You are browsing the archive for 2013 April.

The Culture of Pleasure, The Language of Pleasure

April 14, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Culture of Pleasure, The Language of Pleasure

Over the past year we’ve had the privilege of working with people from many different backgrounds and cultures.
This covers a spectrum of religion, race, nation and belief.

The more time we spend with different people, the more we see the universality of connection.
And the principles of Conscious Sexuality are proving to be quite universal.
There’s also a language and culture that we all speak.
What’s closer to the truth is that we wish we were talking this language, wish we were immersed in this culture.

Two conversations I had this week with people we’re working with really brought this home to me.
And they were with very diverse people, one a black couple, the other a 60yr old woman on a beautiful journey of discovery and growth.

The first conversation revolved around the fact that so few cultures have pleasure as an integral part of their expression.
The second was about the language of pleasure.
We have very limited language to talk about pleasure, never mind to express the subtleties and nuances of different states of sensual delights and heightened sexuality.

First let’s look at what pleasure means.
Our context is that of sensuality and sexuality.
The extension of this, and the conversations I had, as well as many others over the years, is that the more we open ourselves to pleasure in this way, the more we open ourselves to pleasure in every aspect of our lives.

We live in a world where pain on so many levels pervades our being. It surrounds us, the media fills our space and senses with pain.
We also live in a world where we do so many things to dull us from feeling.
And as we dull the pain we dull the pleasure.
It’s not a semi-permeable that let’s somethings through and not others.
And as much as dulling our senses, we happily live in a world that encourages mediocrity and conformity.

If we’d like to open ourselves to greater pleasure we have to learn a new language, we have to be willing to adopt a new culture.
If you look at how much of the language we use is about limitation, about contraction, about
how something good can’t last, about how much of a good thing you can have…
This is not limited to sex.
This is for all of life.

For most of us, sex happens in a vacuum.
It’s not linked to any other aspect of our lives.
When we start to open to pleasure, we start to open to possibility.
First, our sexual pleasure increases, radically.
Opening to pleasure means just that, opening to pleasure. Not just to having an orgasm, but to pleasure.
We make a mind-shift.

And from this we start to drift into Socrates’ territory, the unexamined life is not worth living.
We look at what we want from life, from experiences, from relationships.
And we hopefully start to ask important questions, how much pleasure will we allow ourselves, give ourselves permission to have, and how happy are we willing to be?

These are dangerous questions.
They’ll challenge us, they’ll bring us face to face with ourselves, with the choices and decisions we’ve made, with who we’ve become, with what we’ve allowed into our lives.
If we’re willing to be honest.
And if we choose, consciously choose, we can start to change something, slowly, quickly…
We can allow for more pleasure, more happiness, more fun, more joy, more celebration.

Sexual Energy is a beautiful teacher of this new language, of this new culture.
It raises our energy, our vibration.
It makes us happier, we feel more alive, more creative, more connected, more open, more expansive, more attractive.
Some important words there.
More attractive. Not only in a physical sense, not only liking ourselves more, but more attractive to what life has to offer, to people, to experiences.
And if our attraction is filled with more of the shining radiance of pleasure, that’s what we will attract more of.
Then we’re more open to receive, and because we’re more expansive, the array of possibilities increase.

You see, it’s all about energy.
The more Conscious Pleasure Energy, (CPE), within you, the more CPE you put out, the more CPE you receive.
You raise your vibration, things shift.
Because our lives, our world, are but reflections of what’s within us.
As we change the language with which we talk to ourselves, we change the language of our lives, we change our culture.

We’d love to teach you some new words, help you have some new experiences, see a little more of the beautiful being you are.

The Sacred Sexual Massage evening was just SO beautiful. The intimacy and pleasure that everyone there experienced was an absolute gift. As one of the women said a few days later, ‘I never knew I was capable of such pleasure, never knew this stuff existed, thank you with a big fat kiss’. And to hear a man with a big smile say, ‘That was NICE!!!’.

We are getting excited about Tues night’s Free Talk, it’s always wonderful to meet and share with you.
This is a great way to find out a little of what we offer, how the healing and growth journey works, what happens on the workshops etc.
Annie has created a beautiful intro to this, we’ve put it on FB and YouTube:
http://youtu.be/J6eIcjhacQw

 

On Facebook:

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10151534567847590,
We wish you so much pleasure..

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Events & Workshops

Durban/PMB

At last some things are coming together for a few workshops in Natal later this month. There is a very good chance we will be there from 24th April.
If you live in the area and are interested in the workshops please send us a mail so we can let you know.
This will be confirmed in the next few days.

SEXPO is coming to Durban this year, 7-9 June.
We’ll have stand, do talks, have something new and exciting AND are doing yoni massage demo’s. If you’d like to be a model for this beautiful experience please let us know.

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Booking essential

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.
The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.
This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.
Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.
We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.
This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 4th May

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.
This practical experience is for couples.
We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.
We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.
It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

Time: 11 am
Venue: To be confirmed
Cost: R2500/couple

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

 

Beyond Orgasm

April 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Out beyond orgasm is a field of possibility.

This is space where there is no limit to emotion, to sensation, to feeling.

It’s a place of magic.

It’s a place where the essence of being swirls, where we can experience our true selves.

 

It’s out beyond orgasm.

To get there we have to go beyond orgasm.

 

For most of us, men much more so than women, this requires a BIG shift.

It’s one of the most important principles of Conscious Sexuality and has the key to so much.

Firstly it’s a path to expanded states of pleasure, then it’s a tool for accessing and using sexual energy for meditation, for healing, for growth, for self-exploration, for transformation, for higher states of consciousness and more.

 

Very often when we do yoni massage we deliberately don’t have the goal of orgasm in mind.

At first this is often confusing. You’ve come to have a yoni massage, to experience the pleasure, there’s all the expectation of this huge orgasm.

You can have orgasms, plenty. Annie has identified 13 different orgasms for women.

But there’s more.

So we suggest that you be willing to have a different experience.

To go beyond orgasm.

 

Now when men come to have a lingam or Taoist massage we suggest the same thing.

Allow yourself to experience something different, allow your sexual energy to expand, to take you some where you’ve never been before.

Because there are many different states of pleasure available to men.

And to experience these you need to go beyond orgasm.

 

Let’s look at why this is so difficult, and sometimes challenging an idea.

 

The first reason is that we’ve made the definition of successful sex orgasm.

The true definition of successful sex is pleasure.

And the paths of pleasure are many.

Next is the pattern, particularly for men. As a man every time you’ve had a sexual experience, from the time you started touching yourself, you’ve had an orgasm. So you think that’s the way it should be.

Then there’s the wonderful ego idea of ‘I have to make her come’. A wonderfully destructive belief that the media have helped along with gusto.

And then there’s the possibility that most of us just don’t know any different, we have no idea what else is out there, or how to access it.

And so we get stuck in orgasm being all there is.

 

If we’re willing to allow the idea in that there’s more we can open ourselves to worlds of pleasure, sensation, emotion and possibility so vast they probably are without limitation.

 

In pleasure terms, if we’re willing to go beyond the orgasm barrier, and it is often a barrier to these higher states, we open firstly our entire body to pleasure.

It simply has to happen.

Instead of feeling the sensations purely in our pelvis, they spread through the whole body, everywhere tingles, vibrates, oscillates, shouts, screams, sings with Oh Yes Yes Yes!

And just wants to stay there. And have more.

Which it can.

In this space we start to experience different kinds of pleasure, so much, subtle, gentle, overwhelming…it’s all there.

And it’s always different.

 

This gives us an understanding of sexual energy. Which we can only have through experience. We can talk about sexual energy forever. Until we’ve experienced it we have no idea of what it is.

 

As the energy moves through us we start to experience different things, different feelings, emotions, sensations…

It takes us places, physically, emotionally, sensually, spiritually…

We simply have to be there, to allow it.

 

If we choose to learn a little about this energy and its ways we can access it, direct it, guide it, allow it to guide us.

It opens worlds within worlds.

 

But first we have to be willing to go beyond orgasm…

 

 

Understanding the energy of going beyond orgasm is something we teach in many workshops. It’s an important aspect of the Sacred Sexual Massage workshop on Thurs night. This is a beautiful evening for couples, filled with intimacy and pleasure and techniques for going beyond.

 

 

 

As we continue to develop and explore healing and growth possibilities we add Mystical 8′s to our toolbox.

This is based on an ancient Tibetan energy pattern.

The experience is deeply relaxing, connected to old life patterns as well as enhancing our life energy and vitality.

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Durban

 

At last some things are coming together for a few workshops in Natal later this month. There is a very good chance we will be there from 24th April.

If you live in the area and are interested in the workshops please send us a mail so we can let you know.

This will be confirmed in the next few days.

 

SEXPO is coming to Durban this year, 7-9 June.

We’ll have stand, do talks, have something new and exciting AND are doing yoni massage demo’s. If you’d like to be a model for this beautiful experience please let us know.

 

 

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

 

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

 

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

 

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

 

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

 

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

 

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

 

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

 

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 4th May

 

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

 

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

Anne-Marie is offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, until Saturday 13 April you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

 

 

Renewed Commitment, Renewed Passion

April 2, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Renewed Commitment, Renewed Passion

 

For the first time since I began this work I was able to take some time to do something purely for myself.

This is thanks to Annie, a Goddess Becoming, thank you, my love, for making this possible.

 

I had the privilege of participating in a Vision Quest with Valerie Morris and Judy Bekker in Cape Town. Have a look at their website,rbanet.co.za.

This was an experience of deep connection with myself, with nature and others. It was a time of extraordinary beauty, learning, sharing and growing.

Their guidance and facilitation simply enfold you in a world of possibility.

This is a life changing experience, if you can…

 

I come back from this time with so much.

With greater understanding of this work, of masculine and feminine energies, of relationship patterns and possibilities, of energy flow, of the connection and context of our sexuality to the rest of our lives, so much about healing and growth, what spiritual sexuality is and more.

 

I come back from this time with a renewed commitment to you and to myself.

 

I come back from this time with an increase in my energy, a new depth to my touch, a new connection to my intuition and a renewed understanding of knowing that for me, this work is an expression of love.

 

To you, to offer all that I know to guide you as you heal, to release and change that which no longer serves you, to help you discover and see the patterns in your life, to connect with yourself, re-connect with yourself, reclaim that which you’ve lost, help you discover, uncover, reveal that which is within you that you’d like to bring out into your life, into your world.

 

To you, who come to the pleasure aspect of this work, I offer a deeper understanding of the importance and place of pleasure. I also offer an expansion in the tools we have for pleasure.

 

The place of pleasure on this journey of healing and growth, of transformation, of self-discovery, is paramount.

 

Most of our healing, most of our growth, comes from a place of pain.

Pain is a place to visit, not a place to live.

For so many of us, pain, the pain of our lives, the condition of our lives, our relationships, defines us.

Our lack of fulfillment, our dissatisfaction, our lost dreams, our frustrations, the lack of passion, the narrowness of our lives, the constrictions, inhibitions and limitations we’ve chosen to live with, hold us.

 

By allowing greater pleasure into our lives we can begin to change these, if we choose.

If we choose.

 

We have the possibility to change things in our selves, in our lives, and in our world. Big changes, small changes, whatever we choose.

To be a little happier, more peaceful, have a little more pleasure, more fun, be a little more creative, enjoy waking up more…

 

If we choose…

 

And the path of pleasure offers itself as a guide on this journey.

A beautiful guide, a guide filled with experiences of enchantment and wonder, a guide to bring body, mind, heart and soul together, a guide to show you your own truth, your own self.

 

For every one of us who makes this journey, even if it’s coming to just learn a little more about pleasure, we make it possible for others.

For every one of us who is brave enough to step beyond what we know, a small step, a big step, we make it possible for others.

 

The commitment I make to myself is to do this in the best way I can.

For this is ‘mine to do in the world’.

To keep learning, keep growing, keep expanding.

The purpose of knowledge is to share it. This is the livingness, the manifestation of my journey.

 

I’m here, Anne-Marie is here, committed to the path of Conscious Sexuality.

There’s a way for all of us who’d like to step onto this path.

What we have, we offer…

 

As well as some exciting new workshops we’ll be offering soon we’re also planning Conscious Sexual Retreats and Massage Weekends for later in the year.

One of the most important aspects of the workshops, and we keep getting feedback on this, is that it’s an open forum to express, ask questions, in a non-judgmental space. There are very few sexual spaces like this in our lives.

 

Assistance

 

We are looking for help with 2 things.

Short-term accomodation for a woman, a cottage or flat, close to or between Ferndale and Parkhurst.

 

My daughter is looking for a small car, must be automatic, good condition.

 

Please let us know if you’re aware of possibilities.

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

 

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

 

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

 

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

 

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cnr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

 

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

 

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

 

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 27th April

 

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

We also give you a copy of the DVD of Tantric Sensual Massage valued at R300 to take home with you after this amazing experience.

 

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

 

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

 

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cnr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage (2 weeks left)

Anne-Marie is offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

Switch to our mobile site