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Look Into The Mirror

July 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Look Into The Mirror

Look into the mirror
Of who you are
Look beyond your body
Look beyond your skin
Look beyond your eyes

Look at your pain
And know you are not your pain

Look at your anger
And know you are not your anger

Look at your shame
And know you are not your shame

Look at your guilt
And know you are not your guilt

There are times you are angry, and in pain, and guilty, and ashamed.
But that’s not who you are.
They’re just parts of you.
Not all of you.

Years ago I remember reading a book by Bernie Siegel, a cancer surgeon. He was one of the first doctors in that field to see the value of a holistic approach to healing and to include many alternate practices in his work.
He wrote about how we don’t heal because the illness, the disease, the condition we have becomes our definition. And without that we don’t know who we are.
So, for dear life, and sometimes at the cost of that life, we hold onto that.

Look into the mirror
Of who you are
Look beyond your body
Look beyond your skin
Look beyond your eyes

Look at your love
And know you are your love

Look at your joy
And know you are your joy

Look at your power
And know you are your power

Look at your pleasure
And know you are your pleasure

The more of these energies we allow in our lives, the more of these energies we become.
We heal, we grow, we change, we become more of who we are.
We don’t stop being angered by things, we don’t stop experiencing the guilt, the sadness, the loneliness, the shame.
But we see these for what they are.
And the more we do this, the more we own these feelings instead of them owning us.
We take back the power we’ve given to them.

So many of us live trapped in the echoes of the past.
The lives we live play out hurts, pain, limitations and contractions from long ago.
Some of these were real, some imagined.
But the victims are those who chose to live in that past, and colour the present with the hurt we felt then.
And so many of us cannot, will not, choose not, to move away from there.
We can’t imagine what being happy will look like, what living a life of power will feel like, what being authentic, present and alive will be like.
We don’t have to know.
But if we choose that, every day that unfolds shows us more of the picture. This is a puzzle we create. And it’s full of surprises. What we think the picture on the box is, often comes out to be something else. Something so beautiful, so breathtaking, we are left speechless.

Look into the mirror
Of who you are
Look beyond your body
Look beyond your skin
Look beyond your eyes

Look at your desire
And know you are your desire

Look at your strength
And know you are your strength

Look at your change
And know you are your change

Look at your truth
And know the life you live.

On this journey of healing, growth and transformation, we use sexual energy, the life force as a force for moving from where we are to where we’d like to be.
We use the joy of pleasure, the celebration of vitality to create the life we’d like, to come closer to the beings of power and creation we are, to live happier, richer lives, to see who we are, to live in possibility.
And to live with more, oh so much more pleasure.

There is so much happening at the moment, so much that is exciting, so much to offer you.
Both Annie and I are learning and developing new healing protocols to enhance and deepen the healing and growth process. This allows us to go much deeper with you and help you release and change the things you’d like, help you create the life you’d like to live.

 

And we have an exciting announcement!

The birth of Kintsukuroi Goddess, our woman to woman branch of Tantra Evolution.

Kintsukuroi Goddess will send out a newsletter once a month with events, workshops and specials that are just for women, if you’d like to subscribe, send an email to annemarieclulow@gmail.com and we’ll send you a 5 min exercise for increasing energy, vitality and raising sexual energy in a womans’ body.

The brand new website is www.kintsukuroigoddess.com

 

We are also branching out with our workshops

 

We have joined energies with Jodi and Chris Hill, facilitators of the Demartini work to create some powerful workshops for men, women and couples.

“Own and Love the Goddess on the 19th July (Woman Only)

“Taking Energy and Transmuting into Creation and Manifestation” 15th August

“Own and Love the Warrior” 21 August (Men Only)

“Utilizing my Sexual Energy to Maximize My Life” (Part 2 – Women Only)

 

There are a few places still available for “The Caress of The Passion Flower” this Thurs, 11th. It is simply a peak experience of pleasure for a woman. We’ll soon have dates for a similar experience for men.
We’ve changed the workshop on 16 July to Expanded Orgasm, an amazing and important experience on the sexual journey. This allows you to look at pleasure in a different way as well as giving you an incredible sexual skill for men and women. This is for singles and couples

 

 

For more information on these workshops, or to book, please go to www.tantraevolution.com

Or contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

 

We wish you so much pleasure

With gentleness, light & laughter

Jonti & Annie

 

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Touch This Body

May 15, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

TOUCH THIS BODY

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

For this is sacred ground

Approach with reverence

As you look upon the beauty laid before you

Rest your hand with tenderness

And feel

Feel your heart

Feel your heart open

Feel your heart open to the flow

Feel your heart open to the flow of love

Feel your heart open to the flow of love from a place deep within you

A place beyond you

In a silent moment acknowledge the holy within you

And allow your hands to tell of this

For in this moment of connection you see the mirror

The sacred reflected within you, through you

And as you touch another, they know, deep within, they know

A place beyond mind, they know, even for a moment

That which dwells within them

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

Allow your hands to greet this skin, this heart, this mind, this being

Allow your hands to soothe the hurt, the pain it carries

Allow your hands to gently open it to receive the love offered

Allow your hands to be as a deep breath, a moment in, and the release, the relaxation

Allow your hands to tell of the beauty they feel

Allow your hands to slowly part the armour, to ease the mask away, to lighten the load it bears

Allow your hands to be the voice of that beyond you

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

Breathe

Feel the pleasure

Feel the pleasure within you

Feel the pleasure within you stir

Feel the pleasure within you stir and flow
Feel the pleasure within you stir and flow into your hands

Allow your hands to tell of that which breathes and lives and burns within you

Allow your hands to slowly kindle this fire

To give it life
Each stroke a warming, a flame added
A liquid heat, spreading, opening, expanding

The life force flows, fills, expands

The boundaries of this body melt

We go beyond our flesh

We see that this physical casing is merely a portal

Its blood, its nerves, its muscles serve to take us

Take us deeper, higher

And then they are no more as the wave of pleasure engulfs us, wraps us in sensation, in emotion, in a moment of being that lasts an eternity, takes us into the swirling space where the Divine dances

Slowly we return

Slowly we feel our breath

Slowly we feel the weight of being

Lighter now

For every visit to that Sacred Temple of Pleasure leaves its shimmering within us

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

For this is sacred ground

 

In the world of Conscious Sexuality we regard certain touch and massage experiences as being acts of worship.
We use the words massage and touch simply because we have no others, but these experiences go way beyond the general understanding and experience of massage.

Going beyond even that I’d like to offer a different perspective and possibility with Conscious Sensual Touch, Conscious Pleasure Energy, Conscious Sexual Touch etc.

We’ll use the word massage because it’s the closest we have.

Generally we see the roles of giver and receiver being quite set in this space.
And generally there is way more pleasure for the person receiving the massage.

Let’s change something here.
There is a way of touching that is worshipping.
So the question is who is worshipping?
If I’m the person giving the massage, then it’s me.

And I can use that space, that touch as a way for it become a sacred experience, a spiritual experience, a meditation for me.

Of course there’s enormous benefit in this for the person receiving the massage.

And there’s so much for me.

When I enter the space in this way, with the intention of connecting with something higher, something beyond me, of allowing it to be transcendent for me, a shift happens.
 A deep shift in awareness.
 An opening of a space within me, an acknowledgement of the energy coming through me.
Where is this coming from?
Source, Spirit, The Universe, God, The Goddess…

I come to you to pray.
For that is the manifestation of the energy, the coming into being of the intention.
You, your body, your being becomes the altar, the recipient of my prayer.
I open myself, elevate myself, connect myself.
And in so doing, I am able to offer you more.
And the more I can be open, the more I can be vulnerable, the more I have to offer you.
My body, my hands become a vessel for this holy energy.
And as it flows through me, it touches me, heals me, calms me, relaxes me, arouses me.
As it flows through me to you.
This becomes a temple that we create, a space that we weave filled with love, with giving, receiving, sharing…

This brings up a beautifully different perspective on healing as well.
We generally heal to receive more.
Here, we heal to give more.
Releasing my pain, my blockages, my resistances, my withholds for the purpose of allowing more to flow through me.
And going beyond that to the knowing that the purpose of more flowing through me allows me to give more.
Which allows you to receive more.
And going beyond even that.
It allows me, in that space, to go deeper into myself.
To make my prayer, my meditation, my giving more.

And in the giving is the receiving.
Not in the way we mostly see that, that it’s good to give.
But there’s a sacred intention.
And I have to be open to receive before I can give, truly give.
Anybody can do massage, anybody can do healing.
This is becoming, becoming massage, becoming touch, becoming healing, becoming conscious, becoming awake, becoming aware, becoming connected, becoming love.

And the in the giving is the receiving.



There are so many exciting things coming up.
The free talks have been wonderful, we’re really looking forward to the next one.
The evening at Pharaohs on Exploring Sexuality was a great success, we’re doing it again.
There’s a good Sensual Massage Special Offer, and we’re coming to Cape Town.
I’ve recently started using some specially shaped supports during some of the Pleasure Massage Experiences. These have really expanded the depth of sensation, taking these massages to new levels.

Workshops & Events 

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

Contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

or: jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

A SPECIAL EVENING OF EXPLORING SEXUALITY WITH LARA AND JONTI, Thurs 23rd May

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.

In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.

The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…

We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.

After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.

If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.

This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.

The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.

We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R790/couple

 

HEALING SEXUALITY, Tues 28th May

What is sexual healing, where do our sexual problems come from, how do sexual energy blockages manifest, how can we change them, how can we use sexual energy for other purposes, how do we go from sexual healing to sexual growth…

The 2nd part of the evening is exploring and experiencing some aspects of sexual energy, giving you possibilities to continue this journey.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Venue: 67 6th St, Parkhurst

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

CONSCIOUS SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE SPECIAL

This is a peak experience on the sexual journey, on our life journey..

Slow, gentle strokes relax your body, you feel a warmth as we begin to build the sexual fire, flames of pleasure that move through your whole body to a peak of sensation…

For the month of May this massage is being offered at R600, usually R900.

 

The cheese has moved, the goalposts have shifted.

SEXPO in Durban has been postponed until next year so…

 

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

 

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

 

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

 

For more detailed information on workshops and FAQ’s please visit

www.tantraevolution.com

We wish you SO much pleasure!..

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

 

Beyond Orgasm

April 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Out beyond orgasm is a field of possibility.

This is space where there is no limit to emotion, to sensation, to feeling.

It’s a place of magic.

It’s a place where the essence of being swirls, where we can experience our true selves.

 

It’s out beyond orgasm.

To get there we have to go beyond orgasm.

 

For most of us, men much more so than women, this requires a BIG shift.

It’s one of the most important principles of Conscious Sexuality and has the key to so much.

Firstly it’s a path to expanded states of pleasure, then it’s a tool for accessing and using sexual energy for meditation, for healing, for growth, for self-exploration, for transformation, for higher states of consciousness and more.

 

Very often when we do yoni massage we deliberately don’t have the goal of orgasm in mind.

At first this is often confusing. You’ve come to have a yoni massage, to experience the pleasure, there’s all the expectation of this huge orgasm.

You can have orgasms, plenty. Annie has identified 13 different orgasms for women.

But there’s more.

So we suggest that you be willing to have a different experience.

To go beyond orgasm.

 

Now when men come to have a lingam or Taoist massage we suggest the same thing.

Allow yourself to experience something different, allow your sexual energy to expand, to take you some where you’ve never been before.

Because there are many different states of pleasure available to men.

And to experience these you need to go beyond orgasm.

 

Let’s look at why this is so difficult, and sometimes challenging an idea.

 

The first reason is that we’ve made the definition of successful sex orgasm.

The true definition of successful sex is pleasure.

And the paths of pleasure are many.

Next is the pattern, particularly for men. As a man every time you’ve had a sexual experience, from the time you started touching yourself, you’ve had an orgasm. So you think that’s the way it should be.

Then there’s the wonderful ego idea of ‘I have to make her come’. A wonderfully destructive belief that the media have helped along with gusto.

And then there’s the possibility that most of us just don’t know any different, we have no idea what else is out there, or how to access it.

And so we get stuck in orgasm being all there is.

 

If we’re willing to allow the idea in that there’s more we can open ourselves to worlds of pleasure, sensation, emotion and possibility so vast they probably are without limitation.

 

In pleasure terms, if we’re willing to go beyond the orgasm barrier, and it is often a barrier to these higher states, we open firstly our entire body to pleasure.

It simply has to happen.

Instead of feeling the sensations purely in our pelvis, they spread through the whole body, everywhere tingles, vibrates, oscillates, shouts, screams, sings with Oh Yes Yes Yes!

And just wants to stay there. And have more.

Which it can.

In this space we start to experience different kinds of pleasure, so much, subtle, gentle, overwhelming…it’s all there.

And it’s always different.

 

This gives us an understanding of sexual energy. Which we can only have through experience. We can talk about sexual energy forever. Until we’ve experienced it we have no idea of what it is.

 

As the energy moves through us we start to experience different things, different feelings, emotions, sensations…

It takes us places, physically, emotionally, sensually, spiritually…

We simply have to be there, to allow it.

 

If we choose to learn a little about this energy and its ways we can access it, direct it, guide it, allow it to guide us.

It opens worlds within worlds.

 

But first we have to be willing to go beyond orgasm…

 

 

Understanding the energy of going beyond orgasm is something we teach in many workshops. It’s an important aspect of the Sacred Sexual Massage workshop on Thurs night. This is a beautiful evening for couples, filled with intimacy and pleasure and techniques for going beyond.

 

 

 

As we continue to develop and explore healing and growth possibilities we add Mystical 8′s to our toolbox.

This is based on an ancient Tibetan energy pattern.

The experience is deeply relaxing, connected to old life patterns as well as enhancing our life energy and vitality.

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Durban

 

At last some things are coming together for a few workshops in Natal later this month. There is a very good chance we will be there from 24th April.

If you live in the area and are interested in the workshops please send us a mail so we can let you know.

This will be confirmed in the next few days.

 

SEXPO is coming to Durban this year, 7-9 June.

We’ll have stand, do talks, have something new and exciting AND are doing yoni massage demo’s. If you’d like to be a model for this beautiful experience please let us know.

 

 

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

 

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

 

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

 

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

 

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

 

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

 

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

 

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

 

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 4th May

 

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

 

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

Anne-Marie is offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, until Saturday 13 April you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

www.tantraevolution.com

 

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Making Mistakes

March 18, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Making Mistakes

 

Why do we find it so hard to forgive in relationships? 

So hard to let go of being right?

So hard to let go of  being wronged?

 

Lessons are learned in so many ways in our lives, and so often when we make a mistake, a decision that doesn’t serve us, a decision based in fear or anxiety, we travel to a place that is not our true selves.

 

Yet that place can transform us.

 

If we let it.

 

In the beginning of my Tantric journey, I had an experience that I really felt uncomfortable with. 

And for years that experience lived with me as a “mistake”.

 

Until recently.

 

I realized how that experience had taught me so much about what not to do with my clients, how to create safety for them in the healing and release space, how to respect others’ boundaries even when they can’t speak them, and how to go slowly with this work.

 

How to be gentle.

 

If I’ve learned anything from Jonti, it’s that gentle works deeper, more profoundly, sometimes more slowly, yet with lasting impact.

 

And what I’ve learned recently is to communicate verbally in the same way, with gentleness. That calm truth brings incredibly deep lasting effects too.

 

Although I have never struggled to communicate (talking and sharing has always been an easy space for me)  to communicate my really deep fears, wishes, boundaries and desires is often to be so emotionally overwhelmed that I express everything from a place of fear and cease to care about the consequences. 

 

That’s not gentle.

And it doesn’t work.

 

Most real and truthful communication is difficult, because its not what we’re taught, not what we’ve had much experience of.

 

Real sexual communication is on an even deeper level.

When we can’t communicate lovingly about our deepest selves, our sexual selves, it’s almost impossible to be truthful in other communication.

 

During a breath workshop a while ago, the teacher said something that really stuck with me.

He said that the most destructive lies we ever tell are those that are to “protect someone’s feelings” 

I thought about that a lot. Because it’s really true. We anticipate hurting someone’s feelings by expressing some aspect of ourselves, so we lie. 

We see it as protecting others, when actually it’s destructive for ourselves and others.

 

We think we know how they are going to react, we base that on the past, whether that’s past relationships, or even past communications with that particular person, and we take responsibility for another’s emotions by changing our truth.

 

We’ve all done it, those lies when we don’t really want to see someone, or we’re too tired to face family, or…..

Well. We’ve all done it.

 

And sometimes we would rather lie than tell the truth because we’re afraid of an emotional reaction, an ego sleight.

 

The truth is no matter what we think, we are not responsible for how someone chooses to feel in any given situation.

 

I’m not talking about someone being deliberately cruel to hurt another, I’m talking about the times we are afraid to speak our truth “in case” it hurts someone’s feelings, or brings up emotion for them. The times when we lie because we are afraid of the response our truth may invoke.

 

So, we make mistakes in our relationships, we tell a little lie, we omit to share, we fake orgasm, we have mediocre sex, when we could be telling the truth and going deeper into who we really are, where our relationships can actually go with truth and support. 

 

We make mistakes.

 

What I have learned is that the truth spoken in love, calmly, always has a more long term beneficial effect.

 

The mistakes I have made are nearly always based upon being emotionally overwrought and making decisions in that space.

 

And the lies I’ve told have nearly always been about “protecting” someone’s feelings, or to avoid their perceived anger.

 

So, I’m going back to square one, to the root, learning who I am sexually, what I really want from my relationships, and how to really communicate about that, allowing for change, for letting go of old patterns of communication.

 

Taking this awareness into all relationship, asking for what I would like, being specific, and being ready to honestly accept someone else’s response, whatever that may be.

 

It’s never too late to acknowledge your mistakes as your teachers, letting them guide you into a different way to do things.

 

So, I will embrace my mistakes, my teachers.

 

I will forgive the mistakes I have made in my relationships.

 

I will let them go, and thank them as the bittersweet teachers that they are…

 

I am missing Jonti so much already. As this newsletter goes out he will be in the very centre of his Vision Quest in Cape Town, spending four days in the wilderness with 20 litres of water, having an experience, a vision, and certainly a Quest! 

Keep him in your thoughts, love and energy as he has his adventure…

 

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

For one month Anne-Marie will be offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

We will have a new workshop schedule soon for April, and don’t forget that we teach all of our workshops as private lessons as well for those who feel a little too shy to attend the workshop with other people.

Workshops available as private lessons:

-Expanded Orgasm (includes an E-Book valued at R350)

-The Art of Sex includes information on the G -Spot and female ejaculation 

 

-What Woman Want

-Taoist Massage for Men & Women

-The G -Spot and female ejaculation 

-Tantric Sensual Full Body Massage

-Sacred Sexual Massage for Men & Women

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

The Sexpo Tour

March 4, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Sexpo Tour

The wonders of technology allow us to write this on the way to Cape Town. we are going to be there for Sexpo, for a week of workshops and a 10 day Vision Quest that Jonti’s going to do.

 

We undertake this journey with a sense of celebration on many levels, the past week in our life of conscious sexuality has been a beautiful celebration of pleasure, energy and of possibility. We’ve shared space with women of over 60 embarking on journeys of self and sexual discovery. This is so exciting for us as it affirms that this journey is for everyone, that there are no rules to possibility, the beauty and the power in these women fills us with honour as they choose to share with us. We’ve also shared space with somebody in a wheelchair who has such a sense of life and of joy, that the time with him and his partner truly was a celebration and an affirmation of possibility.

 

The workshop on Thursday night of sexual exploration was honest, powerful and filled with laughter. As we spent time talking, people became more and more open in a space of sharing and safety. In this forum, doors open for people, there is excitement, there is tingling inside, an expansion of what can be in a relationship.

 

Sexpo opens on Thursday in Cape Town, and it is a celebration of sexuality. There’s a lot there that’s loud and plastic and garish, but the fact that we can share this openly is what’s important. We are doing talks everyday as well as massage demonstrations, we look forward to seeing old friends and meeting new ones.

 

The workshops we are offering in the week after Sexpo are very much a celebration of pleasure as they open hearts, minds and bodies to the power of conscious sexuality.

 

If you would like the exciting experience of having a massage at Sexpo, we may have a few available spaces.

 

Friends from Pharaohs Fantasy Club have a stand at Sexpo, and are looking people to help during the exhibition, please contact us if you are interested.

 

We wish you so much pleasure and celebration on this journey of conscious sexuality.

 

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

We’d like to share some feedback from last Thursday’s Workshop:

 

“The surroundings and the non-judgmental environment were awesome; we felt completely safe and comfortable in the knowledge that there was no pressure, no expectations and no specific goal forced on anyone. The first step in our journey as a couple and as individuals has been taken – thanks to all of you for this! We are looking forward to the next step and wherever that may lead us – we’ll be keeping an eye out for the next workshop!”

 

“I think the evening worked really well and met most of our objectives which were to:

Understand the practicalities and emotional considerations of expanding our sexual relationship by involving others in some way, be exposed to the thoughts and challenges of other couples going through the same sort of thinking as we are, and be introduced in a soft, welcoming, unthreatening way to the world of possibilities offered by Pharaohs and similar environments

The importance of rule setting and ongoing frank and open communication was nicely stressed and demonstrated.

Lara played a wonderful role in exploring why couples were there and what they hoped to get out of it. Her bubbly engaging nature made it so easy for even the shyest to speak up.

The completely unpushy activity after we finished talking allowed everyone to interact as much or as little as possible. Those who wanted to could leave easily, there was plenty of room for couples to be on their own, and there were good opportunities to meet others.

We learnt and experienced a lot. It was an exciting and stretching evening”

 

Events & Workshops

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

Cape Town

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

For more specific information on workshops please visit:

www.tantraevolution.com

 

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

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13 Orgasms

February 24, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Anne-Marie writes:

In a talk recently on conscious sexuality, I shared with the group that I personally have identified 12 separate, identifiable orgasmic experiences in my body.

My orgasmic background until the age of 38 was incredibly limited. As I have shared my story with many woman that walk through our doors at Tantra Evolution, I have noticed the parallels that have emerged, patterns that run throughout our lives, not just sexually, in every arena from relationships to parenting to career choices.

My partner Jonti, once said in a workshop that the way we are sexually is the way we are in our entire lives.

At the time I disagreed vehemently.

Until I really, really thought about it.

And the pieces fitted. I had faked orgasm with everyone until I was 38 years old, keeping other people’s egos and pride happy, suppressing my own real pleasure response. I had only experienced clitoral orgasm through toys, shower heads and extremes of temperature.

I had no idea how powerful my sexual response could be, how much pleasure I was truly capable of.

Then I looked at my life.

I had done exactly the same thing. In my career I had made many decisions that involved avoiding anger, having the response that served another’s expectation, not my desire.

 

And I could have been with the most skilled lover in the world and still done exactly the same things, because it was all I knew.

 

In childhood, many of us learn how to survive. Those patterns are the ones that are so deep that we often cannot even recognize them until they come into awareness.

 

I learned that people liked you more if you gave them what they wanted.

I learned that men liked you a lot if you fulfilled their fantasies.

I learned there was less pressure at work if you hid the fact that you were really talented, never out shining anyone around you.

 

And I learned to say yes and suppress.

 

The way I was sexually, was my core patterning.

 

I had to repattern my responses to begin not just manifesting more orgasms, more pleasure, but to free myself from the belief system I had used to survive.

 

Sexual energy was my key to awareness.

 

This is the energy we use in our healing work, combined with what we term as “The Heart Touch”.

 

So much of what we do is about healing. 

 

Yet the really exciting work is what happens after that, when people realize its about their entire lives, the patterns that are limiting them, the choices they make that are not about serving their passion, their highest excitement, with awareness and love.

 

That’s what happened for me. I had my first real orgasm with myself, for myself, by myself.

 

A creative flood ensued, and a move into the field of what Jonti and I have termed “Conscious Sexuality”

 

Have I changed sexually? Yes. As I was listing the 12 orgasms I had a huge realization.

There were now 13. My pleasure possibilities with my sexual energy repatterning had gone beyond! 

 

I’m talking about energy not just having sex.

 

Energy that can be tapped into, meditated into, breathed into, made love into, written into..

So many expressions of creativity and sexual energy.

 

I have learned to say “No” authentically. To say “No” for me. To say “No” to things that at that moment are not ok for me. I say this with a beating heart, often huge fear, and amazing relief that the world doesn’t actually implode!

 

The beautiful repatterning is that

when I say “Yes” now, I mean it, body, mind and soul.

 

My life is orgasmic. My life has gone beyond 12 orgasms

 

And it all started with 1 orgasm….

 

 

We wish you so much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Workshops & Events

Johannesburg

 

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

 

Being a Sexual Goddess (Women Only)

This is a talk on how opening up your sexuality and sexual skills as a woman can benefit you, how to use toys more pleasurably, some skills to take home to try out on your partner….

Sat 2 March  R150 per woman

 

Cape Town

 

We’ll be in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March at the Convention Centre. We’re giving talks every day as well as Massage Demonstrations.

We will have DVD’s for sale, come and say hi at our stand.

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

 

www.tantraevolution.com

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

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Why vibrators can short circuit your pleasure process

February 18, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Why vibrators short circuit your power as a woman.

 

As Tantric therapists and practitioners, the two main sexual issues Annie hears from women are “Without a vibrator, there’s no real guarantee of pleasure for me” and “He doesn’t know how to touch me”

 

We have come to understand, as a generalization these are two important reasons that women become less interested in having sex.

 

As with most things in life, if there’s nothing really in it for you, eventually the desire will fade, sex becomes a chore, something for his pleasure.

 

When this happens, women fall into the sexual patterning of only making love/having sex when they are:

A: Really loving, craving intimacy

B: Really aroused.

Also, seeing as how a women can have a “knee jerk/starburst” orgasm from a good vibrator pretty much anytime they like (providing the kids are occupied, they can find a private space, and have a little time) for a lot of women, there’s even less reason to actually have sex unless A or B or both are in place!!

 

This is the reality of sex for most women in long term relationships

 

The other reality is, although most women are loathe to admit this to their partners, at some point or another most women will fake orgasm in order not to hurt their partners feelings.

 

The reasons for this?

Firstly, at some points in their hormonal cycle women just can’t “get there”, they can get close, they can be in an expanded state of pleasure, but for some reasons, within their bodies, chemically, energetically, they can’t reach clitoral orgasm.

 

What most men do not know is that most woman are actually quite fine with this.

 

If women feel pleasured and intimate and loving, orgasm is not all that important, it’s an added highlight, not a goal.

 

This is such an important statement, as it goes against everything men are “taught” about being good lovers, by society.

Men are under the illusion that if their partners don’t have an orgasm, they haven’t done it right! This is SO deeply ingrained into our sexual culture, reinforced with pornography (where women have “orgasms” in all of 30 seconds) by mainstream media, with the headlines “Give her the best Orgasm!” “How to get your partner to have Multiple Orgasms!” “How to give her a G-Spot Orgasm”

 

And beyond that, the general societal consensus that a good lover always pleasures his woman to an orgasm first, before having an orgasm himself.

 

This puts huge pressure on women to have an orgasm, instead of relaxing and enjoying the pleasure space of making love/having sex.

 

So, with all this pressure for men to know enough to give you an orgasm, and women to be having these huge orgasmic experiences, what happens to the orgasm?

 

Some of the time, the orgasmic response in women will disappear.

 

Not completely, but if as a women you are receiving the same technique, in exactly the same way every time you have sex, the orgasmic response is bound to not happen from time to time.

 

And if there’s pressure for you to have an orgasm before he feels like it’s ok have sex with you, the orgasmic response sometimes moves even further away

 

And then, frustration.

 

This is where the issue is with vibrators, for often the only real guarantee of orgasm comes from using them, for in a sense they can “force” orgasm.

 

This is where the danger point is, the short circuit.

 

Your body then re-patterns to expect only quick, very contractive orgasm, and after a while, this becomes the only orgasm method your body recognizes.

 

Now, don’t for one minute think we advocate a vibrator-less life.

Absolutely not!

Yet if the only sexual pleasure/orgasm you are receiving as a woman is through the use of a vibrator, you are short – circuiting your pleasure response.

 

Why?

 

Firstly, the female body is capable and equipped for having at least 6 different types of physical orgasm, Clitoral, G-Spot, A-Spot, Ejaculatory, Expanded and Blended.

 

So, with 6 different types of physical orgasm to start with, the question is, how short-circuited is the pleasure response when you are only having one orgasm, the limited, contractive type?

 

For as you know, as a women, with a vibrator, there comes a point when your body is done, finished, it’s had enough orgasms.

 

Secondly, the vibrator orgasmic response can be VERY, VERY FAST. There will be times that this is exactly what your body needs and craves, but if this is the only orgasmic response you are having, anything that takes a little more time is lost, the clitoris becomes desensitized and used to very intense vibration, the body  becomes addicted to the chemical rush released with this quick orgasm.

 

All orgasms are not created equal.

 

This does not mean that one is better than the other, just that if you are not having all of the orgasmic and pleasure response available to you as a woman you are short – circuiting your body, physically, hormonally, sensually…

 

You are feeding an appetite in your body as quickly as possible to feel satisfied.

And you are missing out on so much pleasure that your body is capable of.

 

Women have 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris alone. That’s not including the rest of the vagina, not including the A-Spot, the G-Spot, clitoral branch nerves…

 

Tantric practices involve the recycling of energy in the body, without expending it everytime. When this technique is taught to men, when a man learns to have a full orgasm without ejaculating, it changes his life, because it changes his understanding of pleasure orgasmic space versus contractive orgasm.

 

They are not mutually exclusive, yet pleasure can be extended, re – energizing the body, not expending it.

 

It’s the same for women

 

When it becomes about pleasure, extended pleasure, expanded pleasure, sensual energy flooding your body, a whole lot changes within your bodies’ energy patterning. Your body is re- energized, energy can flow…

 

You are tapping into your full potential energetically as a human being equipped with sexual energy.

 

Here’s the catch.

The re – patterning of your bodies’ sexual response takes a little time, a little learning, and a commitment to pleasure.

(Involved in that is a simple technique to use a vibrator that can extend a vibrator orgasm into 5 or 6 times as long….)

 

Here’s the good news about the catch

You can learn these techniques on your own, or with a partner. So, whether you are in a relationship or not, this increase in pleasure is easily learned, with a little commitment and practise, all 6 orgasms can be experienced by a woman…

 

We wish you SO much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

JO’BURG WORKSHOPS

 

THE ART of SEX, Tues 19 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.

 

 

SENSUAL MASSAGE, SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE, Sat 23 Feb, 11 am, couples only.

 

HOLDING SPACE, Tues 26 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.

 



A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

 

Being a Sexual Goddess (Women Only)

This is a talk on how opening up your sexuality and sexual skills as a woman can benefit you, how to use toys more pleasurably, some skills to take home to try out on your partner….

Sat 2 March  R150 per woman

 

Cape Town

 

We’ll be in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March at the Convention Centre. We’re giving talks every day as well as Massage Demonstrations.

We will have DVD’s for sale, come and say hi at our stand.

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

 

Our friend Karen, at NakedCherry has a fantastic opportunity for you to join their small friendly and growing team. They are looking for a highly professional therapist who has a passion for waxing, but is also willing to hire the right personality and train them from scratch .Your personality and attitude towards your work is of the utmost importance to us.   Think you have what she is looking for, please email her your CV & Cover letter to karen@nakedcherry.co.za

 

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Fixing A Relationship

February 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Fixing a Relationship
I had an interesting thought recently.
You can’t fix a relationship.
You can change something in yourself.
You can become aware of your patterns, the things you do.
You can become aware of the impact of what you do.
You can become conscious of how you communicate, how you perceive things, the beliefs you hold and how they manifest.
Without this, all that we do in a relationship will not change.
We’ll keep bringing the same patterns to our space.
We may learn new things.
But we’ll go back to what we know, it’s like a default setting.
And we don’t have much choice in it.
The only thing we can do, the only way we can change anything in a relationship, the only way we can ‘fix’ anything, is to move something within ourselves.
This puts a very different perspective on relationships.
And it no longer makes it about ‘what they do’.
Obviously there are 2 people in a relationship.
And this perspective means taking responsibility for ourselves.
My relationship is my responsibility.
If I don’t heal my stuff, look at my patterns, words and actions, I can’t bring anything different to the space and what’s between us.
Therefore there can’t be a change.
The expectation that many people have is that something external can heal their relationship.
And, in truth, most people looking for healing are looking for some magic formula that’s going to do it for them, wave the wand, abracadabra, it’s done.
And much out there in the world promises that.
Some of it even delivers.
For a short time.
It can’t do anything else.
And we go back to where we were.
We have to.
But when something within us shifts, when we heal, when we release, when we become more aware of who we are, of what we do, of why, when our consciousness expands.
Then we change.
Then, and only then, what’s between us, can change.
I am my relationship.
I am my life.
I make choices from where I am, from what I know.
As I know more, my relationship can expand.
My life can expand.
This is a conscious choice.
And it’s not an easy choice.
It’s not rainbows and white doves.
It takes us into the depths of ourselves, who we are, what we’ve done, what we do.
And who we can be, what we can do.
It can take us to a space of incredible knowing.
It can take us to a space of deep sharing and communication.
It can take us to a space of exposed vulnerability, in a way that is powerful rather than weak.
It can take us beyond the veils of illusion to a space of greater truth.
It can take us to space of growing congruity between our inner and outer worlds.
It can take us to a space where our relationships, and by extension, our lives, are an endless journey, an adventure worthy of the power and strength of the highest we are.
And it can take us to a space of unfolding possibility, beyond what we can see now, beyond what we can conceive, to magnificence, to a knowing of love with a capital L.
Which is so far from what we thought it was…
CAPE TOWN
The sharing in Cape Town this week has been so deep, so exciting.
The Holding Space Experience, wow, beyond words.
We are so looking forward to Tantric Sensual Massage tomorrow. There are still places available for this journey into Conscious Sensual Touch. We have developed a way of touching as an expression of how you feel, going beyond technique into a space of sensation, feeling and pleasure that expands, grows, deepens…
This is followed by The Sacred Sexual Massage, an experience of such power. It includes Quiet Yoni and Lingam, finding the G-Spot, deep stimulation for higher states of pleasure and more.
We will be back in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March, with a full week of workshops the following week.
JO’BURG WORKSHOPS
THE ART of SEX, Tues 19 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.
SENSUAL MASSAGE, SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE, Sat 23 Feb, 11 am, couples only.

HOLDING SPACE, Tues 26 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.

A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

We wish you so much pleasure
Jonti & Anne-Marie

www.tantraevolution.com
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Conscious Sexuality

January 25, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Conscious Sexuality

 

One of the definitions of Consciousness is Presence.

 

Being present, being here, being now.

Being.

 

Being means that we can feel.

To feel we have to be here.

We have to be out of the past, we have to be out of our minds.

We have to be in our bodies.

We have to be there, all of us, all the aspects of our being.

 

Being is just that, being.

So much of our lives revolve around doing.

Taking action, fixing things, changing things, making things happen.

In this space there is no flow, there is no stillness, there are no moments of endless possibility, there are no moments of timeless connection.

There is no time for soul, no time for heart.

 

Sexual beings, Sensual beings, Love beings.

Being is Conscious.

In Beingness we find ourselves.

Not who we’ve become, not the patterns, not the conditioning, not the expectations.

Ourselves.

Our real selves.

Our becoming selves.

Our changing, growing, expanding selves.

For consciousness is never static, it’s not fixed.

It flows.

It constantly reveals aspects of itself we never saw, never even imagined as possible.

In the flow of consciousness we can connect with that energy.

 

In the field of Conscious Sexuality we connect with that energy.

We connect with the possibility of Being, and all the possibilities that brings, all the possibilities that allows.

 

This can bring us into Presence, and the present.

We can live in the now.

Not with choices coloured by the past, but choices we make now.

We can choose a State of Being.

We can allow ourselves to feel, everything we feel.

Without a judgement on any feeling being good or bad.

It just is.

And when we accept that we can see the gifts that the feelings bring.

Consciously feel.

Be with the feelings.

We don’t have to change them.

We don’t have to fix them.

We can just be.

 

Conscious Sexuality is a tool.

A tool for higher states of pleasure.

A tool for higher states of Consciousness.

A tool for healing.

A tool for growth.

A tool for freedom.

A guide, a teacher…

 

Conscious Sexuality brings us into the present.

And into the Presence of something higher.

Ourselves, our higher selves, our free selves, our present selves, our pleasured selves.

 

 

We are offering, for the 1st time, an experiential evening of Holding Space in Cape Town.

When we’re back in Jo’burg we’ll set a date for this beautiful and powerful experience.

 

We wish you so much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Cape Town

 

We’ve had to change our dates for Cape Town by a week.

We will be in Cape Town from Mon 4th Feb.

The sessions and workshops will be in Wynberg.

In this week we are offering private lessons, sessions of healing, growth and exploration, massage experiences for men, women and couples.

These help with a range of sexual and relationship issues and blockages, exploring aspects of your sexuality and sensuality and using sexual energy as a tool for these.

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality and The Sexual Journey

Come and meet us, say hi, we’ll share our understanding of Conscious Sexuality, what the sessions and workshops involve etc.

Tuesday 5th Feb, 7pm.

 

Holding Space

This is an experiential evening of connection and healing.

In a space of safety you’ll be able to hold, to be held, to feel, to be, to learn the Heart Connection and how to express it, being surrounded by touch…

This is a space of deep sharing with others, it has the possibility of release, of revitalisation, of affirming our humanness, the moments of stillness, of breath become a meditation of inspiration.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions and sarongs.

Thursday 7th Feb, 7pm, R350/person.

 

We are excited to share a day of Tantric Sensual Massage and Sacred Sexual Massage on Sat 9th Feb.

This is an experiential day for couples that includes the Heart Touch, Principles of Conscious Sexuality, Sensual Flow Touch, Healing Through Sensuality, Sacred Sexual Massage for Men and Women, Quiet Lingam, Deep G-Spot Stimulation and more…Much more…

Besides the amazing learning of the day it’s also a time of indulgence in sensuality and touch with your partner. You’ll experience a deep sense of closeness and connection, and the pleasure, oh the pleasure…

The Sensual Massage Workshop begins at 11 am, is approximately 5 hrs, lunch is included, R2200/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage starts at 6 pm, R800/couple.

Both workshops will be R2500/couple.

 

Workshops

 

We will soon have a new workshop schedule, until then we are available for private lessons and sessions.

 

A Special Evening of Exploring Sexuality

with Lara and Jonti

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.

In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.

The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…

We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.

After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.

If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.

This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.

The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.

We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

We’ll have a date for this soon.

www.tantraevolution.com

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Holding Space

January 21, 2013 in Uncategorized

Holding Space

 

One of the most powerful aspects of healing is also one of the most simple.

 

Holding, to be held.

 

To be held with love and safety.

To be held without expectation.

To be surrounded by touch, warmth, caring.

To feel loved.

 

The power of this, even for a few minutes at the end of a session, is often the trigger for the release.

This is where the tears come.

This is where we see our patterns.

This is where we let it go.

 

To be held, in quietness, in stillness.

We feel connected.

This is the thing we want more than any other.

And so many of us do so many other things purely for the few moments of being held.

 

We work with an energy we call The Heart Touch.

In simplicity it connects us with an energy within, out there, somewhere higher, deeper.

It allows us to access more resources for healing to happen.

The strongest time the Heart Touch is there is when a heart centre touches another.

 

For a long time I’ve said that sharing a Conscious Sexual Healing Space is like being someone’s lover.

Our minds immediately go to the sexual aspect of that, lovers have sex.

Lovers also Make Love.

This is not only and always about genitals.

That’s sex.

Making Love defines itself.

Making Love.

Held with love, you feel loved.

You feel safe, acknowledged, connected.

A moment from the whirlwind, the struggle, the fear, the loneliness, the guilt, the shame, the lack we live with.

A moment of peace.

A moment of being.

 

So simple.

Just to be held.

 

A study done once said that for an aspect of optimal psychological health we need 8 hugs a day.

Not the back slapping thing a lot of men do.

But a melting moment of being held, of holding.

 

Physical alienation is one of the greatest illnesses of our age.

So many of us have little contact with others.

Intimate contact.

Once again, intimate does not mean sexual.

 

What’s sad is that for so many, touching, holding, intimacy has become connected to sex. So many couples only touch when it’s about sex.

It’s conditional.

 

Holding with love has no condition, no expectation.

A moment of giving and receiving, sharing something so human that we cannot but respond.

In this space you feel the walls and barriers, the distance we put between ourselves and others, how little of our bodies we touch with, how tense we are in being so close to another, how men are terrified of that closeness to another man, how a hug is a chance to touch inappropriately…

 

I remember a workshop I did a long time ago that had a ‘hug process’, which was similar to a Tantric Hug.

At the end of this, and all it involved was a warm embrace, there were very few dry eyes.

 

If we allow ourselves to hold, to be held, we will Behold that we are Beautiful Human Beings.

And we will Behold the power, the peace, the love that comes from this.

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Holding Healing Experiences

 

We have developed a range of Holding Experiences as part of our journey into Conscious Sexuality for couples and single people that fills us with excitement to share with you.

 

We are offering, for the 1st time, an experiential evening of Holding Space in Cape Town.

When we’re back in Jo’burg we’ll set a date for this beautiful and powerful experience.

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality and The Sexual Journey

Wed 23rd Jan, 7 pm.

 

This evening is an introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, what a journey of sexual exploration, growth and healing involves, the possibilities it brings, how we can use sexual energy and more.

 

Booking is essential.

67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst.

 

Cape Town

 

We will be in Cape Town from Mon 28th Jan.

The sessions and workshops will be at 18 Wellington Avenue, Wynberg

In this week we are offering private lessons, sessions of healing, growth and exploration, massage experiences for men, women and couples.

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality and The Sexual Journey

Come and meet us, say hi, we’ll share our understanding of Conscious Sexuality, what the sessions and workshops involve etc.

Mon 28th Jan, 7pm.

 

Holding Space

This is an experiential evening of connection and healing.

In a space of safety you’ll be able to hold, to be held, to feel, to be, to learn the Heart Connection and how to express it, being surrounded by touch…

This is a space of deep sharing with others, it has the possibility of release, of revitalisation, of affirming our humanness, the moments of stillness, of breath become a meditation of inspiration.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions and sarongs.

Wed 30th Jan, 7pm, R350/person.

 

We are excited to share a day of Tantric Sensual Massage and Sacred Sexual Massage on Sat 2nd Feb.

This is an experiential day for couples that includes the Heart Touch, Principles of Conscious Sexuality, Sensual Flow Touch, Healing Through Sensuality, Sacred Sexual Massage for Men and Women, Quiet Lingam, Deep G-Spot Stimulation and more…Much more…

Besides the amazing learning of the day it’s also a time of indulgence in sensuality and touch with your partner. You’ll experience a deep sense of closeness and connection, and the pleasure, oh the pleasure…

The Sensual Massage Workshop begins at 11 am, is approximately 5 hrs, lunch is included, R2200/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage starts at 6 pm, R800/couple.

Both workshops will be R2500/couple.

 

Workshops

 

We will soon have a new workshop schedule, until then we are available for private lessons and sessions.

 

A Special Evening of Exploring Sexuality

with Lara and Jonti

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.

In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.

The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…

We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.

After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.

If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.

This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.

The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.

We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

We’ll have a date for this soon.

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