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The Tears of Orgasm

July 15, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

I’d like to share three stories with you.
Neither of these are isolated, in fact they’re pretty common.

As part of journey exploring their sexuality a couple had an Expanded Orgasm lesson. Full of excitement they went home to practice what they’d learned. They come back in a week or so very confused. He was giving her the gift of pleasure, it was an enormous experience for her, deep waves of pleasure moving through her body. Then came the confusing part. She started crying, sobs that came from nowhere, not connected to anything. To say he was confused is an understatement. How did she go from such pleasure to tears in a moment? What had he done, especially when she couldn’t tell him what she was crying about?

The second story also involves a woman, or women, as this happens a lot.
A woman comes for a Yoni massage, or it’s an experience that’s part of a healing journey. She experiences amazing pleasure, has an incredible orgasm, and lies on the futon crying, sobbing.

The third story is about a man, or men, as, once again, this happens often. In fact, so often with men.
He comes for a massage experience, or has a pleasure experience as part of a healing journey, and lies there, sobbing, gut-wrenching, quivering, shaking sobs.

They all think something’s wrong.
When nothing could be further from the truth.

When you are held with such love.
When you are honoured.
When your body is touched from the heart.
When you are filled with tenderness.
When pleasure overflows.
When your energy is open.
When there is a moment of deep safety.
When there is a moment of connection.
You release.
You let go.

And that is a moment of such beauty, such power, such humanness, such vulnerability.

The power of sexual energy, of pleasure, of orgasm is enormous.
And we can use it in so many ways. We can consciously direct sexual energy, transform and transmute it.
And we can allow the energy to take us, to sweep us away in a wave of sheer intense human beingness.
The power of pleasure opens us to being in the moment, to authenticity of expression that sweeps aside the masks we cover our real face with.

Often we see orgasm bring tears.
These are sacred tears, honest tears.
Tears released by pleasure well from deep inside of us. They take us deep into ourselves. And as we allow them to flow they heal us, they cleanse us, they free us.

Sometimes the tears are of pain.
A body filled with pleasure, a body open and vulnerable, a body filled with emotion just let’s go.
The orgasm is intense, so intense it unlocks doors we’ve long kept closed, tightly shut to keep the pain and anguish from the past hidden away.

Sometimes the tears are of love.
A body filled with pleasure, with love, with the shimmering frequency of vitality, filled to overflowing.
The orgasm opens the energy channels, they expand, we expand, and our outpouring is the energy in motion.

Sometimes the tears are of gratitude.
A body filled with pleasure, every aspect of this being touched, caressed, honoured.
The orgasm flows through you, around you, surrounds you and your tears give thanks.

Sometimes the tears are of transcendence.
A body filled with pleasure expands, dissolves it’s connection to the world, for a moment becomes spirit, essence.
The orgasm takes you beyond and your tears are of the knowing a moment of truth.

Sometimes the tears are of release.
A body filled with pleasure, the frequency is light, lighter.
The orgasm allows you to let go of that which holds you, that which you hold.
And your tears are the tears of freedom.

In the healing space you are wrapped in possibility.
The only connection is in the moment, the only attachment is to now, to experience, to allow yourself.
In this space, your tears, wherever they come from, are tears of beauty.
Exciting times we are living in, new work, new workshops, new massages, new DVD…
The Expanded Orgasm workshop on Tues night offers so much, so much information, a different perspective on pleasure, and the most amazing technique.
We have an incredible new massage for couples.
The very successful workshop on Exploring Sexuality and Fantasy is happening next week.
And Annie’s amazing Self-Pleasuring For Women DVD (Awakening The Goddess) is launched this week

This DVD guides women through Tantric and Taoist techniques to sensually and sexually pleasure themselves to become more orgasmic, increase libido and open sexual/creative energies. The DVD shows you step by step with real women demonstrating how to have expanded orgasmic experiences that can last over an hour in a woman’s body.

The DVD is on special to our subscribers for R250 (Normally R300) and can be ordered via email annemarieclulow@gmail.com

www.kintsukuroigoddess.com

 

We wish you so much pleasure

With gentleness, light & laughter

Jonti & Annie

 

www.tantraevolution.com
www.kintsukuroigoddess.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com
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Expanded Orgasm Workshop
Tues 16th, 7pm
R345/person
67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
This workshop opens a doorway to amazing sexual pleasure for men and women, as well as being accessible to experience on your own.
Amongst other things it teaches sexual communication, how a woman can be in an orgasmic state for over an hour, how men can be multi-orgasmic, how to use sexual energy for meditation and more.
This is for singles and couples.

A Special Evening of Exploring Sexuality and Fantasy
with Lara and Jonti

Thurs 25th July
7:30 pm
Pharaohs Fantasy Club
R690/couple
Booking essential

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality and fantasies.
In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with each other and others.
The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…
We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.
After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.
If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.
This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.
The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.
We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

 

For more information on these workshops, or to book, please go to www.tantraevolution.com

Or contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

FANTASY

I have a fantasy, she said
Tell me, he said
And I’ll tell you mine
They begin gently
She said, mmm, another woman
He nodded, two women, definitely
He said a blindfold, she nodded
She said a long piece of rope
She said somebody really big, hmmm
He said somebody really supple, she smiled
Tell me the details, she said, so I can understand
They felt the heat rise
Had to stop talking to…
Tell me more, he said
I’ve never before, she said
I love you, he said, tell me
You touching, mmm, another, mmm, well, a man
Her eyes shone with lust
He paused, nervous
I love you she said, want to know all of you
He said, a girl just reached puberty
They paused, looked into each others eyes, hearts
Saw love, excitement, acceptance
Opened the door to…
A public place
A camera
Others, one many, every combination
Roles, seduction, a whip
A whispered offering in a stranger’s ear
The unspeakables they’d hidden
And spoke more than ever
Feeling only love, excitement, desire
Freedom

 

A Gentle Revolution

June 24, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

A Gentle Revolution

On Thursday night something amazing happened.
We sat in front of a warm fire, 8 couples to learn and experience The Caress of The Passion Flower.
One of the most important principles we teach as part of Conscious Sexual Touch is how to touch gently and slowly.
One of the reasons for this is what we call The Sexual Fire. The principle of this is that woman’s sexual cycle, to reach peak states of pleasure, is slow. Patience is the key.
If you take big logs, put petrol on and light them, they’ll burn, but not for long. There’s not a lot of substance or sustenance.
If you start slowly, light some twigs, add something a little bigger, let it burn, you’ll create a fire of amazing heat and longevity.
The slower and the gentler you begin this experience, the higher the pleasure will be.
We spoke for a while, explained the process, taught an anatomy lesson, showed everybody about all the clitoral nerves and their extensions, the G-Spot, the A-spot, other new pleasure areas I’ve recently come across.
Then I went round to everybody and showed them what gentle really means.
Now a lot of men think they’re touching gently, but they actually have no idea what it really means.
We demonstrated the first part of the massage, everybody settled down with their partners and began the experience.
The magic started.
The lighting was low, the fire burning, gentle music playing, warm hands on soft skin.
And the faces of the men there, focussed on their partner’s. An intensity that grew through the evening, deepened with each part of the massage.
They saw what touching in that way did.
How their women’s bodies responded, how the energy moved through them, waves of sensation that were visible, breathing that became audible, you could sense the energy building.
And the men, oh my, the concentration, the connection, the intensity, the touch, the pleasure, orgasm into orgasm into orgasm, expanded states, bodies filled with pleasure, the smiles, eyes so peaceful, hearts full.

So much happened that night, for everybody there.
And what’s happened afterwards has been amazing.

So many men come to me to ask how to have more sex, and how to be better lovers.
We definitely found some answers on Thurs.
Men who not only became better lovers, they became masterful.
And then the answer to having more sex. It’s actually quite simple.
When a woman is sexually fulfilled, deeply pleasured, she wants to have more sex, she is more adventurous, more erotic, braver, more open.
If more men realised this, realised just how simple it is, many more people would happier, more relationships happier.
It takes some effort on the part of men, you have to learn to do things differently, you have to learn about her body, about her yoni, about her needs.
And about yourself.
In this space we saw men, real men.

There is not a woman who would not want to experience what the 8 women there on Thurs did.
There is not a man who would not want to experience what the 8 men there on Thurs did.
To be able to give so much pleasure, to be so powerful. And the key was in the gentleness.

These men definitely got to wear Superman T-shirts on Fri.

We can talk so much about the beautiful evening, we’d  like to share what some of the people who were there have to say.

‘I would just like to say thank you for the exquisite journey you are taking me on. Set in the perfect surroundings with abundant ambiance at Pharaohs it was totally tantalizing. The soft sensual music, the sound of the fire crackling, and the absolutely wonderful sensual energy that was abundant among the people all around us.  The trance like state that you enter while you did the demonstration on Anne was enough for all of us to tap into, to achieve a totally wonderful sensual experience.

The Yoni massage is a sensual and a spiritual pilgrimage that can join people and nourish your soul by totally letting go and drawing from the universal energy that surrounds us.

Each of us is doing the very best that we can at this moment, however if we had more understanding and awareness we would all try this amazing journey. We can only be ready to make positive changes in our lives when we want to attract whatever it is we need to help us.

Jonti, thank you once again, a grateful heart is the friend of happiness, inner peace and joy.’

‘Discovering the sacred space of your partner, and mastering the art of pleasuring and connecting with your partner.  This is what you need to keep the sexual fires burning for the next few decades and beyond.’

‘And so it was that, after some umming, ahhing and consideration, my husband and I found ourselves en route to our first ever Sacred Sexual Massage session.  Upon arrival, we initially felt a bit shy and uncomfortable, but that disappeared before long, because our teachers, Jonti and Anne-Marie, put us at ease with their compassion and sincerety.  We soon realised that we were in the hands of masters:  they taught and showed us how to experience pleasure and fulfillment – powerful and life changing stuff.

If you decide to take the leap and attend a Sacred Sexual Massage session, you will be astounded.  You will get pushed out of your comfort zone and into a new dimension filled with an abundant and beautiful energy.’

We will soon be offering a similar experience for men, and have another Passion Flower Evening.

We wish you so much pleasure…
Jonti & Anne-Marie

www.tantraevolution.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com
 

The Warrior Awakening

June 1, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Warrior Awakening

 

I’d like to share a moment from my week with you, a moment of beauty and power, a moment of realization, a moment of becoming. Many of the people who come and see us do so from the understanding that our sexual energy is a source of extreme power that can be used for healing and growth in every aspect of our lives.

This goes beyond purely sexual issues. Many of the people I’m working with at the moment are using this energy to clear the blockages and patterns of the past in order to make different life choices and to create lives of greater meaning, joy and fulfilment. Part of this journey for men and women is awakening the warrior within. Many of us have lost our connection to this energy, to what it means to live as a warrior, and how to manifest the power of this in our lives.

So I sat with a man on a journey. At the beginning of the journey we spoke about the importance of awakening this warrior within. Firstly, and most importantly for himself, and secondly for his relationship. He acknowledged that he had no real idea what this warrior is, who this warrior was. My reply was that it would awaken and unfold as we travelled on this journey of healing and growth. In a session this week he spoke about some of the things he had done differently, how, for the first time in so long, in fact so long that he couldn’t remember when he had done it before, he expressed himself, stating clearly what he wanted. This was in the context of giving himself a gift, and the extension, giving his partner support, in a way he’d never been ale to do before. I looked at him, I felt an amazing silence from the space, a silence that surrounds a moment of revelation, a silence that allows your soul to speak, and in this silence was the understanding that he had expressed an aspect of the warrior within. There were tears in his eyes at the acknowledgment of what he had done, and who he was becoming.

So, who is this warrior?

You step onto the path of healing and growth, the path that leaves the past behind, the path that fills you with the present, the path that leads to life fulfilment, you become a warrior of the heart, a warrior of spirit.

The warrior looks into the mirror.

The warrior looks deep into the mirror.

The warrior sees beyond the mists of illusion, and as hard as it is to look deeply into ourselves, the warriors gaze is firm, as the layers of who we’ve become fall away, more of who we truly are is revealed. In the acknowledgment of who we are, is the door of possibility to becoming the highest we are.

The warrior is in the rhythm of life, for the warrior knows when to stand firm, when to bend with the wind.

The warrior knows when there needs be silence, and when his words need ring out.

The warrior knows, yes the warrior knows, when the day for battle dawns, and when there is a day to yield.

The warrior knows that to go within, deep within, is to go into the heights of beyond, and the warrior knows that to be able to create a life, is balanced by the power to destroy.

The warrior is a state of being, a state of mind, a state of becoming, for this is the rhythm of life, the rhythm with which the warrior dances.

 

This is what the journey of conscious sexuality offers you

I am humbled and honoured to share this space with you.

 

As the understanding of Conscious Pleasure Energy expands more than ever, so we are able to share with you for the first time, the workshops in Cape Town this week, particularly the Sensual and Sacred Sexual Massage workshops on Saturday. We will share these understandings and techniques to allow you to experience heightened states of pleasure and directly experience your Conscious Pleasure Energy.

We will also share some of the principles of these in the free talk on Monday night in Cape Town, and Tuesday the 18th of June in a free talk on “Conscious Sexual Energy and its place in our lives”. in Johannesburg.

 

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

To Book:

Contact Jonti 083 743 5129

jontisearll@mweb.co.za

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

 

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

YouTube link:

http://youtu.be/oNOyabLqBIk

 

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

 

 

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

 

Jonti and Anne-Marie

 

www.tantraevolution.com

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

www.conscioustouch.tumblr.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

Let Us Be Inappropriate

May 28, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Let Us Be Inappropriate

Let us give ourselves permission.
Let us allow ourselves.

Let the fire burn in our bodies, in our hearts, in our minds.

Let us throw the masks and armour on the fire so that we may be revealed.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the Gods we are.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the Goddesses we are.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the God in others.

And through the eyes of revelation we will see the shimmering of possibility that dwells in every moment.

And with the fire that burns we will dance in those moments.
And with the fire that burns we will dance with life.
And with the fire that burns we will dance the wild, the wild, the wild.
The passion, the scream, the sweat, the yell, the primal sound of our soul.
And with the dance of this sacred fire we will let slip the bounds of this world.
And the steps of this dance will take us beyond.
Beyond our bodies, beyond our hearts, beyond our minds.
We will dance to the place between where the mystery lives.
The place where truth dwells.
The place that calls us again and again.
The place we seek down many paths.
The place we seek within.
The place we seek lifetime after lifetime.
The place of spirit.

In this place we become free.
We become human.
In the image of, the manifestation of, the expression of, the being of, the living of, the dream of, the love of.

This place, the place between, this is the place of love.
The love that rips you apart, that tears into your heart, that breaks your body.
The love that we speak of in whispers in the silent longing of our heart.
The love that breaks us to be reborn to love to break to be reborn to love.
The love that is teacher and pupil, acolyte and guru.
The love that is flame and shadow.
The love that is poison and healer.
The love of the moment, the love of eternity.

Let us stand in the storm and allow the lightning to strike us, flow through us into the earth, join us to the ground.
Let us stand in the storm, in the rain and the wind and roar as warriors.
Let our voices ring out.
Let us sing our truths and shout our dreams to the wind.
Let us be heard, let us be seen, let us be known.

Let us be all.
Let us be beautiful.
Let us be human.
Let us be alive.
Let us be joyous.
Let us be inappropriate.

We wish you so much pleasure.

There has been a great deal of new work coming through lately and I’m developing new healing protocols with the information.
If you’d like some healing work/body experience as I develop and refine these techniques please contact me, men and women.

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.
We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.
There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.
All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.
The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY
An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.
We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Time: 7pm

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE
Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm
Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti and Anne-Marie

www.tantraevolution.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
www.conscioustouch.tumblr.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

Touch This Body

May 15, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

TOUCH THIS BODY

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

For this is sacred ground

Approach with reverence

As you look upon the beauty laid before you

Rest your hand with tenderness

And feel

Feel your heart

Feel your heart open

Feel your heart open to the flow

Feel your heart open to the flow of love

Feel your heart open to the flow of love from a place deep within you

A place beyond you

In a silent moment acknowledge the holy within you

And allow your hands to tell of this

For in this moment of connection you see the mirror

The sacred reflected within you, through you

And as you touch another, they know, deep within, they know

A place beyond mind, they know, even for a moment

That which dwells within them

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

Allow your hands to greet this skin, this heart, this mind, this being

Allow your hands to soothe the hurt, the pain it carries

Allow your hands to gently open it to receive the love offered

Allow your hands to be as a deep breath, a moment in, and the release, the relaxation

Allow your hands to tell of the beauty they feel

Allow your hands to slowly part the armour, to ease the mask away, to lighten the load it bears

Allow your hands to be the voice of that beyond you

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

Breathe

Feel the pleasure

Feel the pleasure within you

Feel the pleasure within you stir

Feel the pleasure within you stir and flow
Feel the pleasure within you stir and flow into your hands

Allow your hands to tell of that which breathes and lives and burns within you

Allow your hands to slowly kindle this fire

To give it life
Each stroke a warming, a flame added
A liquid heat, spreading, opening, expanding

The life force flows, fills, expands

The boundaries of this body melt

We go beyond our flesh

We see that this physical casing is merely a portal

Its blood, its nerves, its muscles serve to take us

Take us deeper, higher

And then they are no more as the wave of pleasure engulfs us, wraps us in sensation, in emotion, in a moment of being that lasts an eternity, takes us into the swirling space where the Divine dances

Slowly we return

Slowly we feel our breath

Slowly we feel the weight of being

Lighter now

For every visit to that Sacred Temple of Pleasure leaves its shimmering within us

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

For this is sacred ground

 

In the world of Conscious Sexuality we regard certain touch and massage experiences as being acts of worship.
We use the words massage and touch simply because we have no others, but these experiences go way beyond the general understanding and experience of massage.

Going beyond even that I’d like to offer a different perspective and possibility with Conscious Sensual Touch, Conscious Pleasure Energy, Conscious Sexual Touch etc.

We’ll use the word massage because it’s the closest we have.

Generally we see the roles of giver and receiver being quite set in this space.
And generally there is way more pleasure for the person receiving the massage.

Let’s change something here.
There is a way of touching that is worshipping.
So the question is who is worshipping?
If I’m the person giving the massage, then it’s me.

And I can use that space, that touch as a way for it become a sacred experience, a spiritual experience, a meditation for me.

Of course there’s enormous benefit in this for the person receiving the massage.

And there’s so much for me.

When I enter the space in this way, with the intention of connecting with something higher, something beyond me, of allowing it to be transcendent for me, a shift happens.
 A deep shift in awareness.
 An opening of a space within me, an acknowledgement of the energy coming through me.
Where is this coming from?
Source, Spirit, The Universe, God, The Goddess…

I come to you to pray.
For that is the manifestation of the energy, the coming into being of the intention.
You, your body, your being becomes the altar, the recipient of my prayer.
I open myself, elevate myself, connect myself.
And in so doing, I am able to offer you more.
And the more I can be open, the more I can be vulnerable, the more I have to offer you.
My body, my hands become a vessel for this holy energy.
And as it flows through me, it touches me, heals me, calms me, relaxes me, arouses me.
As it flows through me to you.
This becomes a temple that we create, a space that we weave filled with love, with giving, receiving, sharing…

This brings up a beautifully different perspective on healing as well.
We generally heal to receive more.
Here, we heal to give more.
Releasing my pain, my blockages, my resistances, my withholds for the purpose of allowing more to flow through me.
And going beyond that to the knowing that the purpose of more flowing through me allows me to give more.
Which allows you to receive more.
And going beyond even that.
It allows me, in that space, to go deeper into myself.
To make my prayer, my meditation, my giving more.

And in the giving is the receiving.
Not in the way we mostly see that, that it’s good to give.
But there’s a sacred intention.
And I have to be open to receive before I can give, truly give.
Anybody can do massage, anybody can do healing.
This is becoming, becoming massage, becoming touch, becoming healing, becoming conscious, becoming awake, becoming aware, becoming connected, becoming love.

And the in the giving is the receiving.



There are so many exciting things coming up.
The free talks have been wonderful, we’re really looking forward to the next one.
The evening at Pharaohs on Exploring Sexuality was a great success, we’re doing it again.
There’s a good Sensual Massage Special Offer, and we’re coming to Cape Town.
I’ve recently started using some specially shaped supports during some of the Pleasure Massage Experiences. These have really expanded the depth of sensation, taking these massages to new levels.

Workshops & Events 

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

Contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

or: jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

A SPECIAL EVENING OF EXPLORING SEXUALITY WITH LARA AND JONTI, Thurs 23rd May

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.

In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.

The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…

We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.

After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.

If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.

This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.

The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.

We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R790/couple

 

HEALING SEXUALITY, Tues 28th May

What is sexual healing, where do our sexual problems come from, how do sexual energy blockages manifest, how can we change them, how can we use sexual energy for other purposes, how do we go from sexual healing to sexual growth…

The 2nd part of the evening is exploring and experiencing some aspects of sexual energy, giving you possibilities to continue this journey.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Venue: 67 6th St, Parkhurst

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

CONSCIOUS SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE SPECIAL

This is a peak experience on the sexual journey, on our life journey..

Slow, gentle strokes relax your body, you feel a warmth as we begin to build the sexual fire, flames of pleasure that move through your whole body to a peak of sensation…

For the month of May this massage is being offered at R600, usually R900.

 

The cheese has moved, the goalposts have shifted.

SEXPO in Durban has been postponed until next year so…

 

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

 

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

 

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

 

For more detailed information on workshops and FAQ’s please visit

www.tantraevolution.com

We wish you SO much pleasure!..

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

 

Renewed Commitment, Renewed Passion

April 2, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Renewed Commitment, Renewed Passion

 

For the first time since I began this work I was able to take some time to do something purely for myself.

This is thanks to Annie, a Goddess Becoming, thank you, my love, for making this possible.

 

I had the privilege of participating in a Vision Quest with Valerie Morris and Judy Bekker in Cape Town. Have a look at their website,rbanet.co.za.

This was an experience of deep connection with myself, with nature and others. It was a time of extraordinary beauty, learning, sharing and growing.

Their guidance and facilitation simply enfold you in a world of possibility.

This is a life changing experience, if you can…

 

I come back from this time with so much.

With greater understanding of this work, of masculine and feminine energies, of relationship patterns and possibilities, of energy flow, of the connection and context of our sexuality to the rest of our lives, so much about healing and growth, what spiritual sexuality is and more.

 

I come back from this time with a renewed commitment to you and to myself.

 

I come back from this time with an increase in my energy, a new depth to my touch, a new connection to my intuition and a renewed understanding of knowing that for me, this work is an expression of love.

 

To you, to offer all that I know to guide you as you heal, to release and change that which no longer serves you, to help you discover and see the patterns in your life, to connect with yourself, re-connect with yourself, reclaim that which you’ve lost, help you discover, uncover, reveal that which is within you that you’d like to bring out into your life, into your world.

 

To you, who come to the pleasure aspect of this work, I offer a deeper understanding of the importance and place of pleasure. I also offer an expansion in the tools we have for pleasure.

 

The place of pleasure on this journey of healing and growth, of transformation, of self-discovery, is paramount.

 

Most of our healing, most of our growth, comes from a place of pain.

Pain is a place to visit, not a place to live.

For so many of us, pain, the pain of our lives, the condition of our lives, our relationships, defines us.

Our lack of fulfillment, our dissatisfaction, our lost dreams, our frustrations, the lack of passion, the narrowness of our lives, the constrictions, inhibitions and limitations we’ve chosen to live with, hold us.

 

By allowing greater pleasure into our lives we can begin to change these, if we choose.

If we choose.

 

We have the possibility to change things in our selves, in our lives, and in our world. Big changes, small changes, whatever we choose.

To be a little happier, more peaceful, have a little more pleasure, more fun, be a little more creative, enjoy waking up more…

 

If we choose…

 

And the path of pleasure offers itself as a guide on this journey.

A beautiful guide, a guide filled with experiences of enchantment and wonder, a guide to bring body, mind, heart and soul together, a guide to show you your own truth, your own self.

 

For every one of us who makes this journey, even if it’s coming to just learn a little more about pleasure, we make it possible for others.

For every one of us who is brave enough to step beyond what we know, a small step, a big step, we make it possible for others.

 

The commitment I make to myself is to do this in the best way I can.

For this is ‘mine to do in the world’.

To keep learning, keep growing, keep expanding.

The purpose of knowledge is to share it. This is the livingness, the manifestation of my journey.

 

I’m here, Anne-Marie is here, committed to the path of Conscious Sexuality.

There’s a way for all of us who’d like to step onto this path.

What we have, we offer…

 

As well as some exciting new workshops we’ll be offering soon we’re also planning Conscious Sexual Retreats and Massage Weekends for later in the year.

One of the most important aspects of the workshops, and we keep getting feedback on this, is that it’s an open forum to express, ask questions, in a non-judgmental space. There are very few sexual spaces like this in our lives.

 

Assistance

 

We are looking for help with 2 things.

Short-term accomodation for a woman, a cottage or flat, close to or between Ferndale and Parkhurst.

 

My daughter is looking for a small car, must be automatic, good condition.

 

Please let us know if you’re aware of possibilities.

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

 

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

 

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

 

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

 

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cnr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

 

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

 

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

 

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 27th April

 

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

We also give you a copy of the DVD of Tantric Sensual Massage valued at R300 to take home with you after this amazing experience.

 

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

 

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

 

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cnr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage (2 weeks left)

Anne-Marie is offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

www.tantraevolution.com

 

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The Illusion of Control

March 25, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Illusion of Control

I woke during the night thinking about how much time and effort we spend on the things we cannot control. 

 

Trying to be good enough, giving enough so that our families, lovers, children, friends will love us.

Trying to be thin enough or sexy enough, or rich enough that they’ll be attracted to us.

Trying to have the things that make us happy, the job, the promotion, the sex life, the house, the car…

 

We are sold the illusion that we can control our emotions, that we can control our bodies, that we can control everything. Isn’t that disciplined of us? Isn’t that grown up of us?

And especially that we can control our sexuality.

Can we?

 

Of course we can. 

Within the confines of the illusion.

 

So, we pretend that when we are married that we are never attracted to anybody else. We start our diets on a Monday eating without limits over weekends. We ask for a happily ever after that’s a fairy tale, and we believe that we are in control.

 

But we are not.

Because life happens.

People die. Or get sick. Or fall in love with inappropriate people according to their families, or are attracted to people of their own gender, or someone lies to you or betrays you, or you stop having orgasms, or your erection fails, and life happens.

 

And this is not what you were told.

And your life becomes emotional, chaotic, painful.

 

And you feel as if you’ve lost control.

When actually it was never there to begin with.

You become vulnerable

 

Now, here’s what very few will tell you, for only those who’ve experienced this know the secret.

 

This is the time of your greatest power.

 

 

When Jonti first explained this concept to me, I didn’t completely agree with him! Until I really understood that this is the time when it’s possible to see that it’s about choice, not control. Because this is the time when you are at your most vulnerable.

What do you have a choice about?

You have a choice about how you choose to respond.

That is ALWAYS your choice.

 

You may not choose the pain.

You may not choose the overwhelming emotions.

You may not choose the anger.

You may believe these emotions are “bad” because of how lousy you feel.

 

Yet, you still have the most powerful choice.

You choose how to respond.

In that conscious choice lies freedom and power.

 

Most of us don’t choose consciously.  We just react, instantly. Our patterning kicks in. 

 

Someone hurts us, we hurt them back

Someone offends us, we react angrily.

Someone betrays us, oh, we plan revenge…

This is just our patterning.

 

Yet we can change that, do that differently. Patterns are controlled, rigid, unyielding, the same.

Choice is fluid, changing, aware of options, of possibility.

 

Two of our clients recently wrote about this process for them, of making different choices within vulnerability…

 

I let waves of emotion wash over me allowing me to connect with my sense of self, my feminine energy. I feel released – like something inside me has changed .It has taken me a long time to allow myself to be vulnerable- it is not an easy thing for me to do, but yesterday I felt very vulnerable and yet it was powerful at the same time.”

 

“I cried that night because after all these energy centres opening up, I desired so much touch and intimacy and came to the conclusion that I have denied myself love and pleasure through choosing to be in long distance relationships. I felt that, that was a break through for me. This all happened for me on the night after I saw you.

 

Change is happening in my body, it is deeply spiritual.”

 

So many of our clients come to us because they’re  in pain.

 Emotional pain, physical pain, sexual pain, heartache.

 

You can walk into a new awareness, a new consciousness, when you realize that what you think you control, you do not. You let go.

 

And this is your freedom.

This becomes the furnace for your Phoenix.

This does not mean you throw it all away because you cannot control it.

This means you make different choices, have more options on how you can respond to what life unfolds for you.

Not just a patterned reaction.

An aware, conscious choice, with benefit to you, centered on filling your life with bliss, joy, love and pleasure, so much that you overflow that into those around you.

 

Control is the illusion.

Choice on response is the reality.

Pleasure has a higher frequency, a more beneficial body response than pain. Can we learn to have more pleasure? Oh yes!

The choice however, is yours.

 

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

For one month Anne-Marie will be offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

We are planning on putting our new workshop schedule together this week, and will have dates for some massage workshops soon.

 

www.tantraevolution.com

 

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The Sexpo Tour

March 4, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Sexpo Tour

The wonders of technology allow us to write this on the way to Cape Town. we are going to be there for Sexpo, for a week of workshops and a 10 day Vision Quest that Jonti’s going to do.

 

We undertake this journey with a sense of celebration on many levels, the past week in our life of conscious sexuality has been a beautiful celebration of pleasure, energy and of possibility. We’ve shared space with women of over 60 embarking on journeys of self and sexual discovery. This is so exciting for us as it affirms that this journey is for everyone, that there are no rules to possibility, the beauty and the power in these women fills us with honour as they choose to share with us. We’ve also shared space with somebody in a wheelchair who has such a sense of life and of joy, that the time with him and his partner truly was a celebration and an affirmation of possibility.

 

The workshop on Thursday night of sexual exploration was honest, powerful and filled with laughter. As we spent time talking, people became more and more open in a space of sharing and safety. In this forum, doors open for people, there is excitement, there is tingling inside, an expansion of what can be in a relationship.

 

Sexpo opens on Thursday in Cape Town, and it is a celebration of sexuality. There’s a lot there that’s loud and plastic and garish, but the fact that we can share this openly is what’s important. We are doing talks everyday as well as massage demonstrations, we look forward to seeing old friends and meeting new ones.

 

The workshops we are offering in the week after Sexpo are very much a celebration of pleasure as they open hearts, minds and bodies to the power of conscious sexuality.

 

If you would like the exciting experience of having a massage at Sexpo, we may have a few available spaces.

 

Friends from Pharaohs Fantasy Club have a stand at Sexpo, and are looking people to help during the exhibition, please contact us if you are interested.

 

We wish you so much pleasure and celebration on this journey of conscious sexuality.

 

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

We’d like to share some feedback from last Thursday’s Workshop:

 

“The surroundings and the non-judgmental environment were awesome; we felt completely safe and comfortable in the knowledge that there was no pressure, no expectations and no specific goal forced on anyone. The first step in our journey as a couple and as individuals has been taken – thanks to all of you for this! We are looking forward to the next step and wherever that may lead us – we’ll be keeping an eye out for the next workshop!”

 

“I think the evening worked really well and met most of our objectives which were to:

Understand the practicalities and emotional considerations of expanding our sexual relationship by involving others in some way, be exposed to the thoughts and challenges of other couples going through the same sort of thinking as we are, and be introduced in a soft, welcoming, unthreatening way to the world of possibilities offered by Pharaohs and similar environments

The importance of rule setting and ongoing frank and open communication was nicely stressed and demonstrated.

Lara played a wonderful role in exploring why couples were there and what they hoped to get out of it. Her bubbly engaging nature made it so easy for even the shyest to speak up.

The completely unpushy activity after we finished talking allowed everyone to interact as much or as little as possible. Those who wanted to could leave easily, there was plenty of room for couples to be on their own, and there were good opportunities to meet others.

We learnt and experienced a lot. It was an exciting and stretching evening”

 

Events & Workshops

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

Cape Town

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

For more specific information on workshops please visit:

www.tantraevolution.com

 

 

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13 Orgasms

February 24, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Anne-Marie writes:

In a talk recently on conscious sexuality, I shared with the group that I personally have identified 12 separate, identifiable orgasmic experiences in my body.

My orgasmic background until the age of 38 was incredibly limited. As I have shared my story with many woman that walk through our doors at Tantra Evolution, I have noticed the parallels that have emerged, patterns that run throughout our lives, not just sexually, in every arena from relationships to parenting to career choices.

My partner Jonti, once said in a workshop that the way we are sexually is the way we are in our entire lives.

At the time I disagreed vehemently.

Until I really, really thought about it.

And the pieces fitted. I had faked orgasm with everyone until I was 38 years old, keeping other people’s egos and pride happy, suppressing my own real pleasure response. I had only experienced clitoral orgasm through toys, shower heads and extremes of temperature.

I had no idea how powerful my sexual response could be, how much pleasure I was truly capable of.

Then I looked at my life.

I had done exactly the same thing. In my career I had made many decisions that involved avoiding anger, having the response that served another’s expectation, not my desire.

 

And I could have been with the most skilled lover in the world and still done exactly the same things, because it was all I knew.

 

In childhood, many of us learn how to survive. Those patterns are the ones that are so deep that we often cannot even recognize them until they come into awareness.

 

I learned that people liked you more if you gave them what they wanted.

I learned that men liked you a lot if you fulfilled their fantasies.

I learned there was less pressure at work if you hid the fact that you were really talented, never out shining anyone around you.

 

And I learned to say yes and suppress.

 

The way I was sexually, was my core patterning.

 

I had to repattern my responses to begin not just manifesting more orgasms, more pleasure, but to free myself from the belief system I had used to survive.

 

Sexual energy was my key to awareness.

 

This is the energy we use in our healing work, combined with what we term as “The Heart Touch”.

 

So much of what we do is about healing. 

 

Yet the really exciting work is what happens after that, when people realize its about their entire lives, the patterns that are limiting them, the choices they make that are not about serving their passion, their highest excitement, with awareness and love.

 

That’s what happened for me. I had my first real orgasm with myself, for myself, by myself.

 

A creative flood ensued, and a move into the field of what Jonti and I have termed “Conscious Sexuality”

 

Have I changed sexually? Yes. As I was listing the 12 orgasms I had a huge realization.

There were now 13. My pleasure possibilities with my sexual energy repatterning had gone beyond! 

 

I’m talking about energy not just having sex.

 

Energy that can be tapped into, meditated into, breathed into, made love into, written into..

So many expressions of creativity and sexual energy.

 

I have learned to say “No” authentically. To say “No” for me. To say “No” to things that at that moment are not ok for me. I say this with a beating heart, often huge fear, and amazing relief that the world doesn’t actually implode!

 

The beautiful repatterning is that

when I say “Yes” now, I mean it, body, mind and soul.

 

My life is orgasmic. My life has gone beyond 12 orgasms

 

And it all started with 1 orgasm….

 

 

We wish you so much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Workshops & Events

Johannesburg

 

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

 

Being a Sexual Goddess (Women Only)

This is a talk on how opening up your sexuality and sexual skills as a woman can benefit you, how to use toys more pleasurably, some skills to take home to try out on your partner….

Sat 2 March  R150 per woman

 

Cape Town

 

We’ll be in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March at the Convention Centre. We’re giving talks every day as well as Massage Demonstrations.

We will have DVD’s for sale, come and say hi at our stand.

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

 

www.tantraevolution.com

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Why vibrators can short circuit your pleasure process

February 18, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Why vibrators short circuit your power as a woman.

 

As Tantric therapists and practitioners, the two main sexual issues Annie hears from women are “Without a vibrator, there’s no real guarantee of pleasure for me” and “He doesn’t know how to touch me”

 

We have come to understand, as a generalization these are two important reasons that women become less interested in having sex.

 

As with most things in life, if there’s nothing really in it for you, eventually the desire will fade, sex becomes a chore, something for his pleasure.

 

When this happens, women fall into the sexual patterning of only making love/having sex when they are:

A: Really loving, craving intimacy

B: Really aroused.

Also, seeing as how a women can have a “knee jerk/starburst” orgasm from a good vibrator pretty much anytime they like (providing the kids are occupied, they can find a private space, and have a little time) for a lot of women, there’s even less reason to actually have sex unless A or B or both are in place!!

 

This is the reality of sex for most women in long term relationships

 

The other reality is, although most women are loathe to admit this to their partners, at some point or another most women will fake orgasm in order not to hurt their partners feelings.

 

The reasons for this?

Firstly, at some points in their hormonal cycle women just can’t “get there”, they can get close, they can be in an expanded state of pleasure, but for some reasons, within their bodies, chemically, energetically, they can’t reach clitoral orgasm.

 

What most men do not know is that most woman are actually quite fine with this.

 

If women feel pleasured and intimate and loving, orgasm is not all that important, it’s an added highlight, not a goal.

 

This is such an important statement, as it goes against everything men are “taught” about being good lovers, by society.

Men are under the illusion that if their partners don’t have an orgasm, they haven’t done it right! This is SO deeply ingrained into our sexual culture, reinforced with pornography (where women have “orgasms” in all of 30 seconds) by mainstream media, with the headlines “Give her the best Orgasm!” “How to get your partner to have Multiple Orgasms!” “How to give her a G-Spot Orgasm”

 

And beyond that, the general societal consensus that a good lover always pleasures his woman to an orgasm first, before having an orgasm himself.

 

This puts huge pressure on women to have an orgasm, instead of relaxing and enjoying the pleasure space of making love/having sex.

 

So, with all this pressure for men to know enough to give you an orgasm, and women to be having these huge orgasmic experiences, what happens to the orgasm?

 

Some of the time, the orgasmic response in women will disappear.

 

Not completely, but if as a women you are receiving the same technique, in exactly the same way every time you have sex, the orgasmic response is bound to not happen from time to time.

 

And if there’s pressure for you to have an orgasm before he feels like it’s ok have sex with you, the orgasmic response sometimes moves even further away

 

And then, frustration.

 

This is where the issue is with vibrators, for often the only real guarantee of orgasm comes from using them, for in a sense they can “force” orgasm.

 

This is where the danger point is, the short circuit.

 

Your body then re-patterns to expect only quick, very contractive orgasm, and after a while, this becomes the only orgasm method your body recognizes.

 

Now, don’t for one minute think we advocate a vibrator-less life.

Absolutely not!

Yet if the only sexual pleasure/orgasm you are receiving as a woman is through the use of a vibrator, you are short – circuiting your pleasure response.

 

Why?

 

Firstly, the female body is capable and equipped for having at least 6 different types of physical orgasm, Clitoral, G-Spot, A-Spot, Ejaculatory, Expanded and Blended.

 

So, with 6 different types of physical orgasm to start with, the question is, how short-circuited is the pleasure response when you are only having one orgasm, the limited, contractive type?

 

For as you know, as a women, with a vibrator, there comes a point when your body is done, finished, it’s had enough orgasms.

 

Secondly, the vibrator orgasmic response can be VERY, VERY FAST. There will be times that this is exactly what your body needs and craves, but if this is the only orgasmic response you are having, anything that takes a little more time is lost, the clitoris becomes desensitized and used to very intense vibration, the body  becomes addicted to the chemical rush released with this quick orgasm.

 

All orgasms are not created equal.

 

This does not mean that one is better than the other, just that if you are not having all of the orgasmic and pleasure response available to you as a woman you are short – circuiting your body, physically, hormonally, sensually…

 

You are feeding an appetite in your body as quickly as possible to feel satisfied.

And you are missing out on so much pleasure that your body is capable of.

 

Women have 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris alone. That’s not including the rest of the vagina, not including the A-Spot, the G-Spot, clitoral branch nerves…

 

Tantric practices involve the recycling of energy in the body, without expending it everytime. When this technique is taught to men, when a man learns to have a full orgasm without ejaculating, it changes his life, because it changes his understanding of pleasure orgasmic space versus contractive orgasm.

 

They are not mutually exclusive, yet pleasure can be extended, re – energizing the body, not expending it.

 

It’s the same for women

 

When it becomes about pleasure, extended pleasure, expanded pleasure, sensual energy flooding your body, a whole lot changes within your bodies’ energy patterning. Your body is re- energized, energy can flow…

 

You are tapping into your full potential energetically as a human being equipped with sexual energy.

 

Here’s the catch.

The re – patterning of your bodies’ sexual response takes a little time, a little learning, and a commitment to pleasure.

(Involved in that is a simple technique to use a vibrator that can extend a vibrator orgasm into 5 or 6 times as long….)

 

Here’s the good news about the catch

You can learn these techniques on your own, or with a partner. So, whether you are in a relationship or not, this increase in pleasure is easily learned, with a little commitment and practise, all 6 orgasms can be experienced by a woman…

 

We wish you SO much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

JO’BURG WORKSHOPS

 

THE ART of SEX, Tues 19 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.

 

 

SENSUAL MASSAGE, SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE, Sat 23 Feb, 11 am, couples only.

 

HOLDING SPACE, Tues 26 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.

 



A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

 

Being a Sexual Goddess (Women Only)

This is a talk on how opening up your sexuality and sexual skills as a woman can benefit you, how to use toys more pleasurably, some skills to take home to try out on your partner….

Sat 2 March  R150 per woman

 

Cape Town

 

We’ll be in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March at the Convention Centre. We’re giving talks every day as well as Massage Demonstrations.

We will have DVD’s for sale, come and say hi at our stand.

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

 

Our friend Karen, at NakedCherry has a fantastic opportunity for you to join their small friendly and growing team. They are looking for a highly professional therapist who has a passion for waxing, but is also willing to hire the right personality and train them from scratch .Your personality and attitude towards your work is of the utmost importance to us.   Think you have what she is looking for, please email her your CV & Cover letter to karen@nakedcherry.co.za

 

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