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Erotic Expression

August 5, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Erotic Expression

We all have, even those of who don’t admit it, won’t acknowledge or own it, an erotic nature.
For many of us, it’s deep, it’s wide, it’s open.
And when we allow it expression, it’s fun, it’s exciting and challenging.
It’s a source of growth, a place of learning, a tool for growth, and a stream of endless entertainment, to say nothing of the arousal.

For a long time it wasn’t admitted that women didn’t have a fantasy world or erotic life.
Nancy Friday gave a wonderful wake-up call and shocked many when she published ‘My Secret Garden’.
This was a collection of women’s sexual fantasies, published as she received them. They cover a wide, very wide range of topics, themes and possibilities.
And they showed that women have fantasies, erotic thoughts and desires. Oh yes indeed!
Recently we’ve been subjected to ’50 Shades’ and the flood that’s come from it.

All this has made it ok for us, men and women, to acknowledge the erotic side of life.
More than that, we can enjoy, explore, express, relish and savour this beautiful aspect of ourselves.
The wonders of technology have given us many outlets for erotic expression.

The word ‘erotic’ conjures up many images.
What’s erotic for me may be pornographic for you.
This is a big debate and discussion which we go into much more in the Awakening the Erotic Spirit Workshop.

Beyond the arousal and excitement, our erotic nature has a deeper aspect and purpose.
It becomes a guide to our inner worlds, to that which we keep hidden, that which we don’t acknowledge.
The aspects of erotica that attract us tell us things about ourselves.
And allow us to explore them.
This requires an awareness, a consciousness.
We need to look at what arouses us, see where it comes from, what does it mean, where can it take us, what can it reveal, what can it heal, what can it show us about ourselves, about each other?
Then it can give us opportunity for discussion, for sharing, for exploring.
This gives safety, a way to go to places we wouldn’t otherwise have a way to go.

Beyond that, beyond the deep and meaningful, is the fun and excitement.
The world of erotica can be a world of such beauty.
In images, the human body is simply a manifestation of this beauty. It’s endless expression and variety touches us deeply.
The portrayal in words and pictures of acts of love, of sensuality and pleasure can be enchanting, they touch us.

As we explore this world it allows us to share what excites us, doors of communication open, we open ourselves, deeply, we become vulnerable in our sharing, our revealing. New levels of intimacy become possible.

And in this we can start to release judgement.
We can own the fantasy and the desire, what turns us on, what interests us.
Some of this may be challenging to us, very challenging. For what arouses us may be beyond the boundaries of what we find acceptable. At first.
To accept it, we have to accept it ourselves.
We have to release our judgements.
As we do it in this space, this internal space, we can start to do that in other parts of our lives.
The more of ourselves we accept, acknowledge and own, the more healing happens, the more complete and whole we become.
In the internal world we can release the guilt and shame over that which arouses us.
We can release it in our lives.

There is great power in the erotic, great beauty.
And it’s a world available to all of us.

We have 2 exciting Erotic Spirit Events coming up.
The first is EROS, the South African Amateur Erotic Film Festival, with a 1st prize of R10 000.
The 2nd is a special evening, a workshop of awakening The Erotic Spirit. We’ve expanded this into a whole evening of exploration and fun.

Awakening The Erotic Spirit
Fri 23rd August
8pm
Pharaohs Fantasy Club

The Erotic Spirit is a deep, powerful and exciting part of all of us.
We present a special evening of discussion, exploration and experience.
We begin with a talk and discussion on what erotic is, the difference between porn and eroticism etc.
We extend this into a practical and fun exploration of elements of the erotic which include:

A Nude Dessert ‘Platter’
Vintage Erotic Movies from 1920
Audio Erotica
Body Painting and Body Decoration
Sensual Photography
Erotic Bondage
Delectable Liquers
More…

This special evening is open to singles and couples at R250/person.
Booking is essential.
After the workshop the facilities of Pharaohs are open.Erotic Expression

We all have, even those of who don’t admit it, won’t acknowledge or own it, an erotic nature.
For many of us, it’s deep, it’s wide, it’s open.
And when we allow it expression, it’s fun, it’s exciting and challenging.
It’s a source of growth, a place of learning, a tool for growth, and a stream of endless entertainment, to say nothing of the arousal.

For a long time it wasn’t admitted that women didn’t have a fantasy world or erotic life.
Nancy Friday gave a wonderful wake-up call and shocked many when she published ‘My Secret Garden’.
This was a collection of women’s sexual fantasies, published as she received them. They cover a wide, very wide range of topics, themes and possibilities.
And they showed that women have fantasies, erotic thoughts and desires. Oh yes indeed!
Recently we’ve been subjected to ’50 Shades’ and the flood that’s come from it.

All this has made it ok for us, men and women, to acknowledge the erotic side of life.
More than that, we can enjoy, explore, express, relish and savour this beautiful aspect of ourselves.
The wonders of technology have given us many outlets for erotic expression.

The word ‘erotic’ conjures up many images.
What’s erotic for me may be pornographic for you.
This is a big debate and discussion which we go into much more in the Awakening the Erotic Spirit Workshop.

Beyond the arousal and excitement, our erotic nature has a deeper aspect and purpose.
It becomes a guide to our inner worlds, to that which we keep hidden, that which we don’t acknowledge.
The aspects of erotica that attract us tell us things about ourselves.
And allow us to explore them.
This requires an awareness, a consciousness.
We need to look at what arouses us, see where it comes from, what does it mean, where can it take us, what can it reveal, what can it heal, what can it show us about ourselves, about each other?
Then it can give us opportunity for discussion, for sharing, for exploring.
This gives safety, a way to go to places we wouldn’t otherwise have a way to go.

Beyond that, beyond the deep and meaningful, is the fun and excitement.
The world of erotica can be a world of such beauty.
In images, the human body is simply a manifestation of this beauty. It’s endless expression and variety touches us deeply.
The portrayal in words and pictures of acts of love, of sensuality and pleasure can be enchanting, they touch us.

As we explore this world it allows us to share what excites us, doors of communication open, we open ourselves, deeply, we become vulnerable in our sharing, our revealing. New levels of intimacy become possible.

And in this we can start to release judgement.
We can own the fantasy and the desire, what turns us on, what interests us.
Some of this may be challenging to us, very challenging. For what arouses us may be beyond the boundaries of what we find acceptable. At first.
To accept it, we have to accept it ourselves.
We have to release our judgements.
As we do it in this space, this internal space, we can start to do that in other parts of our lives.
The more of ourselves we accept, acknowledge and own, the more healing happens, the more complete and whole we become.
In the internal world we can release the guilt and shame over that which arouses us.
We can release it in our lives.

There is great power in the erotic, great beauty.
And it’s a world available to all of us.

We have 2 exciting Erotic Spirit Events coming up.
The first is EROS, the South African Amateur Erotic Film Festival, with a 1st prize of R10 000.
The 2nd is a special evening, a workshop of awakening The Erotic Spirit. We’ve expanded this into a whole evening of exploration and fun.

Awakening The Erotic Spirit
Fri 23rd August
8pm
Pharaohs Fantasy Club

The Erotic Spirit is a deep, powerful and exciting part of all of us.
We present a special evening of discussion, exploration and experience.
We begin with a talk and discussion on what erotic is, the difference between porn and eroticism etc.
We extend this into a practical and fun exploration of elements of the erotic which include:

A Nude Dessert ‘Platter’
Vintage Erotic Movies from 1920
Audio Erotica
Body Painting and Body Decoration
Sensual Photography
Erotic Bondage
Delectable Liquers
More…

This special evening is open to singles and couples at R250/person.
Booking is essential.
After the workshop the facilities of Pharaohs are open.

To book: jontisearll@mweb.co.za or 083 743 5129

 

Don’t forget we are still running the special on the “Awakening The Goddess” DVD for R250 for our newsletter subscribers

 

And an exciting new workshop for women only on Tuesday 13th August, Sexual Mastery for Women…

Owning your power and sexuality as a woman is very liberating, and learning sexual skills gives you confidence in the pleasure space with your partner. This workshop teaches sexual & sensual skills, things to do with your hands, your mouth and your body to take your partner to different pleasure levels, and teaching you how to find pleasure in what you gift your partner in the sexual space. There’s no nudity, we learn on latex models with much fun and open discussion, a space where you can really learn some sexual truths and ask the questions about men’s pleasure you’ve always wanted to know…

R340 per woman, contact annemarieclulow@gmail.com to book

 

 

We wish you so much pleasure

With gentleness, light & laughter

Jonti & Annie

 

www.tantraevolution.com
www.kintsukuroigoddess.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com
www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

What The Healing Is

July 22, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

What The Healing Is

More than anything else, the healing journey, the growth journey, is learning about yourself.
Where you’ve come from, what you’ve done, what you’ve become, what your patterns are.
And what you can become, what the possibilities of life are.

We want love, we want to be loved.
So we do the things that are expected of us.
And in this we become somebody else.
We suppress many aspects of ourselves.
And so it goes…
The expectations of others, of groups, of communities, of societies are added on, piled on.

We become strangers from ourselves.
We’re separated from our hearts, from our souls, even from our bodies.
We become frustrated, irritated, aggressive, angry…
Our lives, our relationship, our world is a testament to this.

Some of us choose to do something different.
We’d like to wake up.
We choose to do some healing.

The more I do the work I do, the deeper we go into healing, into release, into growth, the more I see that healing is coming to know yourself.
As you greet the stranger in the mirror, as he or she reveals themselves to you, you see what you’ve done, who you’ve become.
There’s anger, guilt, frustration, tears, pain aplenty.
Then you go beyond that.
Healing becomes growth.
Limitation becomes possibility.
Contraction becomes expansion.

It becomes clear that you could like yourself, even love yourself.
And you could go beyond that, you could go to a place that acknowledges the divine within you, a place that you see your connection to others, to the world, to life, all life…
You see there is more that connects us than separates us.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that you don’t have to be who or what somebody else wants or needs you to be.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that you don’t have to be who or what somebody else expects you to be.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that you don’t have to sell your soul to be loved and accepted.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that you don’t have to fall into somebody else’s comfort zone.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that you don’t have to live within anybody else’s fears and limitations.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that the pain will end.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know how hard some of the choices for true happiness are.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that you can live in a world of possibilities.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that you can create a life of beauty.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know that you can be who you are.

As you get to know yourself, you get to know how strong you are.

The journey of healing using sexual energy as a vehicle brings you to yourself, deeply.
It takes you past the past, beyond the masks and veils.
Before I began working with sexuality, I practiced kinesiology and other healing methodologies. Over the past few weeks I have integrated these highly effective therapies into my work.
This greatly expands the healing possibilities we have to offer you.
Annie has also been learning in the field of Access Consciousness so that we may be of greater service to you.
This learning has also helped take massage to new heights of pleasure, release and relaxation.

The workshop on Thurs evening, Exploring Sexuality, is so important for those on a sexual journey.
So many people are looking to expand their sexual experiences, explore their fantasies, see what’s possible…
In a safe space, with a glass of wine and laughter we’ll discuss this exciting world of life and pleasure.
Opening the discussion with your partner is the first step, allow us to guide you.

Healing and Growth Journeys
The way these begin is that we meet and talk about what you’d like to do, heal, release, learn etc. Then we make a recommendation on a programme, tell you what it involves, cost etc.

Music Special

Annie has written and recorded the most awesome music for massage, making love and meditation. This is now available on CD for R100.
Postage R30. To order, contact annemarieclulow@gmail.com

Don’t forget we are still running the special on the “Awakening The Goddess” DVD, for more info visit:

www.kintsukuroigoddess.com

 

We wish you so much pleasure

With gentleness, light & laughter

Jonti & Annie

 

www.tantraevolution.com
www.kintsukuroigoddess.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com
www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

A Special Evening of Exploring Sexuality and Fantasy
with Lara and Jonti

Thurs 25th July
7:30 pm
Pharaohs Fantasy Club
R690/couple
Booking essential

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality and fantasies.
In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with each other and others.
The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…
We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.
After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.
If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.
This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.
The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.
We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

My Prayer For You

My prayer for you
Is that when you look in the mirror
When you see yourself
You see yourself through the eyes of God, with the eyes of the Goddess
Through these eyes you may see past the pain and failings
Past the judgements of yourself and others
Past the way the world sees you
Past the way you thought you looked
Through these eyes
These open wide eyes
These clear eyes
These eyes filled with light
You will see yourself as you are
You will see power and beauty
You will see love and strength
You will see wisdom and knowing

My prayer for you
Is that when you listen
You listen with the ears of God, you listen through the ears of the Goddess
Through these ears you will hear a different tale
You will hear that we are not the story of our pain
We are not the story of our mistakes
We are not the story of the hurt we have done
We are not the story of despair and hopelessness
Through these ears
Ears that listen to wind beneath the words
Ears that listen with patience
Ears that listen in silence
Ears that listen with acceptance
Ears that seek to understand
Ears that listen until the story has been told
Through these ears you will hear voices that long to share
Voices that yearn to be acknowledged
Voices that find peace in being heard

My prayer for you
Is that when you touch
You touch with the hand of God, you touch with hand of the Goddess
With this touch
There is only love
There is only healing
There is only comfort
There is only connection
This touch
This sacred reaching out to another
Is a prayer of the body
A prayer that flows through you
A moment allowing you to release yourself
To empty yourself
To dissolve yourself
And as you hold another
You hold them in the arms of God
You hold them in the arms of the Goddess
As you are held

My prayer for you
Is that when you speak
You speak with the voice of God, you speak the words of the Goddess
This voice speaks the language of the heart
This voice speaks in the tongue of the soul
This voice speaks with the resonance of life
The words of this voice are heard beyond ears
For this voice goes further than sound
This voice shares truth
And sings many songs
This voice laughs
This voice whispers and shouts its joy
To the world

My prayer for you
Is that your search
Is the search for oneness
Oneness with God, oneness with the Goddess
Oneness with life, with those who walk beside you
With the earth you walk upon
With the sky, the water, the fire
We see past that which separates us
For a thread runs through us
Weaves us into the web as we weave the web of our journey
And are again woven into the web of life
Body and soul
Travelling on the path home
Home to God, home to the Goddess
Home to ourselves.

 

The Tears of Orgasm

July 15, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

I’d like to share three stories with you.
Neither of these are isolated, in fact they’re pretty common.

As part of journey exploring their sexuality a couple had an Expanded Orgasm lesson. Full of excitement they went home to practice what they’d learned. They come back in a week or so very confused. He was giving her the gift of pleasure, it was an enormous experience for her, deep waves of pleasure moving through her body. Then came the confusing part. She started crying, sobs that came from nowhere, not connected to anything. To say he was confused is an understatement. How did she go from such pleasure to tears in a moment? What had he done, especially when she couldn’t tell him what she was crying about?

The second story also involves a woman, or women, as this happens a lot.
A woman comes for a Yoni massage, or it’s an experience that’s part of a healing journey. She experiences amazing pleasure, has an incredible orgasm, and lies on the futon crying, sobbing.

The third story is about a man, or men, as, once again, this happens often. In fact, so often with men.
He comes for a massage experience, or has a pleasure experience as part of a healing journey, and lies there, sobbing, gut-wrenching, quivering, shaking sobs.

They all think something’s wrong.
When nothing could be further from the truth.

When you are held with such love.
When you are honoured.
When your body is touched from the heart.
When you are filled with tenderness.
When pleasure overflows.
When your energy is open.
When there is a moment of deep safety.
When there is a moment of connection.
You release.
You let go.

And that is a moment of such beauty, such power, such humanness, such vulnerability.

The power of sexual energy, of pleasure, of orgasm is enormous.
And we can use it in so many ways. We can consciously direct sexual energy, transform and transmute it.
And we can allow the energy to take us, to sweep us away in a wave of sheer intense human beingness.
The power of pleasure opens us to being in the moment, to authenticity of expression that sweeps aside the masks we cover our real face with.

Often we see orgasm bring tears.
These are sacred tears, honest tears.
Tears released by pleasure well from deep inside of us. They take us deep into ourselves. And as we allow them to flow they heal us, they cleanse us, they free us.

Sometimes the tears are of pain.
A body filled with pleasure, a body open and vulnerable, a body filled with emotion just let’s go.
The orgasm is intense, so intense it unlocks doors we’ve long kept closed, tightly shut to keep the pain and anguish from the past hidden away.

Sometimes the tears are of love.
A body filled with pleasure, with love, with the shimmering frequency of vitality, filled to overflowing.
The orgasm opens the energy channels, they expand, we expand, and our outpouring is the energy in motion.

Sometimes the tears are of gratitude.
A body filled with pleasure, every aspect of this being touched, caressed, honoured.
The orgasm flows through you, around you, surrounds you and your tears give thanks.

Sometimes the tears are of transcendence.
A body filled with pleasure expands, dissolves it’s connection to the world, for a moment becomes spirit, essence.
The orgasm takes you beyond and your tears are of the knowing a moment of truth.

Sometimes the tears are of release.
A body filled with pleasure, the frequency is light, lighter.
The orgasm allows you to let go of that which holds you, that which you hold.
And your tears are the tears of freedom.

In the healing space you are wrapped in possibility.
The only connection is in the moment, the only attachment is to now, to experience, to allow yourself.
In this space, your tears, wherever they come from, are tears of beauty.
Exciting times we are living in, new work, new workshops, new massages, new DVD…
The Expanded Orgasm workshop on Tues night offers so much, so much information, a different perspective on pleasure, and the most amazing technique.
We have an incredible new massage for couples.
The very successful workshop on Exploring Sexuality and Fantasy is happening next week.
And Annie’s amazing Self-Pleasuring For Women DVD (Awakening The Goddess) is launched this week

This DVD guides women through Tantric and Taoist techniques to sensually and sexually pleasure themselves to become more orgasmic, increase libido and open sexual/creative energies. The DVD shows you step by step with real women demonstrating how to have expanded orgasmic experiences that can last over an hour in a woman’s body.

The DVD is on special to our subscribers for R250 (Normally R300) and can be ordered via email annemarieclulow@gmail.com

www.kintsukuroigoddess.com

 

We wish you so much pleasure

With gentleness, light & laughter

Jonti & Annie

 

www.tantraevolution.com
www.kintsukuroigoddess.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com
www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

Expanded Orgasm Workshop
Tues 16th, 7pm
R345/person
67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
This workshop opens a doorway to amazing sexual pleasure for men and women, as well as being accessible to experience on your own.
Amongst other things it teaches sexual communication, how a woman can be in an orgasmic state for over an hour, how men can be multi-orgasmic, how to use sexual energy for meditation and more.
This is for singles and couples.

A Special Evening of Exploring Sexuality and Fantasy
with Lara and Jonti

Thurs 25th July
7:30 pm
Pharaohs Fantasy Club
R690/couple
Booking essential

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality and fantasies.
In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with each other and others.
The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…
We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.
After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.
If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.
This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.
The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.
We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

 

For more information on these workshops, or to book, please go to www.tantraevolution.com

Or contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

FANTASY

I have a fantasy, she said
Tell me, he said
And I’ll tell you mine
They begin gently
She said, mmm, another woman
He nodded, two women, definitely
He said a blindfold, she nodded
She said a long piece of rope
She said somebody really big, hmmm
He said somebody really supple, she smiled
Tell me the details, she said, so I can understand
They felt the heat rise
Had to stop talking to…
Tell me more, he said
I’ve never before, she said
I love you, he said, tell me
You touching, mmm, another, mmm, well, a man
Her eyes shone with lust
He paused, nervous
I love you she said, want to know all of you
He said, a girl just reached puberty
They paused, looked into each others eyes, hearts
Saw love, excitement, acceptance
Opened the door to…
A public place
A camera
Others, one many, every combination
Roles, seduction, a whip
A whispered offering in a stranger’s ear
The unspeakables they’d hidden
And spoke more than ever
Feeling only love, excitement, desire
Freedom

 

Look Into The Mirror

July 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Look Into The Mirror

Look into the mirror
Of who you are
Look beyond your body
Look beyond your skin
Look beyond your eyes

Look at your pain
And know you are not your pain

Look at your anger
And know you are not your anger

Look at your shame
And know you are not your shame

Look at your guilt
And know you are not your guilt

There are times you are angry, and in pain, and guilty, and ashamed.
But that’s not who you are.
They’re just parts of you.
Not all of you.

Years ago I remember reading a book by Bernie Siegel, a cancer surgeon. He was one of the first doctors in that field to see the value of a holistic approach to healing and to include many alternate practices in his work.
He wrote about how we don’t heal because the illness, the disease, the condition we have becomes our definition. And without that we don’t know who we are.
So, for dear life, and sometimes at the cost of that life, we hold onto that.

Look into the mirror
Of who you are
Look beyond your body
Look beyond your skin
Look beyond your eyes

Look at your love
And know you are your love

Look at your joy
And know you are your joy

Look at your power
And know you are your power

Look at your pleasure
And know you are your pleasure

The more of these energies we allow in our lives, the more of these energies we become.
We heal, we grow, we change, we become more of who we are.
We don’t stop being angered by things, we don’t stop experiencing the guilt, the sadness, the loneliness, the shame.
But we see these for what they are.
And the more we do this, the more we own these feelings instead of them owning us.
We take back the power we’ve given to them.

So many of us live trapped in the echoes of the past.
The lives we live play out hurts, pain, limitations and contractions from long ago.
Some of these were real, some imagined.
But the victims are those who chose to live in that past, and colour the present with the hurt we felt then.
And so many of us cannot, will not, choose not, to move away from there.
We can’t imagine what being happy will look like, what living a life of power will feel like, what being authentic, present and alive will be like.
We don’t have to know.
But if we choose that, every day that unfolds shows us more of the picture. This is a puzzle we create. And it’s full of surprises. What we think the picture on the box is, often comes out to be something else. Something so beautiful, so breathtaking, we are left speechless.

Look into the mirror
Of who you are
Look beyond your body
Look beyond your skin
Look beyond your eyes

Look at your desire
And know you are your desire

Look at your strength
And know you are your strength

Look at your change
And know you are your change

Look at your truth
And know the life you live.

On this journey of healing, growth and transformation, we use sexual energy, the life force as a force for moving from where we are to where we’d like to be.
We use the joy of pleasure, the celebration of vitality to create the life we’d like, to come closer to the beings of power and creation we are, to live happier, richer lives, to see who we are, to live in possibility.
And to live with more, oh so much more pleasure.

There is so much happening at the moment, so much that is exciting, so much to offer you.
Both Annie and I are learning and developing new healing protocols to enhance and deepen the healing and growth process. This allows us to go much deeper with you and help you release and change the things you’d like, help you create the life you’d like to live.

 

And we have an exciting announcement!

The birth of Kintsukuroi Goddess, our woman to woman branch of Tantra Evolution.

Kintsukuroi Goddess will send out a newsletter once a month with events, workshops and specials that are just for women, if you’d like to subscribe, send an email to annemarieclulow@gmail.com and we’ll send you a 5 min exercise for increasing energy, vitality and raising sexual energy in a womans’ body.

The brand new website is www.kintsukuroigoddess.com

 

We are also branching out with our workshops

 

We have joined energies with Jodi and Chris Hill, facilitators of the Demartini work to create some powerful workshops for men, women and couples.

“Own and Love the Goddess on the 19th July (Woman Only)

“Taking Energy and Transmuting into Creation and Manifestation” 15th August

“Own and Love the Warrior” 21 August (Men Only)

“Utilizing my Sexual Energy to Maximize My Life” (Part 2 – Women Only)

 

There are a few places still available for “The Caress of The Passion Flower” this Thurs, 11th. It is simply a peak experience of pleasure for a woman. We’ll soon have dates for a similar experience for men.
We’ve changed the workshop on 16 July to Expanded Orgasm, an amazing and important experience on the sexual journey. This allows you to look at pleasure in a different way as well as giving you an incredible sexual skill for men and women. This is for singles and couples

 

 

For more information on these workshops, or to book, please go to www.tantraevolution.com

Or contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

 

We wish you so much pleasure

With gentleness, light & laughter

Jonti & Annie

 

www.tantraevolution.com
www.kintsukuroigoddess.com
www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com
(note ADULT content on following site)
www.sensualmassagetantraevolution.tumblr.com
www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Warrior Awakening

June 1, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Warrior Awakening

 

I’d like to share a moment from my week with you, a moment of beauty and power, a moment of realization, a moment of becoming. Many of the people who come and see us do so from the understanding that our sexual energy is a source of extreme power that can be used for healing and growth in every aspect of our lives.

This goes beyond purely sexual issues. Many of the people I’m working with at the moment are using this energy to clear the blockages and patterns of the past in order to make different life choices and to create lives of greater meaning, joy and fulfilment. Part of this journey for men and women is awakening the warrior within. Many of us have lost our connection to this energy, to what it means to live as a warrior, and how to manifest the power of this in our lives.

So I sat with a man on a journey. At the beginning of the journey we spoke about the importance of awakening this warrior within. Firstly, and most importantly for himself, and secondly for his relationship. He acknowledged that he had no real idea what this warrior is, who this warrior was. My reply was that it would awaken and unfold as we travelled on this journey of healing and growth. In a session this week he spoke about some of the things he had done differently, how, for the first time in so long, in fact so long that he couldn’t remember when he had done it before, he expressed himself, stating clearly what he wanted. This was in the context of giving himself a gift, and the extension, giving his partner support, in a way he’d never been ale to do before. I looked at him, I felt an amazing silence from the space, a silence that surrounds a moment of revelation, a silence that allows your soul to speak, and in this silence was the understanding that he had expressed an aspect of the warrior within. There were tears in his eyes at the acknowledgment of what he had done, and who he was becoming.

So, who is this warrior?

You step onto the path of healing and growth, the path that leaves the past behind, the path that fills you with the present, the path that leads to life fulfilment, you become a warrior of the heart, a warrior of spirit.

The warrior looks into the mirror.

The warrior looks deep into the mirror.

The warrior sees beyond the mists of illusion, and as hard as it is to look deeply into ourselves, the warriors gaze is firm, as the layers of who we’ve become fall away, more of who we truly are is revealed. In the acknowledgment of who we are, is the door of possibility to becoming the highest we are.

The warrior is in the rhythm of life, for the warrior knows when to stand firm, when to bend with the wind.

The warrior knows when there needs be silence, and when his words need ring out.

The warrior knows, yes the warrior knows, when the day for battle dawns, and when there is a day to yield.

The warrior knows that to go within, deep within, is to go into the heights of beyond, and the warrior knows that to be able to create a life, is balanced by the power to destroy.

The warrior is a state of being, a state of mind, a state of becoming, for this is the rhythm of life, the rhythm with which the warrior dances.

 

This is what the journey of conscious sexuality offers you

I am humbled and honoured to share this space with you.

 

As the understanding of Conscious Pleasure Energy expands more than ever, so we are able to share with you for the first time, the workshops in Cape Town this week, particularly the Sensual and Sacred Sexual Massage workshops on Saturday. We will share these understandings and techniques to allow you to experience heightened states of pleasure and directly experience your Conscious Pleasure Energy.

We will also share some of the principles of these in the free talk on Monday night in Cape Town, and Tuesday the 18th of June in a free talk on “Conscious Sexual Energy and its place in our lives”. in Johannesburg.

 

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

To Book:

Contact Jonti 083 743 5129

jontisearll@mweb.co.za

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

 

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

YouTube link:

http://youtu.be/oNOyabLqBIk

 

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

 

 

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

 

Jonti and Anne-Marie

 

www.tantraevolution.com

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

www.conscioustouch.tumblr.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

www.tantraevolution.tumblr.com

 

 

The Pleasure We Fear

May 20, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Last year at Sexpo we did a mild 50 Shades bondage demo. The women who offered to be models for this came from a wide range of backgrounds, relationships and sexual experiences.
As part of the preparation for the experience I asked all of them what scared them most about it.
They all said the same thing.
They were scared they were going to enjoy it.
As part of the healing journey with men it’s important that I share some bodywork experiences with them.
This creates a deep discomfort for them, particularly when it comes to some of the pleasure-based experiences.
There is a fear they’re going to enjoy it.
Many people are terrified of many of the pleasure experiences.
We’re scared we’re going to enjoy them.
We’re scared of our passion.
We’re scared of our vitality.
We’re scared of our pleasure.
We’re scared of the fire that rages within us.
We’re scared of going beyond what we believe.
We’re scared of revealing ourselves.
We’re scared of seeing deep into ourselves, and into others.
We’re scared of pleasure.
We’re scared of where it may take us.
We’re scared of its power.
Because we know its linked to our soul.
For generations, hundreds of years, we’ve lived with repression.
We’ve been taught that that’s the way to live.
That our power is in pushing our desires down, suppressing, repressing, hiding, darkening, judging…
And the more we do this, the more we separate from our soul.
For our soul, the soul that links us to God, The Goddess, Source, Spirit…
This soul is a soul of celebration, of joy, of creation, of happiness, of laughter, of shimmering beauty and the expression of every aspect, the manifestation in our lives of this energy.
Our world is a testimony to the mediocrity and the repression that that represents.
We see it in our lives, our relationships, our wars, our poverty, our leaders, our entertainment, lack of creativity, our art…
But this soul, this soul, this scared energy that dwells somewhere within us, around us, this soul longs for expression.
And when we allow this soul out it can turn our lives, our world upside down.
Because it brings up the question ‘Where is our love, where is our joy?’
We come face to face with this in a very real way. Not as an ethereal, quasi-spiritual shoowah question.
But in this reality we wake up in every day, this reality we are creating, co-creating.
There are many possible expressions of this joy and celebration in our lives, many ways for the soul to shine through, to show itself in our lives, to bring its vibration into the world.
We’ve chosen the path of sensuality, of sexual energy, of Conscious Pleasure.
We have to go beyond our fears for this.
We have to go beyond our judgements for this.
We have to go beyond our limitations for this.
We have to go to a place where our soul is.
And our bodies, designed in the image of, a representation of, are a doorway to the soul.
Sensuousness, Sensual Energy is a language of the soul.
I invite you to stop fearing your soul.
I invite you to stop fearing who you are.
I invite you to stop fearing pleasure.
It’s important to know this.
There’s a purpose to this pleasure.
There’s a purpose to this soul stuff.
Every time we allow an experience beyond our limitations.
Every time we push a boundary that allows us to see more, be more, feel more than the narrow vision we generally hold, every time we do this, we put something out into the world.
We put a possibility out.
We put an invitation out.
We put an actual energy out.
We change a frequency.
This makes it possible for somebody else to experience this.
Maybe not what exactly the experience we had.
But something that is pleasurable.
And pleasure has greater transformational power than anything other force.
And even if you have no belief or interest in the transformational power and possibility, just for a moment have a belief in your own soul.
And its desire to talk to you, to live in you, to live through you.
And allow yourself to live with less fear, more pleasure, more happiness, more joy, more love, more celebration…
One of the most gratifying things for me, and something I appreciate enormously, is hearing how many people enjoy these newsletters.
Thank you, you touch me.
The Vision Quest I did earlier this year initiated a time of personal healing for me, as well as a deeper understanding and learning. This has allowed the healing work, and workshops to go to new places of power. It is so beautiful to share this with you and see how we can change the things we’d like.
Sharing with is always special for me. Sexuality is the part of life that is generally scariest and most closed for men. I was invited to give a talk to a group of men this week, which began in the way most of the men’s gathering do. Almost everybody sitting with arms folded, legs crossed, stern-faced and silent.
Almost everybody thawed and we had a really good time.
More and more men, alone or with their partners, are coming to learn, heal and grow. These are the real men, the strong ones.
I am honoured to share with you.
So many people contact us about exploring aspects of their sexuality, fantasies, expanding what they do, having more excitement in their relationships and lives.
Having a framework for this, a way to open the communication and discussion, as well as some how-to knowledge can change these experiences from being scary and negative to expansion and a deepening of your relationship.
The workshop on Thurs night gives you these tools and more. It’s become one of the most important evenings we offer on the sexual journey.
A SPECIAL EVENING OF EXPLORING SEXUALITY WITH LARA AND JONTI, Thurs 23rd May
Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.
In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.
The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…
We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.
After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.
If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.
This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.
The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.
We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.
Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club
Time: 7:30 pm
Cost: R790/couple
HEALING SEXUALITY, Tues 28th May
What is sexual healing, where do our sexual problems come from, how do sexual energy blockages manifest, how can we change them, how can we use sexual energy for other purposes, how do we go from sexual healing to sexual growth…
The 2nd part of the evening is exploring and experiencing some aspects of sexual energy, giving you possibilities to continue this journey.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Venue: 67 6th St, Parkhurst
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
CONSCIOUS SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE SPECIAL
This is a peak experience on the sexual journey, on our life journey..
Slow, gentle strokes relax your body, you feel a warmth as we begin to build the sexual fire, flames of pleasure that move through your whole body to a peak of sensation…
For the month of May this massage is being offered at R600, usually R900.
The cheese has moved, the goalposts have shifted.
SEXPO in Durban has been postponed until next year so…
We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.
We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.
There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.
All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.
The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.
Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY
An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.
We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.
This is for singles and couples.
Please bring cushions to sit on.
Time: 7pm
Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY
Time: 7pm
Cost: R390/person
Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE
Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm
Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.
We wish you so much pleasure
Jonti and Anne-Marie
For more detailed information on workshops and FAQ’s please visit

Touch This Body

May 15, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

TOUCH THIS BODY

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

For this is sacred ground

Approach with reverence

As you look upon the beauty laid before you

Rest your hand with tenderness

And feel

Feel your heart

Feel your heart open

Feel your heart open to the flow

Feel your heart open to the flow of love

Feel your heart open to the flow of love from a place deep within you

A place beyond you

In a silent moment acknowledge the holy within you

And allow your hands to tell of this

For in this moment of connection you see the mirror

The sacred reflected within you, through you

And as you touch another, they know, deep within, they know

A place beyond mind, they know, even for a moment

That which dwells within them

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

Allow your hands to greet this skin, this heart, this mind, this being

Allow your hands to soothe the hurt, the pain it carries

Allow your hands to gently open it to receive the love offered

Allow your hands to be as a deep breath, a moment in, and the release, the relaxation

Allow your hands to tell of the beauty they feel

Allow your hands to slowly part the armour, to ease the mask away, to lighten the load it bears

Allow your hands to be the voice of that beyond you

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

Breathe

Feel the pleasure

Feel the pleasure within you

Feel the pleasure within you stir

Feel the pleasure within you stir and flow
Feel the pleasure within you stir and flow into your hands

Allow your hands to tell of that which breathes and lives and burns within you

Allow your hands to slowly kindle this fire

To give it life
Each stroke a warming, a flame added
A liquid heat, spreading, opening, expanding

The life force flows, fills, expands

The boundaries of this body melt

We go beyond our flesh

We see that this physical casing is merely a portal

Its blood, its nerves, its muscles serve to take us

Take us deeper, higher

And then they are no more as the wave of pleasure engulfs us, wraps us in sensation, in emotion, in a moment of being that lasts an eternity, takes us into the swirling space where the Divine dances

Slowly we return

Slowly we feel our breath

Slowly we feel the weight of being

Lighter now

For every visit to that Sacred Temple of Pleasure leaves its shimmering within us

Touch this body in prayer

Touch this body in worship

For this is sacred ground

 

In the world of Conscious Sexuality we regard certain touch and massage experiences as being acts of worship.
We use the words massage and touch simply because we have no others, but these experiences go way beyond the general understanding and experience of massage.

Going beyond even that I’d like to offer a different perspective and possibility with Conscious Sensual Touch, Conscious Pleasure Energy, Conscious Sexual Touch etc.

We’ll use the word massage because it’s the closest we have.

Generally we see the roles of giver and receiver being quite set in this space.
And generally there is way more pleasure for the person receiving the massage.

Let’s change something here.
There is a way of touching that is worshipping.
So the question is who is worshipping?
If I’m the person giving the massage, then it’s me.

And I can use that space, that touch as a way for it become a sacred experience, a spiritual experience, a meditation for me.

Of course there’s enormous benefit in this for the person receiving the massage.

And there’s so much for me.

When I enter the space in this way, with the intention of connecting with something higher, something beyond me, of allowing it to be transcendent for me, a shift happens.
 A deep shift in awareness.
 An opening of a space within me, an acknowledgement of the energy coming through me.
Where is this coming from?
Source, Spirit, The Universe, God, The Goddess…

I come to you to pray.
For that is the manifestation of the energy, the coming into being of the intention.
You, your body, your being becomes the altar, the recipient of my prayer.
I open myself, elevate myself, connect myself.
And in so doing, I am able to offer you more.
And the more I can be open, the more I can be vulnerable, the more I have to offer you.
My body, my hands become a vessel for this holy energy.
And as it flows through me, it touches me, heals me, calms me, relaxes me, arouses me.
As it flows through me to you.
This becomes a temple that we create, a space that we weave filled with love, with giving, receiving, sharing…

This brings up a beautifully different perspective on healing as well.
We generally heal to receive more.
Here, we heal to give more.
Releasing my pain, my blockages, my resistances, my withholds for the purpose of allowing more to flow through me.
And going beyond that to the knowing that the purpose of more flowing through me allows me to give more.
Which allows you to receive more.
And going beyond even that.
It allows me, in that space, to go deeper into myself.
To make my prayer, my meditation, my giving more.

And in the giving is the receiving.
Not in the way we mostly see that, that it’s good to give.
But there’s a sacred intention.
And I have to be open to receive before I can give, truly give.
Anybody can do massage, anybody can do healing.
This is becoming, becoming massage, becoming touch, becoming healing, becoming conscious, becoming awake, becoming aware, becoming connected, becoming love.

And the in the giving is the receiving.



There are so many exciting things coming up.
The free talks have been wonderful, we’re really looking forward to the next one.
The evening at Pharaohs on Exploring Sexuality was a great success, we’re doing it again.
There’s a good Sensual Massage Special Offer, and we’re coming to Cape Town.
I’ve recently started using some specially shaped supports during some of the Pleasure Massage Experiences. These have really expanded the depth of sensation, taking these massages to new levels.

Workshops & Events 

Booking for these workshops is essential. Discounts are available for attending more than one workshop

Contact Jonti: 083 743 5129

or: jontisearll@mweb.co.za

 

A SPECIAL EVENING OF EXPLORING SEXUALITY WITH LARA AND JONTI, Thurs 23rd May

Tantra Evolution and Pharaohs Fantasy Club are presenting a special evening for couples wishing to explore their sexuality.

In a safe space, with laughter and fun, we’re going to look at the truth of exploring sensuality, sexuality and eroticism with others.

The first part of the evening is a relaxed discussion. We’ll have a glass of wine, a snack…

We’ll talk about the possibilities, what these experiences may involve, creating safety, communication, exploring fantasies, what happens after, the difference between sensual and sexual experiences etc.

After this you’re welcome to leave, allow what we’ve spoken about to sink in, have a discussion with your partner.

If you’d to stay and begin a gentle exploration of the possibilities, we’re going to guide you through some gentle experiences.

This world can be very exciting. It can also be challenging and scary.

The experiences can add to your relationship or be destructive.

We’d like to help you make a conscious choice from a place of possibility not fear.

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R790/couple

 

HEALING SEXUALITY, Tues 28th May

What is sexual healing, where do our sexual problems come from, how do sexual energy blockages manifest, how can we change them, how can we use sexual energy for other purposes, how do we go from sexual healing to sexual growth…

The 2nd part of the evening is exploring and experiencing some aspects of sexual energy, giving you possibilities to continue this journey.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Venue: 67 6th St, Parkhurst

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

CONSCIOUS SEXUAL ENERGY MASSAGE SPECIAL

This is a peak experience on the sexual journey, on our life journey..

Slow, gentle strokes relax your body, you feel a warmth as we begin to build the sexual fire, flames of pleasure that move through your whole body to a peak of sensation…

For the month of May this massage is being offered at R600, usually R900.

 

The cheese has moved, the goalposts have shifted.

SEXPO in Durban has been postponed until next year so…

 

We will, with excitement, because we love being there, be in CAPE TOWN from 3rd June.

We’ll be sharing something new and exciting with you, as well as many new insights and expansion on all the technique workshops.

There are discounts available for attending more than 1 workshop.

All workshop bookings include a free copy of the amazing audio book Let’s Talk About Sex valued at R350.

The workshops will be at 41 Constantia Rd, Wynberg.

 

Mon 3rd June: A FREE TALK on CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY

An introduction to the principles of Conscious Sexuality, how to integrate sexuality fully into your life, what the sexual journey involves, what Tantra and Taoist Sexuality are.

We’ll also talk about the workshops coming up AND share some gentle sensual exercises.

This is for singles and couples.

Please bring cushions to sit on.

Time: 7pm

 

Tues 4th June: EXPANDED ORGASM

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Wed 5th June: THE ART OF SEX

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Thurs 6th June: HEALING SEXUALITY

Time: 7pm

Cost: R390/person

 

Sat 8th June: SENSUAL MASSAGE and SACRED SEXUAL MASSAGE

Time: Sensual Massage 12pm, Sacred Sexual Massage 6pm

Cost: Sensual Massage R2500, Sexual Massage R800, R2800 for both.

 

For more detailed information on workshops and FAQ’s please visit

www.tantraevolution.com

We wish you SO much pleasure!..

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

 

The Culture of Pleasure, The Language of Pleasure

April 14, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Culture of Pleasure, The Language of Pleasure

Over the past year we’ve had the privilege of working with people from many different backgrounds and cultures.
This covers a spectrum of religion, race, nation and belief.

The more time we spend with different people, the more we see the universality of connection.
And the principles of Conscious Sexuality are proving to be quite universal.
There’s also a language and culture that we all speak.
What’s closer to the truth is that we wish we were talking this language, wish we were immersed in this culture.

Two conversations I had this week with people we’re working with really brought this home to me.
And they were with very diverse people, one a black couple, the other a 60yr old woman on a beautiful journey of discovery and growth.

The first conversation revolved around the fact that so few cultures have pleasure as an integral part of their expression.
The second was about the language of pleasure.
We have very limited language to talk about pleasure, never mind to express the subtleties and nuances of different states of sensual delights and heightened sexuality.

First let’s look at what pleasure means.
Our context is that of sensuality and sexuality.
The extension of this, and the conversations I had, as well as many others over the years, is that the more we open ourselves to pleasure in this way, the more we open ourselves to pleasure in every aspect of our lives.

We live in a world where pain on so many levels pervades our being. It surrounds us, the media fills our space and senses with pain.
We also live in a world where we do so many things to dull us from feeling.
And as we dull the pain we dull the pleasure.
It’s not a semi-permeable that let’s somethings through and not others.
And as much as dulling our senses, we happily live in a world that encourages mediocrity and conformity.

If we’d like to open ourselves to greater pleasure we have to learn a new language, we have to be willing to adopt a new culture.
If you look at how much of the language we use is about limitation, about contraction, about
how something good can’t last, about how much of a good thing you can have…
This is not limited to sex.
This is for all of life.

For most of us, sex happens in a vacuum.
It’s not linked to any other aspect of our lives.
When we start to open to pleasure, we start to open to possibility.
First, our sexual pleasure increases, radically.
Opening to pleasure means just that, opening to pleasure. Not just to having an orgasm, but to pleasure.
We make a mind-shift.

And from this we start to drift into Socrates’ territory, the unexamined life is not worth living.
We look at what we want from life, from experiences, from relationships.
And we hopefully start to ask important questions, how much pleasure will we allow ourselves, give ourselves permission to have, and how happy are we willing to be?

These are dangerous questions.
They’ll challenge us, they’ll bring us face to face with ourselves, with the choices and decisions we’ve made, with who we’ve become, with what we’ve allowed into our lives.
If we’re willing to be honest.
And if we choose, consciously choose, we can start to change something, slowly, quickly…
We can allow for more pleasure, more happiness, more fun, more joy, more celebration.

Sexual Energy is a beautiful teacher of this new language, of this new culture.
It raises our energy, our vibration.
It makes us happier, we feel more alive, more creative, more connected, more open, more expansive, more attractive.
Some important words there.
More attractive. Not only in a physical sense, not only liking ourselves more, but more attractive to what life has to offer, to people, to experiences.
And if our attraction is filled with more of the shining radiance of pleasure, that’s what we will attract more of.
Then we’re more open to receive, and because we’re more expansive, the array of possibilities increase.

You see, it’s all about energy.
The more Conscious Pleasure Energy, (CPE), within you, the more CPE you put out, the more CPE you receive.
You raise your vibration, things shift.
Because our lives, our world, are but reflections of what’s within us.
As we change the language with which we talk to ourselves, we change the language of our lives, we change our culture.

We’d love to teach you some new words, help you have some new experiences, see a little more of the beautiful being you are.

The Sacred Sexual Massage evening was just SO beautiful. The intimacy and pleasure that everyone there experienced was an absolute gift. As one of the women said a few days later, ‘I never knew I was capable of such pleasure, never knew this stuff existed, thank you with a big fat kiss’. And to hear a man with a big smile say, ‘That was NICE!!!’.

We are getting excited about Tues night’s Free Talk, it’s always wonderful to meet and share with you.
This is a great way to find out a little of what we offer, how the healing and growth journey works, what happens on the workshops etc.
Annie has created a beautiful intro to this, we’ve put it on FB and YouTube:
http://youtu.be/J6eIcjhacQw

 

On Facebook:

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10151534567847590,
We wish you so much pleasure..

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Events & Workshops

Durban/PMB

At last some things are coming together for a few workshops in Natal later this month. There is a very good chance we will be there from 24th April.
If you live in the area and are interested in the workshops please send us a mail so we can let you know.
This will be confirmed in the next few days.

SEXPO is coming to Durban this year, 7-9 June.
We’ll have stand, do talks, have something new and exciting AND are doing yoni massage demo’s. If you’d like to be a model for this beautiful experience please let us know.

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Booking essential

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.
The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.
This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.
Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.
We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.
This is for singles and couples.

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst
Time: 7 pm
Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 4th May

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.
This practical experience is for couples.
We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.
We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.
It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

Time: 11 am
Venue: To be confirmed
Cost: R2500/couple

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Beyond Orgasm

April 8, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

Out beyond orgasm is a field of possibility.

This is space where there is no limit to emotion, to sensation, to feeling.

It’s a place of magic.

It’s a place where the essence of being swirls, where we can experience our true selves.

 

It’s out beyond orgasm.

To get there we have to go beyond orgasm.

 

For most of us, men much more so than women, this requires a BIG shift.

It’s one of the most important principles of Conscious Sexuality and has the key to so much.

Firstly it’s a path to expanded states of pleasure, then it’s a tool for accessing and using sexual energy for meditation, for healing, for growth, for self-exploration, for transformation, for higher states of consciousness and more.

 

Very often when we do yoni massage we deliberately don’t have the goal of orgasm in mind.

At first this is often confusing. You’ve come to have a yoni massage, to experience the pleasure, there’s all the expectation of this huge orgasm.

You can have orgasms, plenty. Annie has identified 13 different orgasms for women.

But there’s more.

So we suggest that you be willing to have a different experience.

To go beyond orgasm.

 

Now when men come to have a lingam or Taoist massage we suggest the same thing.

Allow yourself to experience something different, allow your sexual energy to expand, to take you some where you’ve never been before.

Because there are many different states of pleasure available to men.

And to experience these you need to go beyond orgasm.

 

Let’s look at why this is so difficult, and sometimes challenging an idea.

 

The first reason is that we’ve made the definition of successful sex orgasm.

The true definition of successful sex is pleasure.

And the paths of pleasure are many.

Next is the pattern, particularly for men. As a man every time you’ve had a sexual experience, from the time you started touching yourself, you’ve had an orgasm. So you think that’s the way it should be.

Then there’s the wonderful ego idea of ‘I have to make her come’. A wonderfully destructive belief that the media have helped along with gusto.

And then there’s the possibility that most of us just don’t know any different, we have no idea what else is out there, or how to access it.

And so we get stuck in orgasm being all there is.

 

If we’re willing to allow the idea in that there’s more we can open ourselves to worlds of pleasure, sensation, emotion and possibility so vast they probably are without limitation.

 

In pleasure terms, if we’re willing to go beyond the orgasm barrier, and it is often a barrier to these higher states, we open firstly our entire body to pleasure.

It simply has to happen.

Instead of feeling the sensations purely in our pelvis, they spread through the whole body, everywhere tingles, vibrates, oscillates, shouts, screams, sings with Oh Yes Yes Yes!

And just wants to stay there. And have more.

Which it can.

In this space we start to experience different kinds of pleasure, so much, subtle, gentle, overwhelming…it’s all there.

And it’s always different.

 

This gives us an understanding of sexual energy. Which we can only have through experience. We can talk about sexual energy forever. Until we’ve experienced it we have no idea of what it is.

 

As the energy moves through us we start to experience different things, different feelings, emotions, sensations…

It takes us places, physically, emotionally, sensually, spiritually…

We simply have to be there, to allow it.

 

If we choose to learn a little about this energy and its ways we can access it, direct it, guide it, allow it to guide us.

It opens worlds within worlds.

 

But first we have to be willing to go beyond orgasm…

 

 

Understanding the energy of going beyond orgasm is something we teach in many workshops. It’s an important aspect of the Sacred Sexual Massage workshop on Thurs night. This is a beautiful evening for couples, filled with intimacy and pleasure and techniques for going beyond.

 

 

 

As we continue to develop and explore healing and growth possibilities we add Mystical 8’s to our toolbox.

This is based on an ancient Tibetan energy pattern.

The experience is deeply relaxing, connected to old life patterns as well as enhancing our life energy and vitality.

 

We wish you so much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Durban

 

At last some things are coming together for a few workshops in Natal later this month. There is a very good chance we will be there from 24th April.

If you live in the area and are interested in the workshops please send us a mail so we can let you know.

This will be confirmed in the next few days.

 

SEXPO is coming to Durban this year, 7-9 June.

We’ll have stand, do talks, have something new and exciting AND are doing yoni massage demo’s. If you’d like to be a model for this beautiful experience please let us know.

 

 

Sacred Sexual Massage Workshop, Thurs 11th April.

 

This is an evening of deep pleasure, beautiful connection and love.

In a sensual setting we’ll learn, explore and experience some of the secrets of heightened pleasure states for men and women.

We’ll talk a little about creating a space, what the physical and emotional elements of this is, the Principles of Heart Touch, the possibilities of the experience.

The workshop includes information on the G-Spot, one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, the A-Spot, different orgasmic possibilities, Quiet Lingam for Men and more.

There will be demonstrations of these, then you’ll share the experience with your partner.

 

Venue: Pharaohs Fantasy Club

Time: 7:30 pm

Cost: R800/couple

 

A Free Talk on Conscious Sexuality, Tues 16th April

 

A talk on the Principles of Conscious Sexuality, how these have evolved and developed, Sexual Healing, the difference between Tantric and Taoist sexuality, what a sexual journey involves etc.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Booking essential

 

Expanded Orgasmic Wave, Tues 23rd April

 

This workshop offers an opportunity to view pleasure from a different perspective. You’ll also learn an amazing pleasure technique which allows a woman to be in an orgasmic state for over an hour and 5 experiences for men, including how to have orgasms without ejaculating.

The techniques are demonstrated on latex models of the genitals, there is no nudity.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes The Expanded Orgasm E-book valued at R300

 

The Art of Sex, Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask…, Tues 30th April

 

This is a fun evening looking at sexual how-to’s.

Oral techniques, positions, fetishes, anal, bondage… You ask the questions.

We’ll also share the incredible Love Dance as well as a beautiful Conscious Sexual Experience we’ve developed, Slow Union.

This is for singles and couples.

 

Venue: 67 6th St, cr 2nd Ave, Parkhurst

Time: 7 pm

Cost: R400/person, includes a Simple Pleasures DVD valued at R300

 

Conscious Sensual Massage, Sat 4th May

 

A journey deep into pleasure, connection, intimacy, love and energy.

This practical experience is for couples.

We talk about energy, touch, Heart Touch, the principles of Sensual Touch, building the Sexual Fire.

We move slowly and gently into the massage space with Energy Massage, Bliss Body Massage and then Full Body Sensual Massage. This is a creative way of touching that’s an expression of how you feel, rather than being based on technique.

It creates a space of intimacy between you and your partner that is filled with beauty and pleasure.

 

Time: 11 am

Venue: To be confirmed

Cost: R2500/couple

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

Anne-Marie is offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, until Saturday 13 April you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

www.tantraevolution.com

 

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The Illusion of Control

March 25, 2013 in Sexual Health and Education

The Illusion of Control

I woke during the night thinking about how much time and effort we spend on the things we cannot control. 

 

Trying to be good enough, giving enough so that our families, lovers, children, friends will love us.

Trying to be thin enough or sexy enough, or rich enough that they’ll be attracted to us.

Trying to have the things that make us happy, the job, the promotion, the sex life, the house, the car…

 

We are sold the illusion that we can control our emotions, that we can control our bodies, that we can control everything. Isn’t that disciplined of us? Isn’t that grown up of us?

And especially that we can control our sexuality.

Can we?

 

Of course we can. 

Within the confines of the illusion.

 

So, we pretend that when we are married that we are never attracted to anybody else. We start our diets on a Monday eating without limits over weekends. We ask for a happily ever after that’s a fairy tale, and we believe that we are in control.

 

But we are not.

Because life happens.

People die. Or get sick. Or fall in love with inappropriate people according to their families, or are attracted to people of their own gender, or someone lies to you or betrays you, or you stop having orgasms, or your erection fails, and life happens.

 

And this is not what you were told.

And your life becomes emotional, chaotic, painful.

 

And you feel as if you’ve lost control.

When actually it was never there to begin with.

You become vulnerable

 

Now, here’s what very few will tell you, for only those who’ve experienced this know the secret.

 

This is the time of your greatest power.

 

 

When Jonti first explained this concept to me, I didn’t completely agree with him! Until I really understood that this is the time when it’s possible to see that it’s about choice, not control. Because this is the time when you are at your most vulnerable.

What do you have a choice about?

You have a choice about how you choose to respond.

That is ALWAYS your choice.

 

You may not choose the pain.

You may not choose the overwhelming emotions.

You may not choose the anger.

You may believe these emotions are “bad” because of how lousy you feel.

 

Yet, you still have the most powerful choice.

You choose how to respond.

In that conscious choice lies freedom and power.

 

Most of us don’t choose consciously.  We just react, instantly. Our patterning kicks in. 

 

Someone hurts us, we hurt them back

Someone offends us, we react angrily.

Someone betrays us, oh, we plan revenge…

This is just our patterning.

 

Yet we can change that, do that differently. Patterns are controlled, rigid, unyielding, the same.

Choice is fluid, changing, aware of options, of possibility.

 

Two of our clients recently wrote about this process for them, of making different choices within vulnerability…

 

I let waves of emotion wash over me allowing me to connect with my sense of self, my feminine energy. I feel released – like something inside me has changed .It has taken me a long time to allow myself to be vulnerable- it is not an easy thing for me to do, but yesterday I felt very vulnerable and yet it was powerful at the same time.”

 

“I cried that night because after all these energy centres opening up, I desired so much touch and intimacy and came to the conclusion that I have denied myself love and pleasure through choosing to be in long distance relationships. I felt that, that was a break through for me. This all happened for me on the night after I saw you.

 

Change is happening in my body, it is deeply spiritual.”

 

So many of our clients come to us because they’re  in pain.

 Emotional pain, physical pain, sexual pain, heartache.

 

You can walk into a new awareness, a new consciousness, when you realize that what you think you control, you do not. You let go.

 

And this is your freedom.

This becomes the furnace for your Phoenix.

This does not mean you throw it all away because you cannot control it.

This means you make different choices, have more options on how you can respond to what life unfolds for you.

Not just a patterned reaction.

An aware, conscious choice, with benefit to you, centered on filling your life with bliss, joy, love and pleasure, so much that you overflow that into those around you.

 

Control is the illusion.

Choice on response is the reality.

Pleasure has a higher frequency, a more beneficial body response than pain. Can we learn to have more pleasure? Oh yes!

The choice however, is yours.

 

With gentleness, light and laughter

We wish you SO much pleasure…

Jonti & Anne-Marie

 

Woman to Woman Yoni Massage

For one month Anne-Marie will be offering a special on woman to woman Yoni Massage. A beautiful, sensual and sometimes quite emotional experience, sharing this experience with all feminine energy is a very new experience for most women.

Yoni Massage often opens up pleasure possibilities for woman including the possibilities of internal orgasm, becoming more clitorally orgasmic and deep uterine (A-Spot) pleasure.

The massage is about pleasure, moving that energy deep within the Yoni and spreading that into the entire body.

 

The massage is usually R850, for one month you can book this massage with Anne-Marie for R500.

For more details or to book:

annemarieclulow@gmail.com

 

We are planning on putting our new workshop schedule together this week, and will have dates for some massage workshops soon.

 

www.tantraevolution.com

 

www.tantraevolution.wordpress.com

(note ADULT content on following site)

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