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The Warrior Awakening

June 1, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Warrior Awakening

 

I’d like to share a moment from my week with you, a moment of beauty and power, a moment of realization, a moment of becoming. Many of the people who come and see us do so from the understanding that our sexual energy is a source of extreme power that can be used for healing and growth in every aspect of our lives.

This goes beyond purely sexual issues. Many of the people I’m working with at the moment are using this energy to clear the blockages and patterns of the past in order to make different life choices and to create lives of greater meaning, joy and fulfilment. Part of this journey for men and women is awakening the warrior within. Many of us have lost our connection to this energy, to what it means to live as a warrior, and how to manifest the power of this in our lives.

So I sat with a man on a journey. At the beginning of the journey we spoke about the importance of awakening this warrior within. Firstly, and most importantly for himself, and secondly for his relationship. He acknowledged that he had no real idea what this warrior is, who this warrior was. My reply was that it would awaken and unfold as we travelled on this journey of healing and growth. In a session this week he spoke about some of the things he had done differently, how, for the first time in so long, in fact so long that he couldn’t remember when he had done it before, he expressed himself, stating clearly what he wanted. This was in the context of giving himself a gift, and the extension, giving his partner support, in a way he’d never been ale to do before. I looked at him, I felt an amazing silence from the space, a silence that surrounds a moment of revelation, a silence that allows your soul to speak, and in this silence was the understanding that he had expressed an aspect of the warrior within. There were tears in his eyes at the acknowledgment of what he had done, and who he was becoming.

So, who is this warrior?

You step onto the path of healing and growth, the path that leaves the past behind, the path that fills you with the present, the path that leads to life fulfilment, you become a warrior of the heart, a warrior of spirit.

The warrior looks into the mirror.

The warrior looks deep into the mirror.

The warrior sees beyond the mists of illusion, and as hard as it is to look deeply into ourselves, the warriors gaze is firm, as the layers of who we’ve become fall away, more of who we truly are is revealed. In the acknowledgment of who we are, is the door of possibility to becoming the highest we are.

The warrior is in the rhythm of life, for the warrior knows when to stand firm, when to bend with the wind.

The warrior knows when there needs be silence, and when his words need ring out.

The warrior knows, yes the warrior knows, when the day for battle dawns, and when there is a day to yield.

The warrior knows that to go within, deep within, is to go into the heights of beyond, and the warrior knows that to be able to create a life, is balanced by the power to destroy.

The warrior is a state of being, a state of mind, a state of becoming, for this is the rhythm of life, the rhythm with which the warrior dances.

 

This is what the journey of conscious sexuality offers you

I am humbled and honoured to share this space with you.

 

As the understanding of Conscious Pleasure Energy expands more than ever, so we are able to share with you for the first time, the workshops in Cape Town this week, particularly the Sensual and Sacred Sexual Massage workshops on Saturday. We will share these understandings and techniques to allow you to experience heightened states of pleasure and directly experience your Conscious Pleasure Energy.

We will also share some of the principles of these in the free talk on Monday night in Cape Town, and Tuesday the 18th of June in a free talk on “Conscious Sexual Energy and its place in our lives”. in Johannesburg.

 

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

To Book:

Contact Jonti 083 743 5129

jontisearll@mweb.co.za

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

 

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

YouTube link:

http://youtu.be/oNOyabLqBIk

 

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

 

 

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

 

Jonti and Anne-Marie

 

www.tantraevolution.com

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

www.conscioustouch.tumblr.com

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Let Us Be Inappropriate

May 28, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Let Us Be Inappropriate

Let us give ourselves permission.
Let us allow ourselves.

Let the fire burn in our bodies, in our hearts, in our minds.

Let us throw the masks and armour on the fire so that we may be revealed.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the Gods we are.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the Goddesses we are.
And through the eyes of revelation we will see the God in others.

And through the eyes of revelation we will see the shimmering of possibility that dwells in every moment.

And with the fire that burns we will dance in those moments.
And with the fire that burns we will dance with life.
And with the fire that burns we will dance the wild, the wild, the wild.
The passion, the scream, the sweat, the yell, the primal sound of our soul.
And with the dance of this sacred fire we will let slip the bounds of this world.
And the steps of this dance will take us beyond.
Beyond our bodies, beyond our hearts, beyond our minds.
We will dance to the place between where the mystery lives.
The place where truth dwells.
The place that calls us again and again.
The place we seek down many paths.
The place we seek within.
The place we seek lifetime after lifetime.
The place of spirit.

In this place we become free.
We become human.
In the image of, the manifestation of, the expression of, the being of, the living of, the dream of, the love of.

This place, the place between, this is the place of love.
The love that rips you apart, that tears into your heart, that breaks your body.
The love that we speak of in whispers in the silent longing of our heart.
The love that breaks us to be reborn to love to break to be reborn to love.
The love that is teacher and pupil, acolyte and guru.
The love that is flame and shadow.
The love that is poison and healer.
The love of the moment, the love of eternity.

Let us stand in the storm and allow the lightning to strike us, flow through us into the earth, join us to the ground.
Let us stand in the storm, in the rain and the wind and roar as warriors.
Let our voices ring out.
Let us sing our truths and shout our dreams to the wind.
Let us be heard, let us be seen, let us be known.

Let us be all.
Let us be beautiful.
Let us be human.
Let us be alive.
Let us be joyous.
Let us be inappropriate.

We wish you so much pleasure.

There has been a great deal of new work coming through lately and I’m developing new healing protocols with the information.
If you’d like some healing work/body experience as I develop and refine these techniques please contact me, men and women.

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.
We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.
There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.
All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.
The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY
An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.
We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Time: 7pm

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE
Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm
Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti and Anne-Marie

www.tantraevolution.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
www.conscioustouch.tumblr.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
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The Pleasure We Fear

May 20, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Last year at Sexpo we did a mild 50 Shades bondage demo. The women who offered to be models for this came from a wide range of backgrounds, relationships and sexual experiences.
As part of the preparation for the experience I asked all of them what scared them most about it.
They all said the same thing.
They were scared they were going to enjoy it.
As part of the healing journey with men it’s important that I share some bodywork experiences with them.
This creates a deep discomfort for them, particularly when it comes to some of the pleasure-based experiences.
There is a fear they’re going to enjoy it.
Many people are terrified of many of the pleasure experiences.
We’re scared we’re going to enjoy them.
We’re scared of our passion.
We’re scared of our vitality.
We’re scared of our pleasure.
We’re scared of the fire that rages within us.
We’re scared of going beyond what we believe.
We’re scared of revealing ourselves.
We’re scared of seeing deep into ourselves, and into others.
We’re scared of pleasure.
We’re scared of where it may take us.
We’re scared of its power.
Because we know its linked to our soul.
For generations, hundreds of years, we’ve lived with repression.
We’ve been taught that that’s the way to live.
That our power is in pushing our desires down, suppressing, repressing, hiding, darkening, judging…
And the more we do this, the more we separate from our soul.
For our soul, the soul that links us to God, The Goddess, Source, Spirit…
This soul is a soul of celebration, of joy, of creation, of happiness, of laughter, of shimmering beauty and the expression of every aspect, the manifestation in our lives of this energy.
Our world is a testimony to the mediocrity and the repression that that represents.
We see it in our lives, our relationships, our wars, our poverty, our leaders, our entertainment, lack of creativity, our art…
But this soul, this soul, this scared energy that dwells somewhere within us, around us, this soul longs for expression.
And when we allow this soul out it can turn our lives, our world upside down.
Because it brings up the question ‘Where is our love, where is our joy?’
We come face to face with this in a very real way. Not as an ethereal, quasi-spiritual shoowah question.
But in this reality we wake up in every day, this reality we are creating, co-creating.
There are many possible expressions of this joy and celebration in our lives, many ways for the soul to shine through, to show itself in our lives, to bring its vibration into the world.
We’ve chosen the path of sensuality, of sexual energy, of Conscious Pleasure.
We have to go beyond our fears for this.
We have to go beyond our judgements for this.
We have to go beyond our limitations for this.
We have to go to a place where our soul is.
And our bodies, designed in the image of, a representation of, are a doorway to the soul.
Sensuousness, Sensual Energy is a language of the soul.
I invite you to stop fearing your soul.
I invite you to stop fearing who you are.
I invite you to stop fearing pleasure.
It’s important to know this.
There’s a purpose to this pleasure.
There’s a purpose to this soul stuff.
Every time we allow an experience beyond our limitations.
Every time we push a boundary that allows us to see more, be more, feel more than the narrow vision we generally hold, every time we do this, we put something out into the world.
We put a possibility out.
We put an invitation out.
We put an actual energy out.
We change a frequency.
This makes it possible for somebody else to experience this.
Maybe not what exactly the experience we had.
But something that is pleasurable.
And pleasure has greater transformational power than anything other force.
And even if you have no belief or interest in the transformational power and possibility, just for a moment have a belief in your own soul.
And its desire to talk to you, to live in you, to live through you.
And allow yourself to live with less fear, more pleasure, more happiness, more joy, more love, more celebration…
One of the most gratifying things for me, and something I appreciate enormously, is hearing how many people enjoy these newsletters.
Thank you, you touch me.
The Vision Quest I did earlier this year initiated a time of personal healing for me, as well as a deeper understanding and learning. This has allowed the healing work, and workshops to go to new places of power. It is so beautiful to share this with you and see how we can change the things we’d like.
Sharing with is always special for me. Sexuality is the part of life that is generally scariest and most closed for men. I was invited to give a talk to a group of men this week, which began in the way most of the men’s gathering do. Almost everybody sitting with arms folded, legs crossed, stern-faced and silent.
Almost everybody thawed and we had a really good time.
More and more men, alone or with their partners, are coming to learn, heal and grow. These are the real men, the strong ones.
I am honoured to share with you.
So many people contact us about exploring aspects of their sexuality, fantasies, expanding what they do, having more excitement in their relationships and lives.
Having a framework for this, a way to open the communication and discussion, as well as some how-to knowledge can change these experiences from being scary and negative to expansion and a deepening of your relationship.
The workshop on Thurs night gives you these tools and more. It’s become one of the most important evenings we offer on the sexual journey.
A SPECIAL EVENING OF EXPLORING SEXUALITY WITH LARA AND JONTI, Thurs 23rd May
Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.
In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.
The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…
We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.
After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.
If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.
This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.
The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.
We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.
Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club
Time: 7:30 pm
Cost: R790/couple
HEALING SEXUALITY, Tues 28th May
What is sexual healing, where do our sexual problems come from, how do sexual energy blockages manifest, how can we change them, how can we use sexual energy for other purposes, how do we go from sexual healing to sexual growth…
The 2nd part of the evening is exploring and experiencing some aspects of sexual energy, giving you possibilities to continue this journey.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Venue: 67 6th St, Parkhurst
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
CONSCIOUS SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE SPECIAL
This is a peak experience on the sexual journey, on our life journey..
Slow, gentle strokes relax your body, you feel a warmth as we begin to build the sexual fire, flames of pleasure that move through your whole body to a peak of sensation…
For the month of May this massage is being offered at R600, usually R900.
The cheese has moved, the goalposts have shifted.
SEXPO in Durban has been postponed until next year so…
We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.
We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.
There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.
All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.
The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.
Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY
An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.
We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Time: 7pm
Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE
Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm
Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.
We wish you so much pleasure
Jonti and Anne-Marie
For more detailed information on workshops and FAQ’s please visit

Making Mistakes

March 18, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Making Mistakes

 

Why do we find it so hard to forgive in relationships? 

So hard to let go of being right?

So hard to let go of  being wronged?

 

Lessons are learned in so many ways in our lives, and so often when we make a mistake, a decision that doesn’t serve us, a decision based in fear or anxiety, we travel to a place that is not our true selves.

 

Yet that place can transform us.

 

If we let it.

 

In the beginning of my Tantric journey, I had an experience that I really felt uncomfortable with. 

And for years that experience lived with me as a “mistake”.

 

Until recently.

 

I realized how that experience had taught me so much about what not to do with my clients, how to create safety for them in the healing and release space, how to respect others’ boundaries even when they can’t speak them, and how to go slowly with this work.

 

How to be gentle.

 

If I’ve learned anything from Jonti, it’s that gentle works deeper, more profoundly, sometimes more slowly, yet with lasting impact.

 

And what I’ve learned recently is to communicate verbally in the same way, with gentleness. That calm truth brings incredibly deep lasting effects too.

 

Although I have never struggled to communicate (talking and sharing has always been an easy space for me)  to communicate my really deep fears, wishes, boundaries and desires is often to be so emotionally overwhelmed that I express everything from a place of fear and cease to care about the consequences. 

 

That’s not gentle.

And it doesn’t work.

 

Most real and truthful communication is difficult, because its not what we’re taught, not what we’ve had much experience of.

 

Real sexual communication is on an even deeper level.

When we can’t communicate lovingly about our deepest selves, our sexual selves, it’s almost impossible to be truthful in other communication.

 

During a breath workshop a while ago, the teacher said something that really stuck with me.

He said that the most destructive lies we ever tell are those that are to “protect someone’s feelings” 

I thought about that a lot. Because it’s really true. We anticipate hurting someone’s feelings by expressing some aspect of ourselves, so we lie. 

We see it as protecting others, when actually it’s destructive for ourselves and others.

 

We think we know how they are going to react, we base that on the past, whether that’s past relationships, or even past communications with that particular person, and we take responsibility for another’s emotions by changing our truth.

 

We’ve all done it, those lies when we don’t really want to see someone, or we’re too tired to face family, or…..

Well. We’ve all done it.

 

And sometimes we would rather lie than tell the truth because we’re afraid of an emotional reaction, an ego sleight.

 

The truth is no matter what we think, we are not responsible for how someone chooses to feel in any given situation.

 

I’m not talking about someone being deliberately cruel to hurt another, I’m talking about the times we are afraid to speak our truth “in case” it hurts someone’s feelings, or brings up emotion for them. The times when we lie because we are afraid of the response our truth may invoke.

 

So, we make mistakes in our relationships, we tell a little lie, we omit to share, we fake orgasm, we have mediocre sex, when we could be telling the truth and going deeper into who we really are, where our relationships can actually go with truth and support. 

 

We make mistakes.

 

What I have learned is that the truth spoken in love, calmly, always has a more long term beneficial effect.

 

The mistakes I have made are nearly always based upon being emotionally overwrought and making decisions in that space.

 

And the lies I’ve told have nearly always been about “protecting” someone’s feelings, or to avoid their perceived anger.

 

So, I’m going back to square one, to the root, learning who I am sexually, what I really want from my relationships, and how to really communicate about that, allowing for change, for letting go of old patterns of communication.

 

Taking this awareness into all relationship, asking for what I would like, being specific, and being ready to honestly accept someone else’s response, whatever that may be.

 

It’s never too late to acknowledge your mistakes as your teachers, letting them guide you into a different way to do things.

 

So, I will embrace my mistakes, my teachers.

 

I will forgive the mistakes I have made in my relationships.

 

I will let them go, and thank them as the bittersweet teachers that they are…

 

I am missing Jonti so much already. As this newsletter goes out he will be in the very centre of his Vision Quest in Cape Town, spending four days in the wilderness with 20 litres of water, having an experience, a vision, and certainly a Quest! 

Keep him in your thoughts, love and energy as he has his adventure…

 

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

For one month Anne-Marie will be offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

We will have a new workshop schedule soon for April, and don’t forget that we teach all of our workshops as private lessons as well for those who feel a little too shy to attend the workshop with other people.

Workshops available as private lessons:

-Expanded Orgasm (includes an E-Book valued at R350)

-The Art of Sex includes information on the G -Spot and female ejaculation 

 

-What Woman Want

-Taoist Massage for Men & Women

-The G -Spot and female ejaculation 

-Tantric Sensual Full Body Massage

-Sacred Sexual Massage for Men & Women

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

The Sexpo Tour

March 4, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Sexpo Tour

The wonders of technology allow us to write this on the way to Cape Town. we are going to be there for Sexpo, for a week of workshops and a 10 day Vision Quest that Jonti’s going to do.

 

We undertake this journey with a sense of celebration on many levels, the past week in our life of conscious sexuality has been a beautiful celebration of pleasure, energy and of possibility. We’ve shared space with women of over 60 embarking on journeys of self and sexual discovery. This is so exciting for us as it affirms that this journey is for everyone, that there are no rules to possibility, the beauty and the power in these women fills us with honour as they choose to share with us. We’ve also shared space with somebody in a wheelchair who has such a sense of life and of joy, that the time with him and his partner truly was a celebration and an affirmation of possibility.

 

The workshop on Thursday night of sexual exploration was honest, powerful and filled with laughter. As we spent time talking, people became more and more open in a space of sharing and safety. In this forum, doors open for people, there is excitement, there is tingling inside, an expansion of what can be in a relationship.

 

Sexpo opens on Thursday in Cape Town, and it is a celebration of sexuality. There’s a lot there that’s loud and plastic and garish, but the fact that we can share this openly is what’s important. We are doing talks everyday as well as massage demonstrations, we look forward to seeing old friends and meeting new ones.

 

The workshops we are offering in the week after Sexpo are very much a celebration of pleasure as they open hearts, minds and bodies to the power of conscious sexuality.

 

If you would like the exciting experience of having a massage at Sexpo, we may have a few available spaces.

 

Friends from Pharaohs Fantasy Club have a stand at Sexpo, and are looking people to help during the exhibition, please contact us if you are interested.

 

We wish you so much pleasure and celebration on this journey of conscious sexuality.

 

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

We’d like to share some feedback from last Thursday’s Workshop:

 

“The surroundings and the non-judgmental environment were awesome; we felt completely safe and comfortable in the knowledge that there was no pressure, no expectations and no specific goal forced on anyone. The first step in our journey as a couple and as individuals has been taken – thanks to all of you for this! We are looking forward to the next step and wherever that may lead us – we’ll be keeping an eye out for the next workshop!”

 

“I think the evening worked really well and met most of our objectives which were to:

Understand the practicalities and emotional considerations of expanding our sexual relationship by involving others in some way, be exposed to the thoughts and challenges of other couples going through the same sort of thinking as we are, and be introduced in a soft, welcoming, unthreatening way to the world of possibilities offered by Pharaohs and similar environments

The importance of rule setting and ongoing frank and open communication was nicely stressed and demonstrated.

Lara played a wonderful role in exploring why couples were there and what they hoped to get out of it. Her bubbly engaging nature made it so easy for even the shyest to speak up.

The completely unpushy activity after we finished talking allowed everyone to interact as much or as little as possible. Those who wanted to could leave easily, there was plenty of room for couples to be on their own, and there were good opportunities to meet others.

We learnt and experienced a lot. It was an exciting and stretching evening”

 

Events & Workshops

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

Cape Town

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

For more specific information on workshops please visit:

www.tantraevolution.com

 

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

13 Orgasms

February 24, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Anne-Marie writes:

In a talk recently on conscious sexuality, I shared with the group that I personally have identified 12 separate, identifiable orgasmic experiences in my body.

My orgasmic background until the age of 38 was incredibly limited. As I have shared my story with many woman that walk through our doors at Tantra Evolution, I have noticed the parallels that have emerged, patterns that run throughout our lives, not just sexually, in every arena from relationships to parenting to career choices.

My partner Jonti, once said in a workshop that the way we are sexually is the way we are in our entire lives.

At the time I disagreed vehemently.

Until I really, really thought about it.

And the pieces fitted. I had faked orgasm with everyone until I was 38 years old, keeping other people’s egos and pride happy, suppressing my own real pleasure response. I had only experienced clitoral orgasm through toys, shower heads and extremes of temperature.

I had no idea how powerful my sexual response could be, how much pleasure I was truly capable of.

Then I looked at my life.

I had done exactly the same thing. In my career I had made many decisions that involved avoiding anger, having the response that served another’s expectation, not my desire.

 

And I could have been with the most skilled lover in the world and still done exactly the same things, because it was all I knew.

 

In childhood, many of us learn how to survive. Those patterns are the ones that are so deep that we often cannot even recognize them until they come into awareness.

 

I learned that people liked you more if you gave them what they wanted.

I learned that men liked you a lot if you fulfilled their fantasies.

I learned there was less pressure at work if you hid the fact that you were really talented, never out shining anyone around you.

 

And I learned to say yes and suppress.

 

The way I was sexually, was my core patterning.

 

I had to repattern my responses to begin not just manifesting more orgasms, more pleasure, but to free myself from the belief system I had used to survive.

 

Sexual energy was my key to awareness.

 

This is the energy we use in our healing work, combined with what we term as “The Heart Touch”.

 

So much of what we do is about healing. 

 

Yet the really exciting work is what happens after that, when people realize its about their entire lives, the patterns that are limiting them, the choices they make that are not about serving their passion, their highest excitement, with awareness and love.

 

That’s what happened for me. I had my first real orgasm with myself, for myself, by myself.

 

A creative flood ensued, and a move into the field of what Jonti and I have termed “Conscious Sexuality”

 

Have I changed sexually? Yes. As I was listing the 12 orgasms I had a huge realization.

There were now 13. My pleasure possibilities with my sexual energy repatterning had gone beyond! 

 

I’m talking about energy not just having sex.

 

Energy that can be tapped into, meditated into, breathed into, made love into, written into..

So many expressions of creativity and sexual energy.

 

I have learned to say “No” authentically. To say “No” for me. To say “No” to things that at that moment are not ok for me. I say this with a beating heart, often huge fear, and amazing relief that the world doesn’t actually implode!

 

The beautiful repatterning is that

when I say “Yes” now, I mean it, body, mind and soul.

 

My life is orgasmic. My life has gone beyond 12 orgasms

 

And it all started with 1 orgasm….

 

 

We wish you so much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Workshops & Events

Johannesburg

 

Booking is essential for all workshops, contact Jonti :083 743 5129 or jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

 

Being a Sexual Goddess (Women Only)

This is a talk on how opening up your sexuality and sexual skills as a woman can benefit you, how to use toys more pleasurably, some skills to take home to try out on your partner….

Sat 2 March  R150 per woman

 

Cape Town

 

We’ll be in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March at the Convention Centre. We’re giving talks every day as well as Massage Demonstrations.

We will have DVD’s for sale, come and say hi at our stand.

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

 

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Why vibrators can short circuit your pleasure process

February 18, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Why vibrators short circuit your power as a woman.

 

As Tantric therapists and practitioners, the two main sexual issues Annie hears from women are “Without a vibrator, there’s no real guarantee of pleasure for me” and “He doesn’t know how to touch me”

 

We have come to understand, as a generalization these are two important reasons that women become less interested in having sex.

 

As with most things in life, if there’s nothing really in it for you, eventually the desire will fade, sex becomes a chore, something for his pleasure.

 

When this happens, women fall into the sexual patterning of only making love/having sex when they are:

A: Really loving, craving intimacy

B: Really aroused.

Also, seeing as how a women can have a “knee jerk/starburst” orgasm from a good vibrator pretty much anytime they like (providing the kids are occupied, they can find a private space, and have a little time) for a lot of women, there’s even less reason to actually have sex unless A or B or both are in place!!

 

This is the reality of sex for most women in long term relationships

 

The other reality is, although most women are loathe to admit this to their partners, at some point or another most women will fake orgasm in order not to hurt their partners feelings.

 

The reasons for this?

Firstly, at some points in their hormonal cycle women just can’t “get there”, they can get close, they can be in an expanded state of pleasure, but for some reasons, within their bodies, chemically, energetically, they can’t reach clitoral orgasm.

 

What most men do not know is that most woman are actually quite fine with this.

 

If women feel pleasured and intimate and loving, orgasm is not all that important, it’s an added highlight, not a goal.

 

This is such an important statement, as it goes against everything men are “taught” about being good lovers, by society.

Men are under the illusion that if their partners don’t have an orgasm, they haven’t done it right! This is SO deeply ingrained into our sexual culture, reinforced with pornography (where women have “orgasms” in all of 30 seconds) by mainstream media, with the headlines “Give her the best Orgasm!” “How to get your partner to have Multiple Orgasms!” “How to give her a G-Spot Orgasm”

 

And beyond that, the general societal consensus that a good lover always pleasures his woman to an orgasm first, before having an orgasm himself.

 

This puts huge pressure on women to have an orgasm, instead of relaxing and enjoying the pleasure space of making love/having sex.

 

So, with all this pressure for men to know enough to give you an orgasm, and women to be having these huge orgasmic experiences, what happens to the orgasm?

 

Some of the time, the orgasmic response in women will disappear.

 

Not completely, but if as a women you are receiving the same technique, in exactly the same way every time you have sex, the orgasmic response is bound to not happen from time to time.

 

And if there’s pressure for you to have an orgasm before he feels like it’s ok have sex with you, the orgasmic response sometimes moves even further away

 

And then, frustration.

 

This is where the issue is with vibrators, for often the only real guarantee of orgasm comes from using them, for in a sense they can “force” orgasm.

 

This is where the danger point is, the short circuit.

 

Your body then re-patterns to expect only quick, very contractive orgasm, and after a while, this becomes the only orgasm method your body recognizes.

 

Now, don’t for one minute think we advocate a vibrator-less life.

Absolutely not!

Yet if the only sexual pleasure/orgasm you are receiving as a woman is through the use of a vibrator, you are short – circuiting your pleasure response.

 

Why?

 

Firstly, the female body is capable and equipped for having at least 6 different types of physical orgasm, Clitoral, G-Spot, A-Spot, Ejaculatory, Expanded and Blended.

 

So, with 6 different types of physical orgasm to start with, the question is, how short-circuited is the pleasure response when you are only having one orgasm, the limited, contractive type?

 

For as you know, as a women, with a vibrator, there comes a point when your body is done, finished, it’s had enough orgasms.

 

Secondly, the vibrator orgasmic response can be VERY, VERY FAST. There will be times that this is exactly what your body needs and craves, but if this is the only orgasmic response you are having, anything that takes a little more time is lost, the clitoris becomes desensitized and used to very intense vibration, the body  becomes addicted to the chemical rush released with this quick orgasm.

 

All orgasms are not created equal.

 

This does not mean that one is better than the other, just that if you are not having all of the orgasmic and pleasure response available to you as a woman you are short – circuiting your body, physically, hormonally, sensually…

 

You are feeding an appetite in your body as quickly as possible to feel satisfied.

And you are missing out on so much pleasure that your body is capable of.

 

Women have 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris alone. That’s not including the rest of the vagina, not including the A-Spot, the G-Spot, clitoral branch nerves…

 

Tantric practices involve the recycling of energy in the body, without expending it everytime. When this technique is taught to men, when a man learns to have a full orgasm without ejaculating, it changes his life, because it changes his understanding of pleasure orgasmic space versus contractive orgasm.

 

They are not mutually exclusive, yet pleasure can be extended, re – energizing the body, not expending it.

 

It’s the same for women

 

When it becomes about pleasure, extended pleasure, expanded pleasure, sensual energy flooding your body, a whole lot changes within your bodies’ energy patterning. Your body is re- energized, energy can flow…

 

You are tapping into your full potential energetically as a human being equipped with sexual energy.

 

Here’s the catch.

The re – patterning of your bodies’ sexual response takes a little time, a little learning, and a commitment to pleasure.

(Involved in that is a simple technique to use a vibrator that can extend a vibrator orgasm into 5 or 6 times as long….)

 

Here’s the good news about the catch

You can learn these techniques on your own, or with a partner. So, whether you are in a relationship or not, this increase in pleasure is easily learned, with a little commitment and practise, all 6 orgasms can be experienced by a woman…

 

We wish you SO much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

JO’BURG WORKSHOPS

 

THE ART of SEX, Tues 19 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.

 

 

SENSUAL MASSAGE, SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE, Sat 23 Feb, 11 am, couples only.

 

HOLDING SPACE, Tues 26 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.

 



A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

 

Being a Sexual Goddess (Women Only)

This is a talk on how opening up your sexuality and sexual skills as a woman can benefit you, how to use toys more pleasurably, some skills to take home to try out on your partner….

Sat 2 March  R150 per woman

 

Cape Town

 

We’ll be in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March at the Convention Centre. We’re giving talks every day as well as Massage Demonstrations.

We will have DVD’s for sale, come and say hi at our stand.

 

The week after SEXPO we’ll be offering a series of workshops and experiences in Cape Town

Places are limited, there are discounts for booking for more than 1 workshop.

The workshops will be in Wynberg.

 

Mon 11th March: An Introduction to Conscious Sexuality, 7pm, R350/person.

Tues 12th: Expanded Orgasm, 7pm, R350/person.

Wed 13th: The Art of Sex, Everything You Wanted to Ask But Never Did, 7pm, R350/person.

Thurs 14th: Holding Space, 7pm, R350/person.

Sat 16th: Sensual Massage, 12pm, R2000/couple.

Sacred Sexual Massage, 6pm, R800/couple.

 

Our friend Karen, at NakedCherry has a fantastic opportunity for you to join their small friendly and growing team. They are looking for a highly professional therapist who has a passion for waxing, but is also willing to hire the right personality and train them from scratch .Your personality and attitude towards your work is of the utmost importance to us.   Think you have what she is looking for, please email her your CV & Cover letter to karen@nakedcherry.co.za

 

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Fixing A Relationship

February 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Fixing a Relationship
I had an interesting thought recently.
You can’t fix a relationship.
You can change something in yourself.
You can become aware of your patterns, the things you do.
You can become aware of the impact of what you do.
You can become conscious of how you communicate, how you perceive things, the beliefs you hold and how they manifest.
Without this, all that we do in a relationship will not change.
We’ll keep bringing the same patterns to our space.
We may learn new things.
But we’ll go back to what we know, it’s like a default setting.
And we don’t have much choice in it.
The only thing we can do, the only way we can change anything in a relationship, the only way we can ‘fix’ anything, is to move something within ourselves.
This puts a very different perspective on relationships.
And it no longer makes it about ‘what they do’.
Obviously there are 2 people in a relationship.
And this perspective means taking responsibility for ourselves.
My relationship is my responsibility.
If I don’t heal my stuff, look at my patterns, words and actions, I can’t bring anything different to the space and what’s between us.
Therefore there can’t be a change.
The expectation that many people have is that something external can heal their relationship.
And, in truth, most people looking for healing are looking for some magic formula that’s going to do it for them, wave the wand, abracadabra, it’s done.
And much out there in the world promises that.
Some of it even delivers.
For a short time.
It can’t do anything else.
And we go back to where we were.
We have to.
But when something within us shifts, when we heal, when we release, when we become more aware of who we are, of what we do, of why, when our consciousness expands.
Then we change.
Then, and only then, what’s between us, can change.
I am my relationship.
I am my life.
I make choices from where I am, from what I know.
As I know more, my relationship can expand.
My life can expand.
This is a conscious choice.
And it’s not an easy choice.
It’s not rainbows and white doves.
It takes us into the depths of ourselves, who we are, what we’ve done, what we do.
And who we can be, what we can do.
It can take us to a space of incredible knowing.
It can take us to a space of deep sharing and communication.
It can take us to a space of exposed vulnerability, in a way that is powerful rather than weak.
It can take us beyond the veils of illusion to a space of greater truth.
It can take us to space of growing congruity between our inner and outer worlds.
It can take us to a space where our relationships, and by extension, our lives, are an endless journey, an adventure worthy of the power and strength of the highest we are.
And it can take us to a space of unfolding possibility, beyond what we can see now, beyond what we can conceive, to magnificence, to a knowing of love with a capital L.
Which is so far from what we thought it was…
CAPE TOWN
The sharing in Cape Town this week has been so deep, so exciting.
The Holding Space Experience, wow, beyond words.
We are so looking forward to Tantric Sensual Massage tomorrow. There are still places available for this journey into Conscious Sensual Touch. We have developed a way of touching as an expression of how you feel, going beyond technique into a space of sensation, feeling and pleasure that expands, grows, deepens…
This is followed by The Sacred Sexual Massage, an experience of such power. It includes Quiet Yoni and Lingam, finding the G-Spot, deep stimulation for higher states of pleasure and more.
We will be back in Cape Town for SEXPO, 7-9 March, with a full week of workshops the following week.
JO’BURG WORKSHOPS
THE ART of SEX, Tues 19 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.
SENSUAL MASSAGE, SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE, Sat 23 Feb, 11 am, couples only.

HOLDING SPACE, Tues 26 Feb, 7pm, singles and couples, R350/person.

A SPECIAL EVENING of EXPLORING SEXUALITY with Jonti and Lara, Thurs 28 Feb, 7:30 pm, Pharaohs Fantasy Club

We wish you so much pleasure
Jonti & Anne-Marie

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Woman, Know Thyself

September 24, 2012 in Sexual Health and Education

“The main headline, in my view? The new science has established a radically new insight: that there is such a strong brain-vagina connection in women that many of the neuroscientists whom I interviewed called it “a single system”. More remarkably, few of us know that when a woman has an orgasm – and, even before that, when she feels empowered to think about pleasurable sex, anticipate it, focus on how to get it, and feels in control of and knowledgeable enough about her body to know she can probably reach orgasm during sex – her brain gets a boost of the neurotransmitter dopamine. Then, in orgasm, opioids and oxytocin are also released. This experience does not just yield pleasure, a fact that is well known; it also yields specific states of mind.”

(Naomi Woolf – Vagina)

 

Woman, Know Thyself.

So many women experience a sexual awakening in their 30’s and 40’s that it’s mainly women of this age group Jonti & I deal with on a daily basis. Women whose neurotransmitters have awoken, and are experiencing new life on a sexual energy level. Many of these women also feel on a deep level that this experience is spiritual too, feeling a new awareness opening.

 

And so many of them feel horribly confused about what’s happening in their bodies, and what that could mean or change in their lives and relationships.

 

Because our world does not teach women what to do with this awakening, how to explore these energies consciously.

 

Not to mention very few spiritual or religious belief systems engage with a sexual awakening, or teach any practical methods on how to integrate this into mind, body and spirit.

 

The science is finally catching up, and teaching us how important orgasmic and sexual energy pleasure is for women, for health and chemical levels in our bodies.

 

The sad truth is, most women will still feel more comfortable taking a chemical produced in a factory, than letting the pleasure ability within her body naturally produce those chemicals.

 

And the question is, why?

 

How did we develop into a society where it’s more acceptable to take a pill, than learn how to open and fully utilize the natural and holistic pathways of pleasure in the body?

 

Tantric practice and massage techniques have been around for thousands of years. Long before antidepressants and libido enhancers.

 

Much of our sacred sexual bodywork (which does not mean sexual intercourse, but utilizing and building energies in the body) is often very challenging for those walking through our door to experience this. Those whose relationships and belief systems are steeped in a world where popping a pill is still more socially acceptable than having genital massage or bodywork done.

 

We have testimonial after testimonial that talks about how after a massage experience, or healing bodywork, women’s relationships are improved,  she’s having more fulfilling orgasms, more desire for sex, greater pleasure in eating, drinking, breathing, the lights are brighter, the world seems happier…

 

The world is changing. Physiotherapists are starting to walk down this path, realizing that internal massage, g-spot massage, Yoni massage and full body massages are essential to full body health, keeping energy flowing in the body.

 

It is also now becoming more widely accepted that sexual trauma cannot be talked out of the body, it also needs to be consciously and lovingly released with massage, it needs to be holistically approached. After all, we readily accept that you can’t talk away your backache, you’d go to a chiropractor, or have a sports massage.

 

We wouldn’t just talk about feeling full when we were hungry and hope that we’d feel fed would we?

 

Sexual awakening for women can often be a very traumatic thing. For a body hunger awakens that has very few known ways of being fed, and often those ways that are known can become destructive.

This is the danger period for unconscious sexual activity, anything that will feed this new hunger.

 

Many women even suppress this sexual awakening, deny it, because they have absolutely no idea what to DO with it.

 

Here’s the good news.

There’s a beautiful, gentle and safe way to open and explore this energy that can open you to this new phase, this new birth as a women.

 

Your beautiful awakening doesn’t need to be destructive. There are so many beautiful tantric practices and massages and healing techniques that can expand your sexual energy, your life-force, without chemicals, without guilt and fear, within your boundaries and safety levels.

 

When we touch you, or share with you, or teach you with love and consciousness, your awakening can be felt in your spirit and your sexuality.

 

We have so much to share with you in a way that respects your boundaries, and then afterwards is taken home with you into YOUR life, YOUR relationships, YOUR energy levels.

 

Whether we massage you and open your energy meridians.

Whether we show you on “Fred” and “Ginger” our latex models. Whether we talk you through processes to go home and try with your partner.

Whether we teach you how to be in an expanded orgasmic state on your own, or with a partner.

Whether we breathe with you, and guide you on energy techniques.

Whether we hear your tears, and listen to your sexual beliefs, and guide you on how to see things through pleasure and possibility, not pain.

Whether you decide to journey with us or not.

There’s a way, as a woman, to have your sexual awakening consciously, with boundaries, with pleasure, with respect.

 

The science is showing us as women that owe it to ourselves to honour, respect and pleasure our bodies!

 

This is the final frontier in consciousness, sexual energy consciousness, and we’d love to journey with you.

 

Come in and talk to us…

 

We wish you so much pleasure

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

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SEXPO is here!

Please come and visit our stand, have a chat, see the new DVD’s, we’re giving 4 talks a day, 2 Sensual Massage Demo’s and a Fifty Shades Sensual Bondage Demo.

Remember it’s at NASREC this year, starting on Thurs 27th.

 

Jo’burg Workshops

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

Contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

or: jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

Expanded Orgasm, Tues 9th Oct, 7pm, R350/person.

 

Sensual Play Evening for Couples, Thurs 11th Oct.

A fun and exciting evening of sensual fun and games, sensual food, body painting, some basic massage skills…

R800/couple, 7:30 pm.

 

Tantric Sensual and Erotic Massage, Sun 14th Oct.

A day of sensual delights, pleasure, connection and intimacy.

Step into the amazing and unique world of sensual massage, learn The Heart Touch, Bliss Body Massage, Energy Connection, Full-Body Creative Touch, Building The Sexual Fire and more…

Then we extend the pleasure into Sacred Sexual Massage.

The gifts of this include deep G-Spot stimulation, the A-Spot, heightened pleasure space for women, Quiet Lingam and Deep Energy Experience for men.

Sensual Massage begins at 12pm, R2000/couple, snacks included.

Sacred Sexual Massage at 5pm, R800/couple, R2400 for both.

 

Cape Town Workshops

 

We are really excited to be coming back to Cape Town.

This journey is so filled with magic, pleasure, growth, healing, connection and intimacy.

The workshops and experiences offer a safe space to explore, grow and expand the beauty and power of your magnificent self.

 

The workshops are at The Novalis Ubuntu Centre in Kenilworth.

We are offering Early Booking Discounts of 15%, as well as discounts for attending more than 1 workshop.

Please contact us for this info.

 

We will also be available for private sessions, healing and Tantric Body Experiences including Yoni Massage, Quiet Lingam etc.

 

We begin with a Free Talk on Mon 15th Oct.

We’ll talk about The Sexual Journey, what it involves, sexual healing, the possibilities of pleasure, what the workshops include, what happens on the workshops etc.

 

An Intro to Tantra, Tues 16th, 7pm, R350/person

Expanded Orgasm, Wed 17th, 7pm, R350/person

The Art of Sex, Thurs 18th, 7pm, R350/person

Conscious Self-Pleasuring, Mon 22nd, 7pm, R350/person

Awakening Your Inner Sexual Being, Tues 23rd, 7pm, R350/person

Fifty Shades of Pleasure, Wed 24th, 7pm, R350/person

Tantric Sensual Massage, Sat 27th, 11pm, R2000/couple

Sacred Sexual Massage, Sat 27th, 6pm, R800/couple, R2400 for both.

We are considering offering Taoist Sexual Energy massage as a workshop on Sun 28th as well, if bookings permit R2000 a couple.

For FAQ’s about workshops go to www.tantraevolution.com

 

The Importance of Tantric Massage for Women

July 13, 2012 in Sexual Health and Education

Some thoughts on the importance of Tantric Massage for women.

 

Tantric Massage can have an enormous impact. We’d like to share some of what we’ve learned over the years of sharing this experience.

 

First, let’s look at who has these experiences. Women who are single, women who are in relationship, women whose partner’s know they’re having the experience and women whose partner’s don’t, women who are comfortable with their bodies, women who have body issues, women who are sexually adventurous, women who are conservative, women who have orgasms, women who don’t, women who are curious, women who are lonely, women who are fulfilled and women who are not, women over 60…

 

This is always an important experience.

Of learning, of healing, of growth, of relaxation, of release, of pleasure, of spirituality, of connection, of love, of receiving…

 

Of receiving.

This is such an important aspect of the massage.

Of receiving.

With no conditions.

With no expectations.

 

You see, there is deep conditioning in many women that if someone does something sexual, gives pleasure, it has to be reciprocated.

And very often, pleasure is given with the expectation that something will be given in return.

 

This is a space for women simply to receive.

 

What this does is it creates safety.

The boundaries of the experience are clear.

And as soon as she knows this, knows that the experience is totally about her, she can let go into the feelings, the sensations, the pleasure…

This is such a simple concept, but as we say so often, the simplest has the greatest power.

We can’t emphasize this enough. You often actually see the body relax when this is explained, a release of tension and the excitement that goes with it.

This is just for me!

 

The second aspect of safety in a Tantric Massage space is about getting out of the goal, not having to perform.

One of the conditions of sex, more often out of ego than anything else, is the pressure to have an orgasm.

As soon as this is in the mix, whether it’s implied or stated, there’s pressure.

As soon as the pressure is there her body, her being can’t respond based on how it’s feeling.

She can’t enjoy the beauty of the massage, wherever it goes.

 

An understanding of female sexuality that looks only at orgasm as the criterion for success is definitely lacking.

Deep and heightened pleasure states, orgasmic energy states that move through the entire body and being, do not always include orgasm.

When the pressure to perform is off, she can have the fullest possible experience.

Whatever that may be.

 

This takes us to the next aspect of the importance of Tantric Massage.

Being touched by somebody who knows bodies, how to touch, who understands energy, the slow build of the feminine sexual fire, the journey that begins with relaxation, gradually opening the pleasure channels, building the pleasure, the secrets of the U-Spot, The G-Spot, the A-spot…

 

For a man to be comfortable with his partner having this experience requires a mind shift, adopting a different perspective on sexuality, pleasure and relationships.

When the boundaries of the experience are clear, when the purpose of the massage is explained, when the benefit of the pleasure or healing are seen, change is possible.

 

Tantric Massage, as we understand it, is an expression of love. It’s making love. Not what we’ve taken that to mean, not an act of penetration. But if we look at the term ‘making love’, it means just that, the massage makes love, allows you to feel loved, feel beautiful, feel the Goddess you are.

 

We invite you…

 

We’re looking for somebody to build a large yoni model for an exhibition, it can be made out of latex, foam, something light. Please contact us if you know someone who does this.

 

We are getting excited about being in Cape Town next week, sharing with you. Come on Mon 16th to the Free Talk, meet us, hear about The Sexual Journey, experiences we’ve shared, what the workshops involve etc. All bookings through Jonti, jontisearll@mweb.co.za, 083 7435 129.

Please bring cushions to sit on for all the evening workshops.

 

The pool we had for the Water Flow Massage has been withdrawn, it’s sad to see the fear that fills so many lives.

Please let us know if you know of any pool that may be possible.

We’re also looking for healing space for private sessions and massage experiences, private or in a centre. Please share your suggestions with us.

 

We’ve added something to the Expanded Orgasmic Wave workshop in Cape Town on Wed 18 July.

 

The possibility of experiencing the amazing pleasure.

The workshop will be complete, if you’d like to stay afterwards and have the experience, ask questions, get advice etc, this will be available. There’s no extra charge for this.

The workshop is for singles and couples.

 

 

We asked some of beloved clients who are based in Cape Town if they would be willing to help get the word out about the workshops from the 16th, and this was a testimonial email that we’d like to share with you as it is so beautiful..

 

“Hi Friends

 

I don’t normally send mailings of things out, but I wanted to share a really special opportunity for this month.

Some of you may have heard me share about Jonti and Anne-Marie from Tantra Evolution before, some of you not.

 

Either way this is a most amazing couple who are doing wonderful and engaging workshops in the area of sexual health, healing and growth.

For many of us, we don’t talk about the area of our sexual lives with anyone, or maybe with a partner and a few close people. So we never really get insights and understanding on how to ensure this area of our lives is absolutely terrific, all of the time.

 

I met Jonti and Anne-Marie over almost 2 years ago now, taking a lot of courage to go to one of their workshops on my own.

I had no idea what to expect. And thank goodness.

 

I was made to feel completely welcome, in such a safe environment, that it was easy to lose inhibitions and concerns over what others were thinking about me, my own fears etc to have a space to share, and really look at what stops and limits me and simply engage in an area of life that I had neglected and as such had neglected myself. Even in being in a relationship at the time, I was totally stuck.

I’ve met up with them a number of times and done more work with them since then, and each time there is a connection to myself that I can’t begin to tell you is extraordinary. What I’ve learnt is how much it gets to start with me and works outwards as I look at who I get to be with. I’ve also had the opportunity to get a whole lot of past complete, because like in any area, we make decisions and then live like that’s the truth and don’t go back to bringing nothing to create from. I have an inner confidence and self-assurance in the area of my sexuality and I now find myself to be self-expressed about what I want, and understanding and compassionate when being intimate. There’s a creative space now.

I couldn’t have asked for two more wonderful people to provide that access for me.

 

So if you are vaguely interested in exploring your sexuality at a deeper more conscious level, I highly recommend you attend one or more of their workshops.

IF you are in an intimate relationship it’s great to do this together, but going along as a single person is an equally transformational experience (oh, and there is space for all sexual orientations and preferences!)”

 

We wish you so much pleasure

Jonti and Anne-Marie

 

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Workshops & Events

 

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

Contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

or: jontisearll@mweb.co.za

Cape Town Workshop Programme

 

The Cape Town workshops will be at The Novalis Centre in Kenilworth.

We begin on Mon 16th July with a free talk on The Benefits of A Sexual Journey, 7pm, singles and couples

 

We’ll look at what these journey’s involve, the impact on your life, your relationship, work and friendships, what this offers singles and couples, what sexual healing is etc.

We’ll talk about the forthcoming  workshops, what they involve, how the experiences happen etc.

 

Tues 17 July: An Introduction to Tantra Evolution.

7pm R350 per person, for singles and couples

 

A gentle introduction to the principles of Tantra Evolution, our understanding of what Tantra is, how to incorporate Tantra into your life and relationships, how the principles of Evolutionary Tantra can help with sexual exploration, the difference between sex and sensuality, the connection between sex and spirituality.

 

The practical part of the workshop is gentle, clothed, the exercises can be done on your own or with a partner.

 

Wed 18 July: Expanded Orgasmic Wave.

7pm, R350 per person, singles and couples

This is a philosophy and technique that has amazing possibilities, which include how a woman can be in an orgasmic state for over an hour, even longer, how men can experience multiple orgasms and more.

This workshop gives you a new understanding of pleasure and includes some really important sexual ideas.

We begin with the difference between a ‘normal’ and Expanded Orgasm, the importance of getting out of the goal, sexual fears, how we’ve made sex about performance and the pressure this creates for men and women.

We look at how to make this experience happen for men and women, going step-by-step through the technique. This is demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, no nudity is involved.

As part of this we have a detailed discussion on genital anatomy, the truth of what’s where, how to find it and touch it, including the G-Spot.

The workshop includes a free copy of The Expanded Orgasm E-book, valued at R300.

 

Thurs 19 July: Sexual Skills.

(Subtitled: Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex But Never Asked….)

7pm, R350 per person, singles and couples

It’s very rare we get taught about being good lovers, which is one of the most important skills in life. Nobody teaches us about our bodies, about our partner’s bodies, about what to do, how to do…

It’s not often that we have a non-judgemental space to ask questions, get open and honest answers.

That’s what this workshop is about.

And you create it with your questions and the topics you’d like to talk about.

We usually begin with oral sex techniques for men and women, something everyone’s interested in, look at positions, fantasies…Anything you like.

At the moment there is a great interest in anal play so we look at anal stimulation, how to enjoy anal activities…

More people than ever are exploring their sexuality, we talk about this, exploring with others, how to talk about these topics etc.

This is a talk workshop for singles and couples.

 

Sat 21 July: Tantric Sensual Massage.

11am – 4pm R2000 per couple

Sensual Massage is an art that offers hours of pleasure, deep connection, amazing intimacy, healing, communication, exploration, play, excitement…

This is a practical workshop for couples.

We talk for an hour about creating the space, where to massage, what to massage with, communication etc.

Then we move into the experience, beginning with an understanding of energy, creating an intention, connecting and Energy Massage.

The format is that we demonstrate, then you and your partner have time to enjoy that with each other.

We progress into Bliss Body Massage, Heart Touch and move deeper into the Massage.

We have developed a unique way of touching that’s a creative expression of how you feel rather than being bound by a technique. This teaches you how to touch with your entire body and open doors to a journey of literally endless pleasure.

A powerful aspect of this is The Sexual Fire, you learn to build and spread this energy in the body for a heightened state of pleasure.

As physical as this massage is, it’s also an expression of energy, the beauty and power of sexual and sensual energy.

 

Sat 21 July, 6:30 pm: Sacred Sexual Massage.

R800 per couple

This is an expression of love, of worship, of honouring the beauty of the Yoni and Lingam, the spiritual expression of sexual energy.

The workshop includes extensive information about our genitals, including Deep G-Spot Stimulation, The A-Spot, Female Ejaculation, Deep Uterine Orgasms, Non-Ejaculatory Orgasms for Men and more.

There are two aspects to the workshop.

The first is Quiet Lingam, Welcoming Yoni. This is an extremely slow and gentle touch that moves waves of pleasure through the body in a state of deep relaxation. This experience gives a new dimension to pleasure that expands our understanding and possibilities.

The Sexual Fire allows you to take your partner to deep and heightened states of pleasure, the places we dream about.

This is a practical experience for couples. We demonstrate, you share the pleasure with each other.

 

Mon 23 July: Water Flow Massage

7pm R350 per person, singles and couples

This is an experience of deep sensuality that takes you to a place we rarely experience. Relaxation that melts the boundaries of your body. Swirling water that expands your consciousness. Touch that takes you to a place of sensual beauty. Safety that allows you to release into this.

 

In a heated pool surrounded by candlelight, you’ll be guided through this magical experience.

 

It’s in an indoor heated pool, not a hot tub or jacuzzi.

You may wear a costume.

It’s not a frenzied orgy.

It’s an experience of safety, honouring and respect.

It takes you to a place of healing, sensuality, release, beauty, touch, feeling, connection and love.

It is fun, exciting, and oh so so beautiful.

 

 

Tues 24 July: Conscious Self-Pleasuring.

7pm, R350 per person, singles and couples

Self-Pleasuring goes beyond masturbation, beyond playing with yourself.

This workshop gives you the tools to use your sexual energy in many ways. One of the principles of Eastern Sexual Energy practices is that our sexual energy is so powerful we can use it for more than ‘just sex’. We can use it for healing, for meditation, for manifestation, for creativity and more.

We go through the processes that show you how to build, access and move energy in different ways in your body.

These include movement, breath and sound.

We’re working with sexual energy, there’s no nudity, the workshop is for singles and couples.

The workshop is complete, and we’re adding an extension to the workshop that’s a practical experience of the energy.

This involves being guided through some of the self-pleasuring and energy while actively doing the techniques. Even though this is in a group, the lights are very low, you can keep your body covered.

 

Wed 25 July For Women Only Workshop.

7pm, R350 per person

An evening for women only, a space to talk freely, ask questions and share.

We look at issues such as: why faking it short circuits your pleasure process, sexpectations, sexual ego for men and women, sexual communication, sexual pressure on men, the things your man can’t tell you, whatever else you’d like to talk about…

 

Thurs 26 July: Your Sexual Matrix.

Accessing Your Inner Sexual World.

7pm, R350 per person, singles and couples

This is a journey into the power of your inner erotic landscape.

We talk about the difference between porn and eroticism, the messages of porn, sensuality, the impact they have on our lives, relationships and sexual expression, the power of fantasy, acceptable and taboo, how important context is etc.

We include looking at images, reading some erotic pieces and our reaction to them. This opens the door to getting in touch with your own creativity and writing a piece of erotic expression.

We spend this evening in a small bistro with some delicious coffee, liqueurs and desserts.

 

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