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A FREE TALK ON SEXUAL ENERGY AND ITS PLACE IN OUR LIVES

Tues 18 June
7 pm
67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Sexual energy is a powerful force that we can use in many ways. This is in fact our life force. We can learn to direct this beautiful energy for healing, for growth, for transformation, for self exploration and for manifestation. Come and join us as we explore what sexual energy is, what the spirit of eros is, how the flow of this energy becomes blocked, and what possibilities there may be for us to release the flow of this vital force into our lives.
http://youtu.be/N6wC7jJG7Q8

THE CARESS OF THE PASSION FLOWER, THE PEAK OF P***Y PLEASURE

Thursday 20 June R690 per couple
Pharaohs Fantasy Club

There are many ways to pleasure a woman. To take her to a place of absolute openness, a place where the sexual fire burns right through her body, filling her with the sensation of ecstasy. In this place, she is able to know her beauty, she is able to know her power.

There is an art to this, and we have created an experience guiding you on the path to the peak of pussy pleasure.

For the first time in South Africa, we’re going to share the secrets of the Passion Flower, the Yoni, the Pussy….

This experience for couples, in the sensual setting of Pharaohs’ Fantasy Club is offered to you.

If you’d like to take your partner beyond what you know pleasure to be, and give her this amazing gift, we would love to share this evening with you.

This is different from the other Sacred Sexual Massage workshops we have done.

Firstly, it is just about women’s pleasure, and how to take her to a heightened and expanded state of sensation. Secondly, it includes 3 Sexual Massage Experiences in an incredible build-up of pleasure, which includes all the new pleasure points and techniques Jonti has been developing and researching. This is the first time these have ever been shared in South Africa.

Watch this link about the workshop (NSFW ADULT CONTENT)
http://youtu.be/G9vdnRDgkhY.

The Warrior Awakening

June 1, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Tags: Anne-Marie Clulow, couples sexual workshops, expanded orgasm, expanded orgasmic wave, Jonti Searll, sexual awakening with spiritual awakening, sexual healing, sexual skills training, Tantra cape Town, tantra centre of south africa, Tantra Evolution, tantric workshops cape town june 2013, Taoist Massage, yoni massage

The Warrior Awakening

I’d like to share a moment from my week with you, a moment of beauty and power, a moment of realization, a moment of becoming. Many of the people who come and see us do so from the understanding that our sexual energy is a source of extreme power that can be used for healing and growth in every aspect of our lives.

This goes beyond purely sexual issues. Many of the people I’m working with at the moment are using this energy to clear the blockages and patterns of the past in order to make different life choices and to create lives of greater meaning, joy and fulfilment. Part of this journey for men and women is awakening the warrior within. Many of us have lost our connection to this energy, to what it means to live as a warrior, and how to manifest the power of this in our lives.

So I sat with a man on a journey. At the beginning of the journey we spoke about the importance of awakening this warrior within. Firstly, and most importantly for himself, and secondly for his relationship. He acknowledged that he had no real idea what this warrior is, who this warrior was. My reply was that it would awaken and unfold as we travelled on this journey of healing and growth. In a session this week he spoke about some of the things he had done differently, how, for the first time in so long, in fact so long that he couldn’t remember when he had done it before, he expressed himself, stating clearly what he wanted. This was in the context of giving himself a gift, and the extension, giving his partner support, in a way he’d never been ale to do before. I looked at him, I felt an amazing silence from the space, a silence that surrounds a moment of revelation, a silence that allows your soul to speak, and in this silence was the understanding that he had expressed an aspect of the warrior within. There were tears in his eyes at the acknowledgment of what he had done, and who he was becoming.

So, who is this warrior?

You step onto the path of healing and growth, the path that leaves the past behind, the path that fills you with the present, the path that leads to life fulfilment, you become a warrior of the heart, a warrior of spirit.

The warrior looks into the mirror.

The warrior looks deep into the mirror.

The warrior sees beyond the mists of illusion, and as hard as it is to look deeply into ourselves, the warriors gaze is firm, as the layers of who we’ve become fall away, more of who we truly are is revealed. In the acknowledgment of who we are, is the door of possibility to becoming the highest we are.

The warrior is in the rhythm of life, for the warrior knows when to stand firm, when to bend with the wind.

The warrior knows when there needs be silence, and when his words need ring out.

The warrior knows, yes the warrior knows, when the day for battle dawns, and when there is a day to yield.

The warrior knows that to go within, deep within, is to go into the heights of beyond, and the warrior knows that to be able to create a life, is balanced by the power to destroy.

The warrior is a state of being, a state of mind, a state of becoming, for this is the rhythm of life, the rhythm with which the warrior dances.

This is what the journey of conscious sexuality offers you

I am humbled and honoured to share this space with you.

As the understanding of Conscious Pleasure Energy expands more than ever, so we are able to share with you for the first time, the workshops in Cape Town this week, particularly the Sensual and Sacred Sexual Massage workshops on Saturday. We will share these understandings and techniques to allow you to experience heightened states of pleasure and directly experience your Conscious Pleasure Energy.

We will also share some of the principles of these in the free talk on Monday night in Cape Town, and Tuesday the 18^th of June in a free talk on “Conscious Sexual Energy and its place in our lives”. in Johannesburg.

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

To Book:

Contact Jonti 083 743 5129

jontisearll@mweb.co.za

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

YouTube link:

http://youtu.be/oNOyabLqBIk

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti and Anne-Marie

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Let Us Be Inappropriate

May 28, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Tags: Anne-Marie Clulow, couples sexual workshops, expanded orgasm, expanded orgasmic wave, Jonti Searll, sexual awakening with spiritual awakening, sexual healing, sexual healing for couples, sexual skills training, Tantra cape Town, tantra centre of south africa, tantric workshops cape town june 2013, Taoist Massage, yoni massage

Let Us Be Inappropriate

Let us give ourselves permission.
Let us allow ourselves.

Let the fire burn in our bodies, in our hearts, in our minds.

Let us throw the masks and armour on the fire so that we may be revealed.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the Gods we are.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the Goddesses we are.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the God in others.

And through the eyes of revelation we will see the shimmering of possibility that dwells in every moment.

And with the fire that burns we will dance in those moments.
And with the fire that burns we will dance with life.
And with the fire that burns we will dance the wild, the wild, the wild.
The passion, the scream, the sweat, the yell, the primal sound of our soul.
And with the dance of this sacred fire we will let slip the bounds of this world.
And the steps of this dance will take us beyond.
Beyond our bodies, beyond our hearts, beyond our minds.
We will dance to the place between where the mystery lives.
The place where truth dwells.
The place that calls us again and again.
The place we seek down many paths.
The place we seek within.
The place we seek lifetime after lifetime.
The place of spirit.

In this place we become free.
We become human.
In the image of, the manifestation of, the expression of, the being of, the living of, the dream of, the love of.

This place, the place between, this is the place of love.
The love that rips you apart, that tears into your heart, that breaks your body.
The love that we speak of in whispers in the silent longing of our heart.
The love that breaks us to be reborn to love to break to be reborn to love.
The love that is teacher and pupil, acolyte and guru.
The love that is flame and shadow.
The love that is poison and healer.
The love of the moment, the love of eternity.

Let us stand in the storm and allow the lightning to strike us, flow through us into the earth, join us to the ground.
Let us stand in the storm, in the rain and the wind and roar as warriors.
Let our voices ring out.
Let us sing our truths and shout our dreams to the wind.
Let us be heard, let us be seen, let us be known.

Let us be all.
Let us be beautiful.
Let us be human.
Let us be alive.
Let us be joyous.
Let us be inappropriate.

We wish you so much pleasure.

There has been a great deal of new work coming through lately and I’m developing new healing protocols with the information.
If you’d like some healing work/body experience as I develop and refine these techniques please contact me, men and women.

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.
We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.
There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.
All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.
The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY
An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.
We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Time: 7pm

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE
Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm
Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti and Anne-Marie

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Beyond Orgasm

April 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

Tags: Anne-Marie Clulow, couples sexual workshops, expanded orgasm, expanded orgasmic wave, Jonti Searll, lingam massage, sexual awakening with spiritual awakening, sexual healing for couples, sexual skills training, tantra centre of south africa, Tantra Evolution, Taoist Massage, yoni massage

Out beyond orgasm is a field of possibility.

This is space where there is no limit to emotion, to sensation, to feeling.

It’s a place of magic.

It’s a place where the essence of being swirls, where we can experience our true selves.

It’s out beyond orgasm.

To get there we have to go beyond orgasm.

For most of us, men much more so than women, this requires a BIG shift.

It’s one of the most important principles of Conscious Sexuality and has the key to so much.

Firstly it’s a path to expanded states of pleasure, then it’s a tool for accessing and using sexual energy for meditation, for healing, for growth, for self-exploration, for transformation, for higher states of consciousness and more.

Very often when we do yoni massage we deliberately don’t have the goal of orgasm in mind.

At first this is often confusing. You’ve come to have a yoni massage, to experience the pleasure, there’s all the expectation of this huge orgasm.

You can have orgasms, plenty. Annie has identified 13 different orgasms for women.

But there’s more.

So we suggest that you be willing to have a different experience.

To go beyond orgasm.

Now when men come to have a lingam or Taoist massage we suggest the same thing.

Allow yourself to experience something different, allow your sexual energy to expand, to take you some where you’ve never been before.

Because there are many different states of pleasure available to men.

And to experience these you need to go beyond orgasm.

Let’s look at why this is so difficult, and sometimes challenging an idea.

The first reason is that we’ve made the definition of successful sex orgasm.

The true definition of successful sex is pleasure.

And the paths of pleasure are many.

Next is the pattern, particularly for men. As a man every time you’ve had a sexual experience, from the time you started touching yourself, you’ve had an orgasm. So you think that’s the way it should be.

Then there’s the wonderful ego idea of ‘I have to make her come’. A wonderfully destructive belief that the media have helped along with gusto.

And then there’s the possibility that most of us just don’t know any different, we have no idea what else is out there, or how to access it.

And so we get stuck in orgasm being all there is.

If we’re willing to allow the idea in that there’s more we can open ourselves to worlds of pleasure, sensation, emotion and possibility so vast they probably are without limitation.

In pleasure terms, if we’re willing to go beyond the orgasm barrier, and it is often a barrier to these higher states, we open firstly our entire body to pleasure.

It simply has to happen.

Instead of feeling the sensations purely in our pelvis, they spread through the whole body, everywhere tingles, vibrates, oscillates, shouts, screams, sings with Oh Yes Yes Yes!

And just wants to stay there. And have more.

Which it can.

In this space we start to experience different kinds of pleasure, so much, subtle, gentle, overwhelming…it’s all there.

And it’s always different.

This gives us an understanding of sexual energy. Which we can only have through experience. We can talk about sexual energy forever. Until we’ve experienced it we have no idea of what it is.

As the energy moves through us we start to experience different things, different feelings, emotions, sensations…

It takes us places, physically, emotionally, sensually, spiritually…

We simply have to be there, to allow it.

If we choose to learn a little about this energy and its ways we can access it, direct it, guide it, allow it to guide us.

It opens worlds within worlds.

But first we have to be willing to go beyond orgasm…

Understanding the energy of going beyond orgasm is something we teach in many workshops. It’s an important aspect of the Sacred Sexual Massage workshop on Thurs night. This is a beautiful evening for couples, filled with intimacy and pleasure and techniques for going beyond.

As we continue to develop and explore healing and growth possibilities we add Mystical 8′s to our toolbox.

This is based on an ancient Tibetan energy pattern.

The experience is deeply relaxing, connected to old life patterns as well as enhancing our life energy and vitality.

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

Durban

At last some things are coming together for a few workshops in Natal later this month. There is a very good chance we will be there from 24th April.

If you live in the area and are interested in the workshops please send us a mail so we can let you know.

This will be confirmed in the next few days.

SEXPO is coming to Durban this year, 7-9 June.

We’ll have stand, do talks, have something new and exciting AND are doing yoni massage demo’s. If you’d like to be a model for this beautiful experience please let us know.

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 4th May

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

Anne-Marie is offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

The massage is usually R850, until Saturday 13 April you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

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Renewed Commitment, Renewed Passion

April 2, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Tags: Anne-Marie Clulow, couples sexual workshops, expanded orgasm, expanded orgasmic wave, Jonti Searll, sexual awakening with spiritual awakening, sexual healing, sexual healing for couples, sexual skills training, tantra centre of south africa, Taoist Massage, yoni massage

Renewed Commitment, Renewed Passion

For the first time since I began this work I was able to take some time to do something purely for myself.

This is thanks to Annie, a Goddess Becoming, thank you, my love, for making this possible.

I had the privilege of participating in a Vision Quest with Valerie Morris and Judy Bekker in Cape Town. Have a look at their website,rbanet.co.za.

This was an experience of deep connection with myself, with nature and others. It was a time of extraordinary beauty, learning, sharing and growing.

Their guidance and facilitation simply enfold you in a world of possibility.

This is a life changing experience, if you can…

I come back from this time with so much.

With greater understanding of this work, of masculine and feminine energies, of relationship patterns and possibilities, of energy flow, of the connection and context of our sexuality to the rest of our lives, so much about healing and growth, what spiritual sexuality is and more.

I come back from this time with a renewed commitment to you and to myself.

I come back from this time with an increase in my energy, a new depth to my touch, a new connection to my intuition and a renewed understanding of knowing that for me, this work is an expression of love.

To you, to offer all that I know to guide you as you heal, to release and change that which no longer serves you, to help you discover and see the patterns in your life, to connect with yourself, re-connect with yourself, reclaim that which you’ve lost, help you discover, uncover, reveal that which is within you that you’d like to bring out into your life, into your world.

To you, who come to the pleasure aspect of this work, I offer a deeper understanding of the importance and place of pleasure. I also offer an expansion in the tools we have for pleasure.

The place of pleasure on this journey of healing and growth, of transformation, of self-discovery, is paramount.

Most of our healing, most of our growth, comes from a place of pain.

Pain is a place to visit, not a place to live.

For so many of us, pain, the pain of our lives, the condition of our lives, our relationships, defines us.

Our lack of fulfillment, our dissatisfaction, our lost dreams, our frustrations, the lack of passion, the narrowness of our lives, the constrictions, inhibitions and limitations we’ve chosen to live with, hold us.

By allowing greater pleasure into our lives we can begin to change these, if we choose.

If we choose.

We have the possibility to change things in our selves, in our lives, and in our world. Big changes, small changes, whatever we choose.

To be a little happier, more peaceful, have a little more pleasure, more fun, be a little more creative, enjoy waking up more…

If we choose…

And the path of pleasure offers itself as a guide on this journey.

A beautiful guide, a guide filled with experiences of enchantment and wonder, a guide to bring body, mind, heart and soul together, a guide to show you your own truth, your own self.

For every one of us who makes this journey, even if it’s coming to just learn a little more about pleasure, we make it possible for others.

For every one of us who is brave enough to step beyond what we know, a small step, a big step, we make it possible for others.

The commitment I make to myself is to do this in the best way I can.

For this is ‘mine to do in the world’.

To keep learning, keep growing, keep expanding.

The purpose of knowledge is to share it. This is the livingness, the manifestation of my journey.

I’m here, Anne-Marie is here, committed to the path of Conscious Sexuality.

There’s a way for all of us who’d like to step onto this path.

What we have, we offer…

As well as some exciting new workshops we’ll be offering soon we’re also planning Conscious Sexual Retreats and Massage Weekends for later in the year.

One of the most important aspects of the workshops, and we keep getting feedback on this, is that it’s an open forum to express, ask questions, in a non-judgmental space. There are very few sexual spaces like this in our lives.

Assistance

We are looking for help with 2 things.

Short-term accomodation for a woman, a cottage or flat, close to or between Ferndale and Parkhurst.

My daughter is looking for a small car, must be automatic, good condition.

Please let us know if you’re aware of possibilities.

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

Venue: 67 6th St, cnr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 27th April

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

We also give you a copy of the DVD of Tantric Sensual Massage valued at R300 to take home with you after this amazing experience.

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cnr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage (2 weeks left)

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

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The Illusion of Control

March 25, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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The Illusion of Control

I woke during the night thinking about how much time and effort we spend on the things we cannot control.

Trying to be good enough, giving enough so that our families, lovers, children, friends will love us.

Trying to be thin enough or sexy enough, or rich enough that they’ll be attracted to us.

Trying to have the things that make us happy, the job, the promotion, the sex life, the house, the car…

We are sold the illusion that we can control our emotions, that we can control our bodies, that we can control everything. Isn’t that disciplined of us? Isn’t that grown up of us?

And especially that we can control our sexuality.

Can we?

Of course we can.

Within the confines of the illusion.

So, we pretend that when we are married that we are never attracted to anybody else. We start our diets on a Monday eating without limits over weekends. We ask for a happily ever after that’s a fairy tale, and we believe that we are in control.

But we are not.

Because life happens.

People die. Or get sick. Or fall in love with inappropriate people according to their families, or are attracted to people of their own gender, or someone lies to you or betrays you, or you stop having orgasms, or your erection fails, and life happens.

And this is not what you were told.

And your life becomes emotional, chaotic, painful.

And you feel as if you’ve lost control.

When actually it was never there to begin with.

You become vulnerable

Now, here’s what very few will tell you, for only those who’ve experienced this know the secret.

This is the time of your greatest power.

When Jonti first explained this concept to me, I didn’t completely agree with him! Until I really understood that this is the time when it’s possible to see that it’s about choice, not control. Because this is the time when you are at your most vulnerable.

What do you have a choice about?

You have a choice about how you choose to respond.

That is ALWAYS your choice.

You may not choose the pain.

You may not choose the overwhelming emotions.

You may not choose the anger.

You may believe these emotions are “bad” because of how lousy you feel.

Yet, you still have the most powerful choice.

You choose how to respond.

In that conscious choice lies freedom and power.

Most of us don’t choose consciously. We just react, instantly. Our patterning kicks in.

Someone hurts us, we hurt them back

Someone offends us, we react angrily.

Someone betrays us, oh, we plan revenge…

This is just our patterning.

Yet we can change that, do that differently. Patterns are controlled, rigid, unyielding, the same.

Choice is fluid, changing, aware of options, of possibility.

Two of our clients recently wrote about this process for them, of making different choices within vulnerability…

“I let waves of emotion wash over me allowing me to connect with my sense of self, my feminine energy. I feel released – like something inside me has changed .It has taken me a long time to allow myself to be vulnerable- it is not an easy thing for me to do, but yesterday I felt very vulnerable and yet it was powerful at the same time.”

“I cried that night because after all these energy centres opening up, I desired so much touch and intimacy and came to the conclusion that I have denied myself love and pleasure through choosing to be in long distance relationships. I felt that, that was a break through for me. This all happened for me on the night after I saw you.

Change is happening in my body, it is deeply spiritual.”

So many of our clients come to us because they’re in pain.

Emotional pain, physical pain, sexual pain, heartache.

You can walk into a new awareness, a new consciousness, when you realize that what you think you control, you do not. You let go.

And this is your freedom.

This becomes the furnace for your Phoenix.

This does not mean you throw it all away because you cannot control it.

This means you make different choices, have more options on how you can respond to what life unfolds for you.

Not just a patterned reaction.

An aware, conscious choice, with benefit to you, centered on filling your life with bliss, joy, love and pleasure, so much that you overflow that into those around you.

Control is the illusion.

Choice on response is the reality.

Pleasure has a higher frequency, a more beneficial body response than pain. Can we learn to have more pleasure? Oh yes!

The choice however, is yours.

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

For one month Anne-Marie will be offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

We are planning on putting our new workshop schedule together this week, and will have dates for some massage workshops soon.

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Making Mistakes

March 18, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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Making Mistakes

Why do we find it so hard to forgive in relationships?

So hard to let go of being right?

So hard to let go of being wronged?

Lessons are learned in so many ways in our lives, and so often when we make a mistake, a decision that doesn’t serve us, a decision based in fear or anxiety, we travel to a place that is not our true selves.

Yet that place can transform us.

If we let it.

In the beginning of my Tantric journey, I had an experience that I really felt uncomfortable with.

And for years that experience lived with me as a “mistake”.

Until recently.

I realized how that experience had taught me so much about what not to do with my clients, how to create safety for them in the healing and release space, how to respect others’ boundaries even when they can’t speak them, and how to go slowly with this work.

How to be gentle.

If I’ve learned anything from Jonti, it’s that gentle works deeper, more profoundly, sometimes more slowly, yet with lasting impact.

And what I’ve learned recently is to communicate verbally in the same way, with gentleness. That calm truth brings incredibly deep lasting effects too.

Although I have never struggled to communicate (talking and sharing has always been an easy space for me) to communicate my really deep fears, wishes, boundaries and desires is often to be so emotionally overwhelmed that I express everything from a place of fear and cease to care about the consequences.

That’s not gentle.

And it doesn’t work.

Most real and truthful communication is difficult, because its not what we’re taught, not what we’ve had much experience of.

Real sexual communication is on an even deeper level.

When we can’t communicate lovingly about our deepest selves, our sexual selves, it’s almost impossible to be truthful in other communication.

During a breath workshop a while ago, the teacher said something that really stuck with me.

He said that the most destructive lies we ever tell are those that are to “protect someone’s feelings”

I thought about that a lot. Because it’s really true. We anticipate hurting someone’s feelings by expressing some aspect of ourselves, so we lie.

We see it as protecting others, when actually it’s destructive for ourselves and others.

We think we know how they are going to react, we base that on the past, whether that’s past relationships, or even past communications with that particular person, and we take responsibility for another’s emotions by changing our truth.

We’ve all done it, those lies when we don’t really want to see someone, or we’re too tired to face family, or…..

Well. We’ve all done it.

And sometimes we would rather lie than tell the truth because we’re afraid of an emotional reaction, an ego sleight.

The truth is no matter what we think, we are not responsible for how someone chooses to feel in any given situation.

I’m not talking about someone being deliberately cruel to hurt another, I’m talking about the times we are afraid to speak our truth “in case” it hurts someone’s feelings, or brings up emotion for them. The times when we lie because we are afraid of the response our truth may invoke.

So, we make mistakes in our relationships, we tell a little lie, we omit to share, we fake orgasm, we have mediocre sex, when we could be telling the truth and going deeper into who we really are, where our relationships can actually go with truth and support.

We make mistakes.

What I have learned is that the truth spoken in love, calmly, always has a more long term beneficial effect.

The mistakes I have made are nearly always based upon being emotionally overwrought and making decisions in that space.

And the lies I’ve told have nearly always been about “protecting” someone’s feelings, or to avoid their perceived anger.

So, I’m going back to square one, to the root, learning who I am sexually, what I really want from my relationships, and how to really communicate about that, allowing for change, for letting go of old patterns of communication.

Taking this awareness into all relationship, asking for what I would like, being specific, and being ready to honestly accept someone else’s response, whatever that may be.

It’s never too late to acknowledge your mistakes as your teachers, letting them guide you into a different way to do things.

So, I will embrace my mistakes, my teachers.

I will forgive the mistakes I have made in my relationships.

I will let them go, and thank them as the bittersweet teachers that they are…

I am missing Jonti so much already. As this newsletter goes out he will be in the very centre of his Vision Quest in Cape Town, spending four days in the wilderness with 20 litres of water, having an experience, a vision, and certainly a Quest!

Keep him in your thoughts, love and energy as he has his adventure…

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

We will have a new workshop schedule soon for April, and don’t forget that we teach all of our workshops as private lessons as well for those who feel a little too shy to attend the workshop with other people.

Workshops available as private lessons:

-Expanded Orgasm (includes an E-Book valued at R350)

-The Art of Sex includes information on the G -Spot and female ejaculation

-What Woman Want

-Taoist Massage for Men & Women

-The G -Spot and female ejaculation

-Tantric Sensual Full Body Massage

-Sacred Sexual Massage for Men & Women

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The Sexpo Tour

March 4, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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The Sexpo Tour

The wonders of technology allow us to write this on the way to Cape Town. we are going to be there for Sexpo, for a week of workshops and a 10 day Vision Quest that Jonti’s going to do.

We undertake this journey with a sense of celebration on many levels, the past week in our life of conscious sexuality has been a beautiful celebration of pleasure, energy and of possibility. We’ve shared space with women of over 60 embarking on journeys of self and sexual discovery. This is so exciting for us as it affirms that this journey is for everyone, that there are no rules to possibility, the beauty and the power in these women fills us with honour as they choose to share with us. We’ve also shared space with somebody in a wheelchair who has such a sense of life and of joy, that the time with him and his partner truly was a celebration and an affirmation of possibility.

The workshop on Thursday night of sexual exploration was honest, powerful and filled with laughter. As we spent time talking, people became more and more open in a space of sharing and safety. In this forum, doors open for people, there is excitement, there is tingling inside, an expansion of what can be in a relationship.

Sexpo opens on Thursday in Cape Town, and it is a celebration of sexuality. There’s a lot there that’s loud and plastic and garish, but the fact that we can share this openly is what’s important. We are doing talks everyday as well as massage demonstrations, we look forward to seeing old friends and meeting new ones.

The workshops we are offering in the week after Sexpo are very much a celebration of pleasure as they open hearts, minds and bodies to the power of conscious sexuality.

If you would like the exciting experience of having a massage at Sexpo, we may have a few available spaces.

Friends from Pharaohs Fantasy Club have a stand at Sexpo, and are looking people to help during the exhibition, please contact us if you are interested.

We wish you so much pleasure and celebration on this journey of conscious sexuality.

Jonti & Anne-Marie

We’d like to share some feedback from last Thursday’s Workshop:

“The surroundings and the non-judgmental environment were awesome; we felt completely safe and comfortable in the knowledge that there was no pressure, no expectations and no specific goal forced on anyone. The first step in our journey as a couple and as individuals has been taken – thanks to all of you for this! We are looking forward to the next step and wherever that may lead us – we’ll be keeping an eye out for the next workshop!”

“I think the evening worked really well and met most of our objectives which were to:

Understand the practicalities and emotional considerations of expanding our sexual relationship by involving others in some way, be exposed to the thoughts and challenges of other couples going through the same sort of thinking as we are, and be introduced in a soft, welcoming, unthreatening way to the world of possibilities offered by Pharaohs and similar environments

The importance of rule setting and ongoing frank and open communication was nicely stressed and demonstrated.

Lara played a wonderful role in exploring why couples were there and what they hoped to get out of it. Her bubbly engaging nature made it so easy for even the shyest to speak up.

The completely unpushy activity after we finished talking allowed everyone to interact as much or as little as possible. Those who wanted to could leave easily, there was plenty of room for couples to be on their own, and there were good opportunities to meet others.

We learnt and experienced a lot. It was an exciting and stretching evening”

Events & Workshops

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

Cape Town

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

For more specific information on workshops please visit:

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13 Orgasms

February 24, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

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Tags: Anne-Marie Clulow, couples sexual workshops, expanded orgasm, Jonti Searll, lingam massage, sexual awakening with spiritual awakening, sexual healing, sexual healing for couples, sexual skills training, Tantra cape Town, Tantra Evolution, Taoist Massage, yoni massage

Anne-Marie writes:

In a talk recently on conscious sexuality, I shared with the group that I personally have identified 12 separate, identifiable orgasmic experiences in my body.

My orgasmic background until the age of 38 was incredibly limited. As I have shared my story with many woman that walk through our doors at Tantra Evolution, I have noticed the parallels that have emerged, patterns that run throughout our lives, not just sexually, in every arena from relationships to parenting to career choices.

My partner Jonti, once said in a workshop that the way we are sexually is the way we are in our entire lives.

At the time I disagreed vehemently.

Until I really, really thought about it.

And the pieces fitted. I had faked orgasm with everyone until I was 38 years old, keeping other people’s egos and pride happy, suppressing my own real pleasure response. I had only experienced clitoral orgasm through toys, shower heads and extremes of temperature.

I had no idea how powerful my sexual response could be, how much pleasure I was truly capable of.

Then I looked at my life.

I had done exactly the same thing. In my career I had made many decisions that involved avoiding anger, having the response that served another’s expectation, not my desire.

And I could have been with the most skilled lover in the world and still done exactly the same things, because it was all I knew.

In childhood, many of us learn how to survive. Those patterns are the ones that are so deep that we often cannot even recognize them until they come into awareness.

I learned that people liked you more if you gave them what they wanted.

I learned that men liked you a lot if you fulfilled their fantasies.

I learned there was less pressure at work if you hid the fact that you were really talented, never out shining anyone around you.

And I learned to say yes and suppress.

The way I was sexually, was my core patterning.

I had to repattern my responses to begin not just manifesting more orgasms, more pleasure, but to free myself from the belief system I had used to survive.

Sexual energy was my key to awareness.

This is the energy we use in our healing work, combined with what we term as “The Heart Touch”.

So much of what we do is about healing.

Yet the really exciting work is what happens after that, when people realize its about their entire lives, the patterns that are limiting them, the choices they make that are not about serving their passion, their highest excitement, with awareness and love.

That’s what happened for me. I had my first real orgasm with myself, for myself, by myself.

A creative flood ensued, and a move into the field of what Jonti and I have termed “Conscious Sexuality”

Have I changed sexually? Yes. As I was listing the 12 orgasms I had a huge realization.

There were now 13. My pleasure possibilities with my sexual energy repatterning had gone beyond!

I’m talking about energy not just having sex.

Energy that can be tapped into, meditated into, breathed into, made love into, written into..

So many expressions of creativity and sexual energy.

I have learned to say “No” authentically. To say “No” for me. To say “No” to things that at that moment are not ok for me. I say this with a beating heart, often huge fear, and amazing relief that the world doesn’t actually implode!

The beautiful repatterning is that

when I say “Yes” now, I mean it, body, mind and soul.

My life is orgasmic. My life has gone beyond 12 orgasms

And it all started with 1 orgasm….

We wish you so much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

Workshops & Events

Johannesburg

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Being a Sexual Goddess (Women Only)

This is a talk on how opening up your sexuality and sexual skills as a woman can benefit you, how to use toys more pleasurably, some skills to take home to try out on your partner….

Sat 2 March R150 per woman

Cape Town

We’ll be in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March at the Convention Centre. We’re giving talks every day as well as Massage Demonstrations.

We will have DVD’s for sale, come and say hi at our stand.

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

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Fixing A Relationship

February 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education