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The Warrior Awakening

June 1, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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The Warrior Awakening

 

I’d like to share a moment from my week with you, a moment of beauty and power, a moment of realization, a moment of becoming. Many of the people who come and see us do so from the understanding that our sexual energy is a source of extreme power that can be used for healing and growth in every aspect of our lives.

This goes beyond purely sexual issues. Many of the people I’m working with at the moment are using this energy to clear the blockages and patterns of the past in order to make different life choices and to create lives of greater meaning, joy and fulfilment. Part of this journey for men and women is awakening the warrior within. Many of us have lost our connection to this energy, to what it means to live as a warrior, and how to manifest the power of this in our lives.

So I sat with a man on a journey. At the beginning of the journey we spoke about the importance of awakening this warrior within. Firstly, and most importantly for himself, and secondly for his relationship. He acknowledged that he had no real idea what this warrior is, who this warrior was. My reply was that it would awaken and unfold as we travelled on this journey of healing and growth. In a session this week he spoke about some of the things he had done differently, how, for the first time in so long, in fact so long that he couldn’t remember when he had done it before, he expressed himself, stating clearly what he wanted. This was in the context of giving himself a gift, and the extension, giving his partner support, in a way he’d never been ale to do before. I looked at him, I felt an amazing silence from the space, a silence that surrounds a moment of revelation, a silence that allows your soul to speak, and in this silence was the understanding that he had expressed an aspect of the warrior within. There were tears in his eyes at the acknowledgment of what he had done, and who he was becoming.

So, who is this warrior?

You step onto the path of healing and growth, the path that leaves the past behind, the path that fills you with the present, the path that leads to life fulfilment, you become a warrior of the heart, a warrior of spirit.

The warrior looks into the mirror.

The warrior looks deep into the mirror.

The warrior sees beyond the mists of illusion, and as hard as it is to look deeply into ourselves, the warriors gaze is firm, as the layers of who we’ve become fall away, more of who we truly are is revealed. In the acknowledgment of who we are, is the door of possibility to becoming the highest we are.

The warrior is in the rhythm of life, for the warrior knows when to stand firm, when to bend with the wind.

The warrior knows when there needs be silence, and when his words need ring out.

The warrior knows, yes the warrior knows, when the day for battle dawns, and when there is a day to yield.

The warrior knows that to go within, deep within, is to go into the heights of beyond, and the warrior knows that to be able to create a life, is balanced by the power to destroy.

The warrior is a state of being, a state of mind, a state of becoming, for this is the rhythm of life, the rhythm with which the warrior dances.

 

This is what the journey of conscious sexuality offers you

I am humbled and honoured to share this space with you.

 

As the understanding of Conscious Pleasure Energy expands more than ever, so we are able to share with you for the first time, the workshops in Cape Town this week, particularly the Sensual and Sacred Sexual Massage workshops on Saturday. We will share these understandings and techniques to allow you to experience heightened states of pleasure and directly experience your Conscious Pleasure Energy.

We will also share some of the principles of these in the free talk on Monday night in Cape Town, and Tuesday the 18th of June in a free talk on “Conscious Sexual Energy and its place in our lives”. in Johannesburg.

 

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

To Book:

Contact Jonti 083 743 5129

jontisearll@mweb.co.za

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

 

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

YouTube link:

http://youtu.be/oNOyabLqBIk

 

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

 

 

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

 

Jonti and Anne-Marie

 

www.tantraevolution.com

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

www.conscioustouch.tumblr.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

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Let Us Be Inappropriate

May 28, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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Let Us Be Inappropriate

Let us give ourselves permission.
Let us allow ourselves.

Let the fire burn in our bodies, in our hearts, in our minds.

Let us throw the masks and armour on the fire so that we may be revealed.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the Gods we are.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the Goddesses we are.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the God in others.

And through the eyes of revelation we will see the shimmering of possibility that dwells in every moment.

And with the fire that burns we will dance in those moments.
And with the fire that burns we will dance with life.
And with the fire that burns we will dance the wild, the wild, the wild.
The passion, the scream, the sweat, the yell, the primal sound of our soul.
And with the dance of this sacred fire we will let slip the bounds of this world.
And the steps of this dance will take us beyond.
Beyond our bodies, beyond our hearts, beyond our minds.
We will dance to the place between where the mystery lives.
The place where truth dwells.
The place that calls us again and again.
The place we seek down many paths.
The place we seek within.
The place we seek lifetime after lifetime.
The place of spirit.

In this place we become free.
We become human.
In the image of, the manifestation of, the expression of, the being of, the living of, the dream of, the love of.

This place, the place between, this is the place of love.
The love that rips you apart, that tears into your heart, that breaks your body.
The love that we speak of in whispers in the silent longing of our heart.
The love that breaks us to be reborn to love to break to be reborn to love.
The love that is teacher and pupil, acolyte and guru.
The love that is flame and shadow.
The love that is poison and healer.
The love of the moment, the love of eternity.

Let us stand in the storm and allow the lightning to strike us, flow through us into the earth, join us to the ground.
Let us stand in the storm, in the rain and the wind and roar as warriors.
Let our voices ring out.
Let us sing our truths and shout our dreams to the wind.
Let us be heard, let us be seen, let us be known.

Let us be all.
Let us be beautiful.
Let us be human.
Let us be alive.
Let us be joyous.
Let us be inappropriate.

We wish you so much pleasure.

There has been a great deal of new work coming through lately and I’m developing new healing protocols with the information.
If you’d like some healing work/body experience as I develop and refine these techniques please contact me, men and women.

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.
We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.
There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.
All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.
The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY
An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.
We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Time: 7pm

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE
Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm
Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti and Anne-Marie

www.tantraevolution.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
www.conscioustouch.tumblr.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

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The Pleasure We Fear

May 20, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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Last year at Sexpo we did a mild 50 Shades bondage demo. The women who offered to be models for this came from a wide range of backgrounds, relationships and sexual experiences.
As part of the preparation for the experience I asked all of them what scared them most about it.
They all said the same thing.
They were scared they were going to enjoy it.
As part of the healing journey with men it’s important that I share some bodywork experiences with them.
This creates a deep discomfort for them, particularly when it comes to some of the pleasure-based experiences.
There is a fear they’re going to enjoy it.
Many people are terrified of many of the pleasure experiences.
We’re scared we’re going to enjoy them.
We’re scared of our passion.
We’re scared of our vitality.
We’re scared of our pleasure.
We’re scared of the fire that rages within us.
We’re scared of going beyond what we believe.
We’re scared of revealing ourselves.
We’re scared of seeing deep into ourselves, and into others.
We’re scared of pleasure.
We’re scared of where it may take us.
We’re scared of its power.
Because we know its linked to our soul.
For generations, hundreds of years, we’ve lived with repression.
We’ve been taught that that’s the way to live.
That our power is in pushing our desires down, suppressing, repressing, hiding, darkening, judging…
And the more we do this, the more we separate from our soul.
For our soul, the soul that links us to God, The Goddess, Source, Spirit…
This soul is a soul of celebration, of joy, of creation, of happiness, of laughter, of shimmering beauty and the expression of every aspect, the manifestation in our lives of this energy.
Our world is a testimony to the mediocrity and the repression that that represents.
We see it in our lives, our relationships, our wars, our poverty, our leaders, our entertainment, lack of creativity, our art…
But this soul, this soul, this scared energy that dwells somewhere within us, around us, this soul longs for expression.
And when we allow this soul out it can turn our lives, our world upside down.
Because it brings up the question ‘Where is our love, where is our joy?’
We come face to face with this in a very real way. Not as an ethereal, quasi-spiritual shoowah question.
But in this reality we wake up in every day, this reality we are creating, co-creating.
There are many possible expressions of this joy and celebration in our lives, many ways for the soul to shine through, to show itself in our lives, to bring its vibration into the world.
We’ve chosen the path of sensuality, of sexual energy, of Conscious Pleasure.
We have to go beyond our fears for this.
We have to go beyond our judgements for this.
We have to go beyond our limitations for this.
We have to go to a place where our soul is.
And our bodies, designed in the image of, a representation of, are a doorway to the soul.
Sensuousness, Sensual Energy is a language of the soul.
I invite you to stop fearing your soul.
I invite you to stop fearing who you are.
I invite you to stop fearing pleasure.
It’s important to know this.
There’s a purpose to this pleasure.
There’s a purpose to this soul stuff.
Every time we allow an experience beyond our limitations.
Every time we push a boundary that allows us to see more, be more, feel more than the narrow vision we generally hold, every time we do this, we put something out into the world.
We put a possibility out.
We put an invitation out.
We put an actual energy out.
We change a frequency.
This makes it possible for somebody else to experience this.
Maybe not what exactly the experience we had.
But something that is pleasurable.
And pleasure has greater transformational power than anything other force.
And even if you have no belief or interest in the transformational power and possibility, just for a moment have a belief in your own soul.
And its desire to talk to you, to live in you, to live through you.
And allow yourself to live with less fear, more pleasure, more happiness, more joy, more love, more celebration…
One of the most gratifying things for me, and something I appreciate enormously, is hearing how many people enjoy these newsletters.
Thank you, you touch me.
The Vision Quest I did earlier this year initiated a time of personal healing for me, as well as a deeper understanding and learning. This has allowed the healing work, and workshops to go to new places of power. It is so beautiful to share this with you and see how we can change the things we’d like.
Sharing with is always special for me. Sexuality is the part of life that is generally scariest and most closed for men. I was invited to give a talk to a group of men this week, which began in the way most of the men’s gathering do. Almost everybody sitting with arms folded, legs crossed, stern-faced and silent.
Almost everybody thawed and we had a really good time.
More and more men, alone or with their partners, are coming to learn, heal and grow. These are the real men, the strong ones.
I am honoured to share with you.
So many people contact us about exploring aspects of their sexuality, fantasies, expanding what they do, having more excitement in their relationships and lives.
Having a framework for this, a way to open the communication and discussion, as well as some how-to knowledge can change these experiences from being scary and negative to expansion and a deepening of your relationship.
The workshop on Thurs night gives you these tools and more. It’s become one of the most important evenings we offer on the sexual journey.
A SPECIAL EVENING OF EXPLORING SEXUALITY WITH LARA AND JONTI, Thurs 23rd May
Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.
In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.
The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…
We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.
After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.
If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.
This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.
The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.
We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.
Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club
Time: 7:30 pm
Cost: R790/couple
HEALING SEXUALITY, Tues 28th May
What is sexual healing, where do our sexual problems come from, how do sexual energy blockages manifest, how can we change them, how can we use sexual energy for other purposes, how do we go from sexual healing to sexual growth…
The 2nd part of the evening is exploring and experiencing some aspects of sexual energy, giving you possibilities to continue this journey.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Venue: 67 6th St, Parkhurst
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
CONSCIOUS SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE SPECIAL
This is a peak experience on the sexual journey, on our life journey..
Slow, gentle strokes relax your body, you feel a warmth as we begin to build the sexual fire, flames of pleasure that move through your whole body to a peak of sensation…
For the month of May this massage is being offered at R600, usually R900.
The cheese has moved, the goalposts have shifted.
SEXPO in Durban has been postponed until next year so…
We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.
We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.
There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.
All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.
The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.
Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY
An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.
We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Time: 7pm
Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE
Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm
Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.
We wish you so much pleasure
Jonti and Anne-Marie
For more detailed information on workshops and FAQ’s please visit
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Touch This Body

May 15, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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TOUCH THIS BODY

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

For this is sacred ground

Approach with reverence

As you look upon the beauty laid before you

Rest your hand with tenderness

And feel

Feel your heart

Feel your heart open

Feel your heart open to the flow

Feel your heart open to the flow of love

Feel your heart open to the flow of love from a place deep within you

A place beyond you

In a silent moment acknowledge the holy within you

And allow your hands to tell of this

For in this moment of connection you see the mirror

The sacred reflected within you, through you

And as you touch another, they know, deep within, they know

A place beyond mind, they know, even for a moment

That which dwells within them

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

Allow your hands to greet this skin, this heart, this mind, this being

Allow your hands to soothe the hurt, the pain it carries

Allow your hands to gently open it to receive the love offered

Allow your hands to be as a deep breath, a moment in, and the release, the relaxation

Allow your hands to tell of the beauty they feel

Allow your hands to slowly part the armour, to ease the mask away, to lighten the load it bears

Allow your hands to be the voice of that beyond you

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

Breathe

Feel the pleasure

Feel the pleasure within you

Feel the pleasure within you stir

Feel the pleasure within you stir and flow
Feel the pleasure within you stir and flow into your hands

Allow your hands to tell of that which breathes and lives and burns within you

Allow your hands to slowly kindle this fire

To give it life
Each stroke a warming, a flame added
A liquid heat, spreading, opening, expanding

The life force flows, fills, expands

The boundaries of this body melt

We go beyond our flesh

We see that this physical casing is merely a portal

Its blood, its nerves, its muscles serve to take us

Take us deeper, higher

And then they are no more as the wave of pleasure engulfs us, wraps us in sensation, in emotion, in a moment of being that lasts an eternity, takes us into the swirling space where the Divine dances

Slowly we return

Slowly we feel our breath

Slowly we feel the weight of being

Lighter now

For every visit to that Sacred Temple of Pleasure leaves its shimmering within us

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

For this is sacred ground

 

In the world of Conscious Sexuality we regard certain touch and massage experiences as being acts of worship.
We use the words massage and touch simply because we have no others, but these experiences go way beyond the general understanding and experience of massage.

Going beyond even that I’d like to offer a different perspective and possibility with Conscious Sensual Touch, Conscious Pleasure Energy, Conscious Sexual Touch etc.

We’ll use the word massage because it’s the closest we have.

Generally we see the roles of giver and receiver being quite set in this space.
And generally there is way more pleasure for the person receiving the massage.

Let’s change something here.
There is a way of touching that is worshipping.
So the question is who is worshipping?
If I’m the person giving the massage, then it’s me.

And I can use that space, that touch as a way for it become a sacred experience, a spiritual experience, a meditation for me.

Of course there’s enormous benefit in this for the person receiving the massage.

And there’s so much for me.

When I enter the space in this way, with the intention of connecting with something higher, something beyond me, of allowing it to be transcendent for me, a shift happens.
 A deep shift in awareness.
 An opening of a space within me, an acknowledgement of the energy coming through me.
Where is this coming from?
Source, Spirit, The Universe, God, The Goddess…

I come to you to pray.
For that is the manifestation of the energy, the coming into being of the intention.
You, your body, your being becomes the altar, the recipient of my prayer.
I open myself, elevate myself, connect myself.
And in so doing, I am able to offer you more.
And the more I can be open, the more I can be vulnerable, the more I have to offer you.
My body, my hands become a vessel for this holy energy.
And as it flows through me, it touches me, heals me, calms me, relaxes me, arouses me.
As it flows through me to you.
This becomes a temple that we create, a space that we weave filled with love, with giving, receiving, sharing…

This brings up a beautifully different perspective on healing as well.
We generally heal to receive more.
Here, we heal to give more.
Releasing my pain, my blockages, my resistances, my withholds for the purpose of allowing more to flow through me.
And going beyond that to the knowing that the purpose of more flowing through me allows me to give more.
Which allows you to receive more.
And going beyond even that.
It allows me, in that space, to go deeper into myself.
To make my prayer, my meditation, my giving more.

And in the giving is the receiving.
Not in the way we mostly see that, that it’s good to give.
But there’s a sacred intention.
And I have to be open to receive before I can give, truly give.
Anybody can do massage, anybody can do healing.
This is becoming, becoming massage, becoming touch, becoming healing, becoming conscious, becoming awake, becoming aware, becoming connected, becoming love.

And the in the giving is the receiving.



There are so many exciting things coming up.
The free talks have been wonderful, we’re really looking forward to the next one.
The evening at Pharaohs on Exploring Sexuality was a great success, we’re doing it again.
There’s a good Sensual Massage Special Offer, and we’re coming to Cape Town.
I’ve recently started using some specially shaped supports during some of the Pleasure Massage Experiences. These have really expanded the depth of sensation, taking these massages to new levels.

Workshops & Events 

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

Contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

or: jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

A SPECIAL EVENING OF EXPLORING SEXUALITY WITH LARA AND JONTI, Thurs 23rd May

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.

In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.

The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…

We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.

After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.

If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.

This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.

The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.

We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R790/couple

 

HEALING SEXUALITY, Tues 28th May

What is sexual healing, where do our sexual problems come from, how do sexual energy blockages manifest, how can we change them, how can we use sexual energy for other purposes, how do we go from sexual healing to sexual growth…

The 2nd part of the evening is exploring and experiencing some aspects of sexual energy, giving you possibilities to continue this journey.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Venue: 67 6th St, Parkhurst

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

CONSCIOUS SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE SPECIAL

This is a peak experience on the sexual journey, on our life journey..

Slow, gentle strokes relax your body, you feel a warmth as we begin to build the sexual fire, flames of pleasure that move through your whole body to a peak of sensation…

For the month of May this massage is being offered at R600, usually R900.

 

The cheese has moved, the goalposts have shifted.

SEXPO in Durban has been postponed until next year so…

 

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

 

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

 

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

 

For more detailed information on workshops and FAQ’s please visit

www.tantraevolution.com

We wish you SO much pleasure!..

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

 

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The Culture of Pleasure, The Language of Pleasure

April 14, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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The Culture of Pleasure, The Language of Pleasure

Over the past year we’ve had the privilege of working with people from many different backgrounds and cultures.
This covers a spectrum of religion, race, nation and belief.

The more time we spend with different people, the more we see the universality of connection.
And the principles of Conscious Sexuality are proving to be quite universal.
There’s also a language and culture that we all speak.
What’s closer to the truth is that we wish we were talking this language, wish we were immersed in this culture.

Two conversations I had this week with people we’re working with really brought this home to me.
And they were with very diverse people, one a black couple, the other a 60yr old woman on a beautiful journey of discovery and growth.

The first conversation revolved around the fact that so few cultures have pleasure as an integral part of their expression.
The second was about the language of pleasure.
We have very limited language to talk about pleasure, never mind to express the subtleties and nuances of different states of sensual delights and heightened sexuality.

First let’s look at what pleasure means.
Our context is that of sensuality and sexuality.
The extension of this, and the conversations I had, as well as many others over the years, is that the more we open ourselves to pleasure in this way, the more we open ourselves to pleasure in every aspect of our lives.

We live in a world where pain on so many levels pervades our being. It surrounds us, the media fills our space and senses with pain.
We also live in a world where we do so many things to dull us from feeling.
And as we dull the pain we dull the pleasure.
It’s not a semi-permeable that let’s somethings through and not others.
And as much as dulling our senses, we happily live in a world that encourages mediocrity and conformity.

If we’d like to open ourselves to greater pleasure we have to learn a new language, we have to be willing to adopt a new culture.
If you look at how much of the language we use is about limitation, about contraction, about
how something good can’t last, about how much of a good thing you can have…
This is not limited to sex.
This is for all of life.

For most of us, sex happens in a vacuum.
It’s not linked to any other aspect of our lives.
When we start to open to pleasure, we start to open to possibility.
First, our sexual pleasure increases, radically.
Opening to pleasure means just that, opening to pleasure. Not just to having an orgasm, but to pleasure.
We make a mind-shift.

And from this we start to drift into Socrates’ territory, the unexamined life is not worth living.
We look at what we want from life, from experiences, from relationships.
And we hopefully start to ask important questions, how much pleasure will we allow ourselves, give ourselves permission to have, and how happy are we willing to be?

These are dangerous questions.
They’ll challenge us, they’ll bring us face to face with ourselves, with the choices and decisions we’ve made, with who we’ve become, with what we’ve allowed into our lives.
If we’re willing to be honest.
And if we choose, consciously choose, we can start to change something, slowly, quickly…
We can allow for more pleasure, more happiness, more fun, more joy, more celebration.

Sexual Energy is a beautiful teacher of this new language, of this new culture.
It raises our energy, our vibration.
It makes us happier, we feel more alive, more creative, more connected, more open, more expansive, more attractive.
Some important words there.
More attractive. Not only in a physical sense, not only liking ourselves more, but more attractive to what life has to offer, to people, to experiences.
And if our attraction is filled with more of the shining radiance of pleasure, that’s what we will attract more of.
Then we’re more open to receive, and because we’re more expansive, the array of possibilities increase.

You see, it’s all about energy.
The more Conscious Pleasure Energy, (CPE), within you, the more CPE you put out, the more CPE you receive.
You raise your vibration, things shift.
Because our lives, our world, are but reflections of what’s within us.
As we change the language with which we talk to ourselves, we change the language of our lives, we change our culture.

We’d love to teach you some new words, help you have some new experiences, see a little more of the beautiful being you are.

The Sacred Sexual Massage evening was just SO beautiful. The intimacy and pleasure that everyone there experienced was an absolute gift. As one of the women said a few days later, ‘I never knew I was capable of such pleasure, never knew this stuff existed, thank you with a big fat kiss’. And to hear a man with a big smile say, ‘That was NICE!!!’.

We are getting excited about Tues night’s Free Talk, it’s always wonderful to meet and share with you.
This is a great way to find out a little of what we offer, how the healing and growth journey works, what happens on the workshops etc.
Annie has created a beautiful intro to this, we’ve put it on FB and YouTube:
http://youtu.be/J6eIcjhacQw

 

On Facebook:

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10151534567847590,
We wish you so much pleasure..

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Events & Workshops

Durban/PMB

At last some things are coming together for a few workshops in Natal later this month. There is a very good chance we will be there from 24th April.
If you live in the area and are interested in the workshops please send us a mail so we can let you know.
This will be confirmed in the next few days.

SEXPO is coming to Durban this year, 7-9 June.
We’ll have stand, do talks, have something new and exciting AND are doing yoni massage demo’s. If you’d like to be a model for this beautiful experience please let us know.

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Booking essential

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.
The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.
This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.
Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.
We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.
This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 4th May

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.
This practical experience is for couples.
We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.
We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.
It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

Time: 11 am
Venue: To be confirmed
Cost: R2500/couple

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

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Beyond Orgasm

April 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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Out beyond orgasm is a field of possibility.

This is space where there is no limit to emotion, to sensation, to feeling.

It’s a place of magic.

It’s a place where the essence of being swirls, where we can experience our true selves.

 

It’s out beyond orgasm.

To get there we have to go beyond orgasm.

 

For most of us, men much more so than women, this requires a BIG shift.

It’s one of the most important principles of Conscious Sexuality and has the key to so much.

Firstly it’s a path to expanded states of pleasure, then it’s a tool for accessing and using sexual energy for meditation, for healing, for growth, for self-exploration, for transformation, for higher states of consciousness and more.

 

Very often when we do yoni massage we deliberately don’t have the goal of orgasm in mind.

At first this is often confusing. You’ve come to have a yoni massage, to experience the pleasure, there’s all the expectation of this huge orgasm.

You can have orgasms, plenty. Annie has identified 13 different orgasms for women.

But there’s more.

So we suggest that you be willing to have a different experience.

To go beyond orgasm.

 

Now when men come to have a lingam or Taoist massage we suggest the same thing.

Allow yourself to experience something different, allow your sexual energy to expand, to take you some where you’ve never been before.

Because there are many different states of pleasure available to men.

And to experience these you need to go beyond orgasm.

 

Let’s look at why this is so difficult, and sometimes challenging an idea.

 

The first reason is that we’ve made the definition of successful sex orgasm.

The true definition of successful sex is pleasure.

And the paths of pleasure are many.

Next is the pattern, particularly for men. As a man every time you’ve had a sexual experience, from the time you started touching yourself, you’ve had an orgasm. So you think that’s the way it should be.

Then there’s the wonderful ego idea of ‘I have to make her come’. A wonderfully destructive belief that the media have helped along with gusto.

And then there’s the possibility that most of us just don’t know any different, we have no idea what else is out there, or how to access it.

And so we get stuck in orgasm being all there is.

 

If we’re willing to allow the idea in that there’s more we can open ourselves to worlds of pleasure, sensation, emotion and possibility so vast they probably are without limitation.

 

In pleasure terms, if we’re willing to go beyond the orgasm barrier, and it is often a barrier to these higher states, we open firstly our entire body to pleasure.

It simply has to happen.

Instead of feeling the sensations purely in our pelvis, they spread through the whole body, everywhere tingles, vibrates, oscillates, shouts, screams, sings with Oh Yes Yes Yes!

And just wants to stay there. And have more.

Which it can.

In this space we start to experience different kinds of pleasure, so much, subtle, gentle, overwhelming…it’s all there.

And it’s always different.

 

This gives us an understanding of sexual energy. Which we can only have through experience. We can talk about sexual energy forever. Until we’ve experienced it we have no idea of what it is.

 

As the energy moves through us we start to experience different things, different feelings, emotions, sensations…

It takes us places, physically, emotionally, sensually, spiritually…

We simply have to be there, to allow it.

 

If we choose to learn a little about this energy and its ways we can access it, direct it, guide it, allow it to guide us.

It opens worlds within worlds.

 

But first we have to be willing to go beyond orgasm…

 

 

Understanding the energy of going beyond orgasm is something we teach in many workshops. It’s an important aspect of the Sacred Sexual Massage workshop on Thurs night. This is a beautiful evening for couples, filled with intimacy and pleasure and techniques for going beyond.

 

 

 

As we continue to develop and explore healing and growth possibilities we add Mystical 8′s to our toolbox.

This is based on an ancient Tibetan energy pattern.

The experience is deeply relaxing, connected to old life patterns as well as enhancing our life energy and vitality.

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Durban

 

At last some things are coming together for a few workshops in Natal later this month. There is a very good chance we will be there from 24th April.

If you live in the area and are interested in the workshops please send us a mail so we can let you know.

This will be confirmed in the next few days.

 

SEXPO is coming to Durban this year, 7-9 June.

We’ll have stand, do talks, have something new and exciting AND are doing yoni massage demo’s. If you’d like to be a model for this beautiful experience please let us know.

 

 

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

 

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

 

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

 

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

 

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

 

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

 

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

 

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

 

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 4th May

 

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

 

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

Anne-Marie is offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, until Saturday 13 April you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

 

 

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Renewed Commitment, Renewed Passion

April 2, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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Renewed Commitment, Renewed Passion

 

For the first time since I began this work I was able to take some time to do something purely for myself.

This is thanks to Annie, a Goddess Becoming, thank you, my love, for making this possible.

 

I had the privilege of participating in a Vision Quest with Valerie Morris and Judy Bekker in Cape Town. Have a look at their website,rbanet.co.za.

This was an experience of deep connection with myself, with nature and others. It was a time of extraordinary beauty, learning, sharing and growing.

Their guidance and facilitation simply enfold you in a world of possibility.

This is a life changing experience, if you can…

 

I come back from this time with so much.

With greater understanding of this work, of masculine and feminine energies, of relationship patterns and possibilities, of energy flow, of the connection and context of our sexuality to the rest of our lives, so much about healing and growth, what spiritual sexuality is and more.

 

I come back from this time with a renewed commitment to you and to myself.

 

I come back from this time with an increase in my energy, a new depth to my touch, a new connection to my intuition and a renewed understanding of knowing that for me, this work is an expression of love.

 

To you, to offer all that I know to guide you as you heal, to release and change that which no longer serves you, to help you discover and see the patterns in your life, to connect with yourself, re-connect with yourself, reclaim that which you’ve lost, help you discover, uncover, reveal that which is within you that you’d like to bring out into your life, into your world.

 

To you, who come to the pleasure aspect of this work, I offer a deeper understanding of the importance and place of pleasure. I also offer an expansion in the tools we have for pleasure.

 

The place of pleasure on this journey of healing and growth, of transformation, of self-discovery, is paramount.

 

Most of our healing, most of our growth, comes from a place of pain.

Pain is a place to visit, not a place to live.

For so many of us, pain, the pain of our lives, the condition of our lives, our relationships, defines us.

Our lack of fulfillment, our dissatisfaction, our lost dreams, our frustrations, the lack of passion, the narrowness of our lives, the constrictions, inhibitions and limitations we’ve chosen to live with, hold us.

 

By allowing greater pleasure into our lives we can begin to change these, if we choose.

If we choose.

 

We have the possibility to change things in our selves, in our lives, and in our world. Big changes, small changes, whatever we choose.

To be a little happier, more peaceful, have a little more pleasure, more fun, be a little more creative, enjoy waking up more…

 

If we choose…

 

And the path of pleasure offers itself as a guide on this journey.

A beautiful guide, a guide filled with experiences of enchantment and wonder, a guide to bring body, mind, heart and soul together, a guide to show you your own truth, your own self.

 

For every one of us who makes this journey, even if it’s coming to just learn a little more about pleasure, we make it possible for others.

For every one of us who is brave enough to step beyond what we know, a small step, a big step, we make it possible for others.

 

The commitment I make to myself is to do this in the best way I can.

For this is ‘mine to do in the world’.

To keep learning, keep growing, keep expanding.

The purpose of knowledge is to share it. This is the livingness, the manifestation of my journey.

 

I’m here, Anne-Marie is here, committed to the path of Conscious Sexuality.

There’s a way for all of us who’d like to step onto this path.

What we have, we offer…

 

As well as some exciting new workshops we’ll be offering soon we’re also planning Conscious Sexual Retreats and Massage Weekends for later in the year.

One of the most important aspects of the workshops, and we keep getting feedback on this, is that it’s an open forum to express, ask questions, in a non-judgmental space. There are very few sexual spaces like this in our lives.

 

Assistance

 

We are looking for help with 2 things.

Short-term accomodation for a woman, a cottage or flat, close to or between Ferndale and Parkhurst.

 

My daughter is looking for a small car, must be automatic, good condition.

 

Please let us know if you’re aware of possibilities.

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

 

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

 

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

 

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

 

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cnr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

 

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

 

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

 

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 27th April

 

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

We also give you a copy of the DVD of Tantric Sensual Massage valued at R300 to take home with you after this amazing experience.

 

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

 

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

 

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cnr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage (2 weeks left)

Anne-Marie is offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

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The Illusion of Control

March 25, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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The Illusion of Control

I woke during the night thinking about how much time and effort we spend on the things we cannot control. 

 

Trying to be good enough, giving enough so that our families, lovers, children, friends will love us.

Trying to be thin enough or sexy enough, or rich enough that they’ll be attracted to us.

Trying to have the things that make us happy, the job, the promotion, the sex life, the house, the car…

 

We are sold the illusion that we can control our emotions, that we can control our bodies, that we can control everything. Isn’t that disciplined of us? Isn’t that grown up of us?

And especially that we can control our sexuality.

Can we?

 

Of course we can. 

Within the confines of the illusion.

 

So, we pretend that when we are married that we are never attracted to anybody else. We start our diets on a Monday eating without limits over weekends. We ask for a happily ever after that’s a fairy tale, and we believe that we are in control.

 

But we are not.

Because life happens.

People die. Or get sick. Or fall in love with inappropriate people according to their families, or are attracted to people of their own gender, or someone lies to you or betrays you, or you stop having orgasms, or your erection fails, and life happens.

 

And this is not what you were told.

And your life becomes emotional, chaotic, painful.

 

And you feel as if you’ve lost control.

When actually it was never there to begin with.

You become vulnerable

 

Now, here’s what very few will tell you, for only those who’ve experienced this know the secret.

 

This is the time of your greatest power.

 

 

When Jonti first explained this concept to me, I didn’t completely agree with him! Until I really understood that this is the time when it’s possible to see that it’s about choice, not control. Because this is the time when you are at your most vulnerable.

What do you have a choice about?

You have a choice about how you choose to respond.

That is ALWAYS your choice.

 

You may not choose the pain.

You may not choose the overwhelming emotions.

You may not choose the anger.

You may believe these emotions are “bad” because of how lousy you feel.

 

Yet, you still have the most powerful choice.

You choose how to respond.

In that conscious choice lies freedom and power.

 

Most of us don’t choose consciously.  We just react, instantly. Our patterning kicks in. 

 

Someone hurts us, we hurt them back

Someone offends us, we react angrily.

Someone betrays us, oh, we plan revenge…

This is just our patterning.

 

Yet we can change that, do that differently. Patterns are controlled, rigid, unyielding, the same.

Choice is fluid, changing, aware of options, of possibility.

 

Two of our clients recently wrote about this process for them, of making different choices within vulnerability…

 

“I let waves of emotion wash over me allowing me to connect with my sense of self, my feminine energy. I feel released – like something inside me has changed .It has taken me a long time to allow myself to be vulnerable- it is not an easy thing for me to do, but yesterday I felt very vulnerable and yet it was powerful at the same time.”

 

“I cried that night because after all these energy centres opening up, I desired so much touch and intimacy and came to the conclusion that I have denied myself love and pleasure through choosing to be in long distance relationships. I felt that, that was a break through for me. This all happened for me on the night after I saw you.

 

Change is happening in my body, it is deeply spiritual.”

 

So many of our clients come to us because they’re  in pain.

 Emotional pain, physical pain, sexual pain, heartache.

 

You can walk into a new awareness, a new consciousness, when you realize that what you think you control, you do not. You let go.

 

And this is your freedom.

This becomes the furnace for your Phoenix.

This does not mean you throw it all away because you cannot control it.

This means you make different choices, have more options on how you can respond to what life unfolds for you.

Not just a patterned reaction.

An aware, conscious choice, with benefit to you, centered on filling your life with bliss, joy, love and pleasure, so much that you overflow that into those around you.

 

Control is the illusion.

Choice on response is the reality.

Pleasure has a higher frequency, a more beneficial body response than pain. Can we learn to have more pleasure? Oh yes!

The choice however, is yours.

 

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

For one month Anne-Marie will be offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

We are planning on putting our new workshop schedule together this week, and will have dates for some massage workshops soon.

 

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

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Making Mistakes

March 18, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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Making Mistakes

 

Why do we find it so hard to forgive in relationships? 

So hard to let go of being right?

So hard to let go of  being wronged?

 

Lessons are learned in so many ways in our lives, and so often when we make a mistake, a decision that doesn’t serve us, a decision based in fear or anxiety, we travel to a place that is not our true selves.

 

Yet that place can transform us.

 

If we let it.

 

In the beginning of my Tantric journey, I had an experience that I really felt uncomfortable with. 

And for years that experience lived with me as a “mistake”.

 

Until recently.

 

I realized how that experience had taught me so much about what not to do with my clients, how to create safety for them in the healing and release space, how to respect others’ boundaries even when they can’t speak them, and how to go slowly with this work.

 

How to be gentle.

 

If I’ve learned anything from Jonti, it’s that gentle works deeper, more profoundly, sometimes more slowly, yet with lasting impact.

 

And what I’ve learned recently is to communicate verbally in the same way, with gentleness. That calm truth brings incredibly deep lasting effects too.

 

Although I have never struggled to communicate (talking and sharing has always been an easy space for me)  to communicate my really deep fears, wishes, boundaries and desires is often to be so emotionally overwhelmed that I express everything from a place of fear and cease to care about the consequences. 

 

That’s not gentle.

And it doesn’t work.

 

Most real and truthful communication is difficult, because its not what we’re taught, not what we’ve had much experience of.

 

Real sexual communication is on an even deeper level.

When we can’t communicate lovingly about our deepest selves, our sexual selves, it’s almost impossible to be truthful in other communication.

 

During a breath workshop a while ago, the teacher said something that really stuck with me.

He said that the most destructive lies we ever tell are those that are to “protect someone’s feelings” 

I thought about that a lot. Because it’s really true. We anticipate hurting someone’s feelings by expressing some aspect of ourselves, so we lie. 

We see it as protecting others, when actually it’s destructive for ourselves and others.

 

We think we know how they are going to react, we base that on the past, whether that’s past relationships, or even past communications with that particular person, and we take responsibility for another’s emotions by changing our truth.

 

We’ve all done it, those lies when we don’t really want to see someone, or we’re too tired to face family, or…..

Well. We’ve all done it.

 

And sometimes we would rather lie than tell the truth because we’re afraid of an emotional reaction, an ego sleight.

 

The truth is no matter what we think, we are not responsible for how someone chooses to feel in any given situation.

 

I’m not talking about someone being deliberately cruel to hurt another, I’m talking about the times we are afraid to speak our truth “in case” it hurts someone’s feelings, or brings up emotion for them. The times when we lie because we are afraid of the response our truth may invoke.

 

So, we make mistakes in our relationships, we tell a little lie, we omit to share, we fake orgasm, we have mediocre sex, when we could be telling the truth and going deeper into who we really are, where our relationships can actually go with truth and support. 

 

We make mistakes.

 

What I have learned is that the truth spoken in love, calmly, always has a more long term beneficial effect.

 

The mistakes I have made are nearly always based upon being emotionally overwrought and making decisions in that space.

 

And the lies I’ve told have nearly always been about “protecting” someone’s feelings, or to avoid their perceived anger.

 

So, I’m going back to square one, to the root, learning who I am sexually, what I really want from my relationships, and how to really communicate about that, allowing for change, for letting go of old patterns of communication.

 

Taking this awareness into all relationship, asking for what I would like, being specific, and being ready to honestly accept someone else’s response, whatever that may be.

 

It’s never too late to acknowledge your mistakes as your teachers, letting them guide you into a different way to do things.

 

So, I will embrace my mistakes, my teachers.

 

I will forgive the mistakes I have made in my relationships.

 

I will let them go, and thank them as the bittersweet teachers that they are…

 

I am missing Jonti so much already. As this newsletter goes out he will be in the very centre of his Vision Quest in Cape Town, spending four days in the wilderness with 20 litres of water, having an experience, a vision, and certainly a Quest! 

Keep him in your thoughts, love and energy as he has his adventure…

 

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

For one month Anne-Marie will be offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

We will have a new workshop schedule soon for April, and don’t forget that we teach all of our workshops as private lessons as well for those who feel a little too shy to attend the workshop with other people.

Workshops available as private lessons:

-Expanded Orgasm (includes an E-Book valued at R350)

-The Art of Sex includes information on the G -Spot and female ejaculation 

 

-What Woman Want

-Taoist Massage for Men & Women

-The G -Spot and female ejaculation 

-Tantric Sensual Full Body Massage

-Sacred Sexual Massage for Men & Women

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The Sexpo Tour

March 4, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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The Sexpo Tour

The wonders of technology allow us to write this on the way to Cape Town. we are going to be there for Sexpo, for a week of workshops and a 10 day Vision Quest that Jonti’s going to do.

 

We undertake this journey with a sense of celebration on many levels, the past week in our life of conscious sexuality has been a beautiful celebration of pleasure, energy and of possibility. We’ve shared space with women of over 60 embarking on journeys of self and sexual discovery. This is so exciting for us as it affirms that this journey is for everyone, that there are no rules to possibility, the beauty and the power in these women fills us with honour as they choose to share with us. We’ve also shared space with somebody in a wheelchair who has such a sense of life and of joy, that the time with him and his partner truly was a celebration and an affirmation of possibility.

 

The workshop on Thursday night of sexual exploration was honest, powerful and filled with laughter. As we spent time talking, people became more and more open in a space of sharing and safety. In this forum, doors open for people, there is excitement, there is tingling inside, an expansion of what can be in a relationship.

 

Sexpo opens on Thursday in Cape Town, and it is a celebration of sexuality. There’s a lot there that’s loud and plastic and garish, but the fact that we can share this openly is what’s important. We are doing talks everyday as well as massage demonstrations, we look forward to seeing old friends and meeting new ones.

 

The workshops we are offering in the week after Sexpo are very much a celebration of pleasure as they open hearts, minds and bodies to the power of conscious sexuality.

 

If you would like the exciting experience of having a massage at Sexpo, we may have a few available spaces.

 

Friends from Pharaohs Fantasy Club have a stand at Sexpo, and are looking people to help during the exhibition, please contact us if you are interested.

 

We wish you so much pleasure and celebration on this journey of conscious sexuality.

 

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

We’d like to share some feedback from last Thursday’s Workshop:

 

“The surroundings and the non-judgmental environment were awesome; we felt completely safe and comfortable in the knowledge that there was no pressure, no expectations and no specific goal forced on anyone. The first step in our journey as a couple and as individuals has been taken – thanks to all of you for this! We are looking forward to the next step and wherever that may lead us – we’ll be keeping an eye out for the next workshop!”

 

“I think the evening worked really well and met most of our objectives which were to:

Understand the practicalities and emotional considerations of expanding our sexual relationship by involving others in some way, be exposed to the thoughts and challenges of other couples going through the same sort of thinking as we are, and be introduced in a soft, welcoming, unthreatening way to the world of possibilities offered by Pharaohs and similar environments

The importance of rule setting and ongoing frank and open communication was nicely stressed and demonstrated.

Lara played a wonderful role in exploring why couples were there and what they hoped to get out of it. Her bubbly engaging nature made it so easy for even the shyest to speak up.

The completely unpushy activity after we finished talking allowed everyone to interact as much or as little as possible. Those who wanted to could leave easily, there was plenty of room for couples to be on their own, and there were good opportunities to meet others.

We learnt and experienced a lot. It was an exciting and stretching evening”

 

Events & Workshops

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

Cape Town

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

For more specific information on workshops please visit:

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