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The Mystery of The G-Spot

November 30, 2012 in Sexual Health and Education

The Mystery of The G-Spot

 

At almost every talk we give, regardless of the topic, someone asks about the G-Spot.

At almost every workshop, regardless of the topic, someone asks about the G-Spot.

 

The question is asked by both men and women.

Do I have one, does she have one?

I’ve been rooting around inside myself, her, for hours and haven’t found anything.

I’ve read the articles on the web, in the magazines, in the books, still can’t find anything.

I’m sure only some women have it, because I definitely DON’T!

 

You do.

You all do.

There are just a few things they don’t tell you.

 

Let’s look first, or feel first, couldn’t resist, at what the G-Spot is.

In the world of Tantra this is called the Goddess Spot.

Because the pleasure possibilities take you to place of Elevated, Heightened Pleasure, a place beyond what we think pleasure is, a place where the Goddess experiences herself.

 

The G-Spot is a gland.

It has about 40 ducts that create fluids linked to your fertility, your hormone balance and fluid that you can ejaculate.

It’s a VERY DEFINITE PHYSICAL STRUCTURE.

It’s being seen on ultrasound, it’s being found in dissection.

And beyond that, it’s palpable for you to feel, it’s unmistakable!

Which makes you think, where has it been, how could it have been missed?

 

If all this is the case, which it is, why do so many women, and their partner’s, struggle to find this?

 

Because, and this is what so few of the articles tell you, it’s linked to your past, to your beliefs about sex, to the inhibitions you have, to the negative, painful, unfulfilled sexual and emotional experiences you’ve had.

All of those things, all the times in life you’ve been made to feel less than, not good enough, every time you’ve given your self, your power away in a way that has not been for you.

That sits in the tissues of your G-Spot.

 

Every time you’ve been touched in a way that has not been an expression of love.

That sits in the tissues of your G-Spot.

Every time you’ve felt guilty about pleasure.

That sits in the tissues of your G-Spot.

Every time you’ve felt shameful, dirty or embarrassed about your body, about your sexuality, about your desire.

That sits in the tissues of your G-Spot.

 

You can feel for this for hours, as many people do.

You might feel something physical in terms of structure inside your yoni.

And for so many, it’s numb, tender or even painful.

So despite feeling the gland, if there’s no pleasure, what’s the point?

And if there’s no pleasure, then I don’t have a G-Spot.

 

Learning to physically find this is only the first step.

Releasing what’s there is what allows the pleasure.

 

And what pleasure!!!

G-Spot Orgasms, Deep Uterine Orgasms, Blended Orgasms, Waves of Bliss, Ejaculation, Sexual Meditative States…

 

So why is this important, beyond the pleasure?

Because most women can have, in some way, fingers, tongues, vibrators, clitoral orgasms. Which on any given day are nice, ok, wonderful, amazing…

 

Firstly it is about the pleasure.

An increase in pleasure that’s hard to describe until you’ve experienced it.

 

Then it’s about power.

Your power as woman.

This is a portal to the State of a Goddess.

For in the release you claim yourself.

You claim your pleasure.

You free yourself from the limitations of the past. From the inhibitions, the guilt, the shame, the embarrassment, the repression, the lack of self expression etc.

 

Then it’s about spirituality.

For the higher and deeper states of pleasure are doorways to spiritual experiences, higher states of consciousness, meditative states and more.

 

And it’s also about creativity.

For your sexual energy and your creative energy are one and the same.

When the energy flows, you have the power, the resources, to create your life, your relationships, your world, the way you would like it to be.

 

One of the principles of Conscious Sexuality is using our sexual energy for more than just pleasure. Building and harnessing that energy, directing the power, accessing more of ourselves…

 

Releasing the blockages, the patterns of the past, what we’ve become, is the first step on the journey of be-coming.

Creating who we’d like to be, the lives we’d like to live.

 

And when we do this with the energy of pleasure, the possibilities are endless…

 

If you’d like a practical guide to finding your, or her G-Spot, please send us an email, we’ll happily share that with you.

Please remember that often that’s the first step on this wonderful journey into your pleasure.

Much of the work we do with women is about awakening these pathways and opening the door to more of yourself.

 

We wish you so much pleasure..

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Booking is essential for all workshops, please contact Jonti:

jontisearll@mweb.co.za

or phone: 083 743 5129

www.tantraevolution.com

 

JOHANNESBURG WORKSHOPS

Saturday 8 December 12pm

Tantric & Sensual Massage Workshop

 

A practical journey for couples, into the exciting pleasures of Sensual Massage. The workshop includes the principles of Sensual Touch and Massage, Energy Connection Massage, The Heart Touch, Bliss Body Massage, Building the Sexual Fire and Full Body

Sensual Massage.

R2000 per couple

 

Our friend and fellow tantrika, Rohan Reddy is putting together an event called “Tantragasm” for more info on this exciting happening, click on the link below

 

http://www.facebook.com/events/331340396973615/

 

www.tantraevolution.com

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

 

The Doorway of Sexual Technique

November 23, 2012 in Uncategorized

The Doorway of Sexual Technique

 

We’ve lately been talking a lot about sexual technique, watching a range of DVD’s that people have given to us and reading a fair amount of articles on aspects of techniques.

We teach a wide range of sexual techniques on our workshops and in private lessons. It’s also something we include in journeys of healing and growth.

Many people come and see us to improve this aspect of their lives.

 

We’d like to share some thoughts with you about technique.

 

It’s often the first part of a journey of sexual learning.

This comes from a few places.

One of these is understanding that we just don’t know enough about sex to really give our partner’s great pleasure.

We don’t know enough about our bodies, about their bodies, about where, even what, everything is, where it is, how to find it, what you do with it once you’ve found it…

 

Then there’s the how to. How to do many of the things we’ve read about, heard about, seen in movies, found on the internet, what’s the truth about various acts, experiences etc.

 

Sometimes, for both men and women, this is ego driven.

There is a great emphasis in our society on information. We’re taught that the more information we have, the more we know, the better we’ll be at something, the better we’ll do it.

That’s the key word here.

Do, doing.

We want to ‘doing a good lover’.

 

Some of the problems with sexual information are where it comes from, how much is actually myth as opposed to truth, and how is it contextualised, what does it link to, connect to.

And most important of all, what doors does it open.

 

This is where a sexual journey, and the way we express, explore and experience our sexuality, is not only a reflection of our life, but also a space and opportunity to change other areas of our lives.

 

The first element of this is understanding that our sexual patterns are the deepest we have.

 

Then seeing that the amount of information we’re going to be exposed to is always limited. As technology moves in our world the amount of information put out in every field grows at a pace we simply cannot keep up with.

Connected to this is the source of the information and it’s level of truth.

Just because it’s in a book, on the web, even in mainstream media is no longer an indication of its truth and validity.

This is particularly true when it comes to research, who funded the research, what’s the point they’re fulfilling, what idea, product etc is it out to enhance.

And in terms of information, all that we do is repeat what we’ve read, heard or seen with very little personal input or discernment.

Especially when it comes to sex.

Because he or she is a porn star, has a lot of sex, they must know…

 

To be gently tactful, I think not.

 

We’d like to offer you a perspective that sexual technique, in all its wonderful possibilities, is a doorway.

On it’s own it certainly is going to give you more information.

If you don’t know about the G-Spot, A- Spot, His deep pleasure spots, sexual breathing, some Tantra etc, you are definitely lacking as a lover.

And if that’s all you know, as much as you might know, you are definitely lacking as a lover.

 

The techniques are doorways, portals.

To emotional connection, to exploring your inner world, your partner’s inner world, your hearts, your souls, your minds…

They show you where you’ve come from, what your journey has been, the decisions you made about relationships, about your body, about sex, mostly before you were even consciously thinking about sex.

The techniques become a way in .

They also become a way out of where we are to something else, something more, something, deeper, higher, whatever it is we’re looking for.

 

This is where we have to step beyond information into knowing.

The first level of knowing is experiencing, feeling, sensation, emotion.

We have to be open. Even if it’s just the willingness at first. Because so many of us have become so closed, so disconnected, so compartmentalised.

When we’ll ourselves to start knowing, we start the journey to power, to empowerment.

Then it becomes less about what somebody told us, what we read or heard, it becomes more about what we KNOW. Our inner resources, our gifts and talents, what we have within.

It becomes more about our truth, more about who we are rather than how much we know. It’s more about what we know.

What has value, what expands us, what grows us, what brings us greater fulfillment, more joy, more love, more excitement, more adventure…

 

It becomes, our sexuality, our relationship, our experiences, our lives, become a personal expression of who we are, REALLY are.

Growing, expanding, asking, seeking, searching, changing beings.

The gift of many sexual techniques, the different Massage Techniques, Expanded Orgasm, Tantra, the Taoist Practices and more, so much more, is their opening us to more.

Learning them is just the first step.

Will you have more pleasure? Absolutely!

But there’s more, so much more.

 

It’s a choice.

Most of us have chosen to be consciously unconscious.

Our lives, our relationships, our country and our world clearly show this.

 

There is a way to have, even if it’s just a little more, a little more pleasure, a slightly deeper connection, a little more intimacy, a definitely more intense orgasm…

 

And once you’ve opened the door, well, he said with a knowing smile, once you’ve opened the door..

 

Anne-Marie writes:

So many women are eager to learn more about how to pleasure their men, and I’ve always wondered why men don’t seem so eager. I’ve come to realize that they are just as eager, they do want to know more about their partners, but just don’t know where to go to get the REAL information. Our workshop for men only,  “What Women Want” on the 27th November is a way for men to safely be guided in some real knowledge and practicalities that can change their sexual, sensual and intimacy levels with their partners forever. I stand by the statement that a truly pleasured women really does want to have a lot of sex, play, and sensual interaction, and often women will not tell their partners what they really want. So, come and learn with us, hear the truth, open yourself to more pleasure for yourself through really learning about your partner…

 

Workshops & Events

 Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

  Contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

  or: jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

  Johannesburg Workshops

 

 

  Tuesday 27th November, 7pm, R350/person.

  What Women Want

  An evening for men only talking about the mystery of women.

  This fun, exciting and expanding evening includes aspects of communication, how men and women communicate differently, the difference between sex and sensuality, the secret of what women REALLY want sexually, some secrets from The Art of F**king, how to find her G-Spot…

  We will also do a live Yoni Massage demo, showing you some of the pleasure possibilities.

 

  Thursday 29th November, 7:30pm, R350/person.

  An evening of Sensual Play for couples

 

  Saturday 1st December

  The Goddess Awakening

  A full day workshop for women only, starting with a breathwork session in the morning, how breath and relaxation can open up libido and sexual energy as well as energy for the day to day requirements of being a women, then a light lunch and moving into learning the principles of  Solo Expanded Orgasm and the practical experience of that in the afternoon.

 

 

 CAPE TOWN WORKSHOPS

 We’d love to share with you in Dec and have so much to offer.

 As well as the workshops, we have created a beautiful new experience, we would like to offer the opportunity for some deep healing, learning, exploring and growth.

 We plan to be in Cape Town for Dec and are available for private journeys for singles and couples.

 This is an opportunity to clear sexual blockages, free your sexual energy, release the patterns of the past and open the door to doing things differently in your life.

 These programmes will be 4-6 sessions, each is personalised based on your energy and needs.

 The workshops and healing/growth programmes are dependent on your bookings. We’d really appreciate your sharing this info with people you know who may be interested.

 The workshop venue will be confirmed soon.

 Discounts are avilable for attending more than 1 workshop.

 

 An Introduction to Tantra Evolution, Mon 3rd Dec, 7pm, R350/person.

 A talk on Tantra Evolution, the principles of exploring, healing and growing in sexuality, the power of sensuality, what spiritual sex is, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality etc.

 We’ll share some gentle exercises of sensuality.

 We’ll also talk about the workshops and healing journeys.

 This is for singles and couples.

 

 Expanded Orgasm With a Difference, Tues 4th Dec, 7pm, R350/person.

 

 An Evening of Tantric Sensual Experience, Wed 5th Dec, 7pm, R350/person.

 A new experience we have created, a time of giving and receiving, healing, growing, feeling. You are guided through processes of touch and sharing, experiencing the beauty of your body in a gentle, non-sexual way, feeling your heart, feeling your soul.

 This experience involves nudity, singles and couples.

 

 The G-Spot and Other Elements of Female Sexuality, Thurs 6th Dec, 7pm, R350/person.

 A fascinating evening into the mysteries of the Yoni, the G-Spot, The A-Spot, Extended Clitoral Nerves and more.

 We look at sexual patterning, why women struggle to experience internal orgasms, the messages we are given and the impact on our pleasure, sexuality and relationships. The evening includes how to find your, or her G-Spot, how to wake up to deeper and more fulfilling pleasure.

 There will be an opportunity for practical exploration after the workshop.

 This is for singles and couples.

 

 Tantric Sensual Massage and Sacred Sexual Massage, Sat 8th Dec.

 Sensual Massage begins at 12pm, R2000/couple, Sacred Sexual Massage at 6pm, R800/couple, R2300 for both.

 

 We wish you so much pleasure

 Jonti and Anne-Marie

Tantric Touch

November 5, 2012 in Sexual Health and Education

Tantric Touch

 

Touch is the language of your body.

It tells you what words cannot.

It allows you, your body, your being to tell your story.

And to create a new one.

 

Imagine a touch that comes from the heart, that comes through the heart.

A touch that taps into a flow of universal energy.

This touch has no name, beyond what we give it.

This touch has no limitation on what it makes possible.

 

Imagine a touch that is slow, so slow.

And the slowness relaxes you.

Imagine a touch that is gentle, so gentle.

And the gentleness slips right inside you.

And in this space your body begins to talk.

It tells your story.

Your pain and hurt, your inhibition and limitation.

That which was done to you, that which you allowed, that which you did.

 

Imagine that this touch, this Heart Touch, helps your body release these.

Slowly, softly, you let go.

There is no force, there is no struggle, there is no resistance, there is no conflict.

There is just release.

And the lightness that comes with the letting go.

Imagine this touch has a warmth that soothes the release as it strokes your skin.

 

Imagine this touch allows your body to melt, to expand.

Imagine this touch allows the energy pathways to open.

These pathways are the patterns of our lives.

Until we expand these frequencies we cannot heal, we cannot release, we cannot change.

For these are our lives, these are what we do.

And our energy goes where it knows.

 

Imagine that this touch, as it slowly opens our bodies, as it slowly allows our hearts and souls to talk to our bodies, to us.

Imagine that this touch allows you to begin to create possibilities.

Imagine that this happens as you release, as you allow the expansion.

Imagine that this happens without you having to do anything other than be willing.

Imagine that once this has started happening, once you realise that it’s happening, you can, consciously, with awareness, begin to make different choices.

 

Imagine that this touch allows you to be part of this mystical process.

Change happens, healing becomes growth.

Imagine that this touch takes you deeper into the story of your life.

For once the healing has begun, once your body begins the release, it starts to talk of your desires, of your dreams, the longing of your heart, the secrets of your soul.

 

Imagine that this touch, this Heart Touch, is fueled by pleasure. Sacred Pleasure.

For the frequency of pleasure is higher than that of pain.

Imagine that this frequency is higher than that of limitation, of inhibition, of shame, of guilt, of embarrassment.

Imagine that this frequency is closer to freedom, to choice, to empowerment.

 

This is what we offer, this touch.

Imagine…

 

As our understanding and expansion of this touch grows we are continuously offering new healing, growth and pleasure possibilities.

One of these is the Heart/Yoni/Lingam Connection, a deep experience of joining Heart and Sexual Energy.

 

Jonti and Anne-Marie

 

www.tantraevolution.com

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

www.conscioustouch.tumblr.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

Workshops & Events

 

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

Contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

or: jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

 

WORKSHOPS

 

The workshops and experiences are growing in so many ways, offering a path to such deeper levels of intimacy, pleasure and connection.

The recent Aqua Flow and Sacred Sexual Massages were just beautiful.

 

‘This has changed the way I see touching my lover for ever.’

‘The closeness we felt with each other was amazing, something we’ve been looking for so long but never knew how to create.’

‘I felt so many new sensations.’

‘I never thought I’d feel so safe and so natural being nude in this way, it’s opened the way I see myself.’

‘Everybody should have this experience at least once.’

 

Johannesburg Workshops

Tantric Sensual Massage

 

Many of our workshops take place in conjunction with Pharaohs Fantasy Club, which offers a beautiful, sensual venue for these experiences.

 

We have two dates available for this, Saturday 17th or Sunday 18th November, first bookings decide the date

Tuesday 20th November

Introduction to Tantra

 

Thursday 22nd November

Expanded Orgasm with a Difference

The first part of this workshop is as we usually teach it, using latex models of the genitals, which will be the complete lesson of this amazing technique. Then we’re going to do a live demo, which you can stay and watch. Then you have the opportunity to experience the technique. For the first time we’re opening this practical experience to singles and couples. This means that in a safe space, with clear boundaries, you can come as a man or woman, learn about the pleasure this can give, then have some time to give or receive this with somebody there.

 

Tuesday 27th November

What Women Want

An evening for men only talking about the mystery of women.

This fun, exciting and expanding evening includes aspects of communication, how men and women communicate differently, the difference between sex and sensuality, the secret of what women REALLY want sexually, some secrets from The Art of Fucking, how to find her G-Spot…

We will also do a live Yoni Massage demo, showing you some of the pleasure possibilities.

 

Thursday 29th November

An evening of Sensual Play for couples

 

Saturday 1st December

The Goddess Awakening

A full day workshop for women only, starting with a breathwork session in the morning, how breath and relaxation can open up libido and sexual energy as well as energy for the day to day requirements of being a women, then a light lunch and moving into learning the principles of  Solo Expanded Orgasm and the practical experience of that in the afternoon.

 

 

 

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