July 15, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education
I’d like to share three stories with you.
Neither of these are isolated, in fact they’re pretty common.
As part of journey exploring their sexuality a couple had an Expanded Orgasm lesson. Full of excitement they went home to practice what they’d learned. They come back in a week or so very confused. He was giving her the gift of pleasure, it was an enormous experience for her, deep waves of pleasure moving through her body. Then came the confusing part. She started crying, sobs that came from nowhere, not connected to anything. To say he was confused is an understatement. How did she go from such pleasure to tears in a moment? What had he done, especially when she couldn’t tell him what she was crying about?
The second story also involves a woman, or women, as this happens a lot.
A woman comes for a Yoni massage, or it’s an experience that’s part of a healing journey. She experiences amazing pleasure, has an incredible orgasm, and lies on the futon crying, sobbing.
The third story is about a man, or men, as, once again, this happens often. In fact, so often with men.
He comes for a massage experience, or has a pleasure experience as part of a healing journey, and lies there, sobbing, gut-wrenching, quivering, shaking sobs.
They all think something’s wrong.
When nothing could be further from the truth.
When you are held with such love.
When you are honoured.
When your body is touched from the heart.
When you are filled with tenderness.
When pleasure overflows.
When your energy is open.
When there is a moment of deep safety.
When there is a moment of connection.
You let go.
And that is a moment of such beauty, such power, such humanness, such vulnerability.
The power of sexual energy, of pleasure, of orgasm is enormous.
And we can use it in so many ways. We can consciously direct sexual energy, transform and transmute it.
And we can allow the energy to take us, to sweep us away in a wave of sheer intense human beingness.
The power of pleasure opens us to being in the moment, to authenticity of expression that sweeps aside the masks we cover our real face with.
Often we see orgasm bring tears.
These are sacred tears, honest tears.
Tears released by pleasure well from deep inside of us. They take us deep into ourselves. And as we allow them to flow they heal us, they cleanse us, they free us.
Sometimes the tears are of pain.
A body filled with pleasure, a body open and vulnerable, a body filled with emotion just let’s go.
The orgasm is intense, so intense it unlocks doors we’ve long kept closed, tightly shut to keep the pain and anguish from the past hidden away.
Sometimes the tears are of love.
A body filled with pleasure, with love, with the shimmering frequency of vitality, filled to overflowing.
The orgasm opens the energy channels, they expand, we expand, and our outpouring is the energy in motion.
Sometimes the tears are of gratitude.
A body filled with pleasure, every aspect of this being touched, caressed, honoured.
The orgasm flows through you, around you, surrounds you and your tears give thanks.
Sometimes the tears are of transcendence.
A body filled with pleasure expands, dissolves it’s connection to the world, for a moment becomes spirit, essence.
The orgasm takes you beyond and your tears are of the knowing a moment of truth.
Sometimes the tears are of release.
A body filled with pleasure, the frequency is light, lighter.
The orgasm allows you to let go of that which holds you, that which you hold.
And your tears are the tears of freedom.
In the healing space you are wrapped in possibility.
The only connection is in the moment, the only attachment is to now, to experience, to allow yourself.
In this space, your tears, wherever they come from, are tears of beauty.
Exciting times we are living in, new work, new workshops, new massages, new DVD…
The Expanded Orgasm workshop on Tues night offers so much, so much information, a different perspective on pleasure, and the most amazing technique.
We have an incredible new massage for couples.
The very successful workshop on Exploring Sexuality and Fantasy is happening next week.
And Annie’s amazing Self-Pleasuring For Women DVD (Awakening The Goddess) is launched this week
This DVD guides women through Tantric and Taoist techniques to sensually and sexually pleasure themselves to become more orgasmic, increase libido and open sexual/creative energies. The DVD shows you step by step with real women demonstrating how to have expanded orgasmic experiences that can last over an hour in a woman’s body.
The DVD is on special to our subscribers for R250 (Normally R300) and can be ordered via email email@example.com
We wish you so much pleasure
With gentleness, light & laughter
Jonti & Annie
Expanded Orgasm Workshop
Tues 16th, 7pm
67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
This workshop opens a doorway to amazing sexual pleasure for men and women, as well as being accessible to experience on your own.
Amongst other things it teaches sexual communication, how a woman can be in an orgasmic state for over an hour, how men can be multi-orgasmic, how to use sexual energy for meditation and more.
This is for singles and couples.
A Special Evening of Exploring Sexuality and Fantasy
with Lara and Jonti
Thurs 25th July
Pharaohs Fantasy Club
Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality and fantasies.
In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with each other and others.
The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…
We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.
After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.
If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.
This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.
The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.
We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.
For more information on these workshops, or to book, please go to www.tantraevolution.com
Or contact Jonti: 083 743 5129
I have a fantasy, she said
Tell me, he said
And I’ll tell you mine
They begin gently
She said, mmm, another woman
He nodded, two women, definitely
He said a blindfold, she nodded
She said a long piece of rope
She said somebody really big, hmmm
He said somebody really supple, she smiled
Tell me the details, she said, so I can understand
They felt the heat rise
Had to stop talking to…
Tell me more, he said
I’ve never before, she said
I love you, he said, tell me
You touching, mmm, another, mmm, well, a man
Her eyes shone with lust
He paused, nervous
I love you she said, want to know all of you
He said, a girl just reached puberty
They paused, looked into each others eyes, hearts
Saw love, excitement, acceptance
Opened the door to…
A public place
Others, one many, every combination
Roles, seduction, a whip
A whispered offering in a stranger’s ear
The unspeakables they’d hidden
And spoke more than ever
Feeling only love, excitement, desire