of Tantra Evolution, which gives a framework for relationships and sexual experiences

R300 per person, singles and couples

THE ART OF LOVEMAKING, INCLUDING SLOW UNION AND THE LOVE DANCE – 

THURS 10 NOV – 7PM

R300/PERSON, SINGLES AND COUPLES

This workshop focuses on sexual skills, beginning with the exquisite art of oral pleasure for men and women. Slow Union and The Love Dance, based on years of research, show you how to heighten and intensify intimacy and pleasure and give you keys for women to orgasm during lovemaking.

PERMISSION TO PLEASURE (WOMEN ONLY WORKSHOP)- SAT 12TH NOVEMBER – FULL DAY

Becoming fully conscious sexually for women, and learning how to link sexuality and spirituality  unlocks self love from the heart, and deepens understanding of how energy works in the body.

Learning how to consciously and practically do this, with Tantric principles and exercises helps open women up to the possibilities of pleasure.

As Einstein said, to keep doing the same things and expect different results is the definition of insanity.

When a woman gives herself permission for pleasure, she frees herself.

Her decisions can be made differently, leading to real and tangible change.

Full day workshop includes lunch and a goodie bag with two DVDs from Tantra Evolution, R850 per woman

For more information on massage therapies or DVD’s available please visit:

www.tantraevolution.com

A fascinating aspect coming out of the journeys of healing and exploration we’re doing with people at the moment is how few of us own our own sexuality. This extends into our bodies, our genitals and our pleasure.

We generally only see ourselves sexual beings in relation to somebody else. Our sensuality,sexuality and pleasure happens in response to their presence. And it becomes dependent on their response to us. Essentially we need them and their permission to be sexual.

The truth is that we are sexual and sensual beings in our own right, regardless of the relationship we’re in or not.

However, this means that we are responsible for our pleasure, our sexual health, growth and exploration.

Which means we have to claim, reclaim and take ownership of our bodies, our genitals and our sexuality.

The separation begins in childhood, where we’re told not to touch our genitals, where all sorts of words that have nothing to do with bodies are used, and our genitals become something apart from the rest of us.

Then the sex education we’re given is based on negativity and fear, how not to get pregnant, how not to contract any sexual diseases.

It’s not based on how to, it’s not often connected to pleasure or put in a context that celebrates the beauty of the body and the possibilities of pleasure. It’s very rare that we receive open, non-judgemental information that fosters exploration in a safe way. Even as adults the beliefs we hold about sex, the level of knowledge we have and the way we have sex is filled with misinformation, guilt, embarrassment and shame.

We grow up in a society where self- pleasuring is still a taboo subject. Conscious Self-Pleasuring, not just having an orgasm, is one of the most beautiful and powerful processes on the journey of reclaiming your sexuality.

Simply having an orgasm on your own doesn’t extend the ownership of your body or pleasure to you, it just means you can have an orgasm. As it does with a partner,’ he or she, made me come, gave me an orgasm.’

Instead of ‘I chose to have an orgasm, I allowed myself the pleasure, I took it for myself.’

When we claim our sexuality we free ourselves from expectations.

Firstly the expectations of others, how they want us to respond, need us to respond, what their sexual beliefs and limitations are. Because, until we own our sexuality, we will conform to their, whoever they may be, an individual or society, their sexual expectation of us.

Then we free ourselves from how things should be to what they are, really are. Which allows us to go beyond illusion and expectation to what is. We can choose, consciously choose, the experiences, the relationships, the boundaries of our sensuality and sexuality.

You claim your desire, you are able to go beyond what you ‘should and shouldn’t', beyond judgement that was imposed on you by others, limitations that you accepted.

You decide, you choose…

For you are a being of pleasure, celebrating your beauty, your power.

JOHANNESBURG WORKSHOPS   

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

TANTRIC SENSUAL AND EROTIC MASSAGE, SAT 22 OCT, 11 AM, R1800/COUPLE  

INTRODUCTION TO TANTRA WORKSHOP – TUES 8TH NOV – 7PM

This workshop begins with the principles of Tantra Evolution, which gives a framework for relationships and sexual experiences

R300 per person, singles and couples

THE ART OF LOVEMAKING, INCLUDING SLOW UNION AND THE LOVE DANCE – 

THURS 10 NOV – 7PM

R300/PERSON, SINGLES AND COUPLES

This workshop focuses on sexual skills, beginning with the exquisite art of oral pleasure for men and women. Slow Union and The Love Dance, based on years of research, show you how to heighten and intensify intimacy and pleasure and give you keys for women to orgasm during lovemaking.

PERMISSION TO PLEASURE (WOMEN ONLY WORKSHOP)- SAT 12TH NOVEMBER – FULL DAY

Becoming fully conscious sexually for women, and learning how to link sexuality and spirituality often unlocks self love from the heart, and deepens our spiritual understandings of how energy works in our body. Learning how to consciously and practically do this, with Tantric principles teaches us as women how to give ourselves permission to expand our life experiences in every arena. When women are given practical tools and exercises opening themselves to their deepest energy, that of their sexuality and sensuality, it enables them to change their communication patterns, see themselves differently and start making choices from a place of self worth and power.

As Einstein said, to keep doing the same things and expect different results is the definition of insanity, to really change things in our lives as women, we need practical ways to change the issues that prevent us from living fully in our power. When a woman gives herself permission for pleasure, her choices can be made differently, leading to real and tangible change in her life

Full day workshop includes lunch and a goodie bag with two DVDs from Tantra Evolution, R850 per woman

We so look forward to sharing with you, and wish you so much pleasure..

Jonti & Anne-Marie